Here we go again!

Posted on: Thu, 09/06/2007 - 11:37pm
darthmom's picture
Joined: 08/18/2007 - 09:00

Some of you may remember the hard time I had with my DD last school year ([url][/url]). I have to post under a different name b/c I know she reads these boards for PA info.

Anyway, here it is Day 2 and she didn't want to go to school. I lost it this morning. I told her I'm not going through this the next 179 days. I said this is a new year and we HAVE to make the best of it. Of course, we were late but only by about 5 minutes or so. I think they are letting it slide the first couple of days.

She's complaining about her classes, her teachers, and how she wants to be homeschooled. I'm not knocking homeschooling. For [i]us[/i], it just doesn't work. I don't have the patience for it and I think by the time I got educated on it, she'd be in HS. Even if we changed schools, it would still be new classes, new teachers and kids she doesn't know in them. I told her we HAVE to make this work. Go into school with an open mind and say "I can do this" and before long, the day will be over and she'll be home. I'm running out of ideas.

I'm glad its the weekend and we can hopefully start fresh on Monday. I have to take it one day at a time.

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 12:57am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I am not familiar with last year's post, sorry....but wanted to lend a shoulder to lean on. I am sorry your daughter is stuggling, seems all the kiddos are here(some more then others). I am with you on the *take it one day at a time*....really that's all you can do, make each day a new focus, a new start.....
Have you gotten involved with the school counselor's at all(if they have any)?? My son is just 1st grade, but I can see a bumpy road ahead of us(he's already broken down at night becaus eof school issues). I plan to get the counselor involved(they are only there a couple days a week) but if I do it early enough, hopefully he'll have someone *at school* he can confide in when it's tough.
I wish you luck, hopefully others will post some great tips or ideas(I'm lacking, sorry about that)....HUGS to you and your daughter
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 1/2(beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig, hamster & asthma)
Jake-6 1/2(peanut, all tree nuts, all seeds(sesame, sunflower, poppy, pine nut) beef, chicken, eggs, coconut, green beans/all beans, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-4 (peanut, tree nuts, milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig, hamster, grass, mold, dust mite and EE)
Savannah-1 1/2 (milk, beef and egg, dog(avoiding peanuts, tree nuts, strawberries, seeds, legumes and corn)

Posted on: Tue, 09/11/2007 - 11:36pm
darthmom's picture
Joined: 08/18/2007 - 09:00

Well, its day 5 and I'm already wishing for the end of the school year! Each morning has been a struggle with my DD. Today, she was dragging her butt and was close to an hour late. She said I don't believe her that she doesn't feel good (headache, stomache, throat hurts) same as last year only this year she has no tonsils, so I don't know what to think.
So, here I am feeling guilty for sending a sick child, if indeed she is sick, to school all upset. Oh, I wish it were summer again, relaxed and carefree, and I saw that happy faced child I had just a few weeks ago.

Posted on: Wed, 09/12/2007 - 3:41am
PinkPoodle's picture
Joined: 06/12/2007 - 09:00

Big Hugs to you, Darthmom! I know it is horrendous starting your mornings struggling with your child to go to school. I sort of think I remember the trouble you had last year. Is the guidance counselor willing to help? Capable of help?
My 1st grader had a very difficult time for the 1st week of school. She was miserable and like a totally different child. I found a psychotherapist (about 45 minutes from our house) who specializes in anxiety related to medical disorders, specifically, food allergies, asthma, and diabetes. I have the name and number and I'm keeping it handy [img][/img]
If this has been going on for over a year, then I would definitely search for a child therapist to meet with your daughter and your family. I can't remember if you've already done that...sorry.
School anxiety is not uncommon and I'm sure you'll be able to find someone close by. I just wanted DD to see someone who also clearly understood her medical issues and where her fear was coming from (she was specifically afraid she would have an allergic reaction at school).
I hope things improve soon. I would call and schedule the appointment with a therapist now---cancel it if things dramatically improve while you are waiting to get in for that appointment.
Take care!

Posted on: Wed, 09/12/2007 - 4:41am
Sue's picture
Joined: 02/13/1999 - 09:00

My youngest daughter went through basically the same thing in first grade. She had no problems or issues about going to school the year before,in kinder.
I tried to work with the school - teacher was great - the school principal and school counselor just added to the problem.
After about four weeks of using the schools "professional" recommendations of "sorry kid - tough it out", I took her to a psychiatrist.
He was great and really understood - she was dealing with seperation Anxiety - she liked school, she just feared leaving home. He put her on 1/2 days at school for a couple of days and then we added 1 hour a day to her school days until she was back at full days - he, also, prescribed a medication for her anxiety - which she only needed for about 30 days. Well, second and third grade went great.
Then .... Guess what happened this year in 4th? Yep, the same thing - 3 days into the school year, I got that doctor on the phone - we went for a visit! After 3 days on the meds she was out the door and running to the bus as she threw me a kiss. It has been three weeks now and she is doing great!
the following brief article might help you .... or not [img][/img]
Sue in Sunny Arizona
What to Do When Your Child Refuses to Go to School
What is school refusal?
Children with school refusal are scared to go to school. They may be so scared that they won't leave the house. School refusal is most common in 5- and 6-year-olds and in 10- and 11-year-olds, but it can start at any age. The problem might start after a child has been home for awhile, such as after a holiday, summer vacation, or brief illness. It also might happen after a stressful event, such as moving to a new house or the death of a pet or relative.
Children who won't go to school often say they feel sick. They might wake up and say they have a headache, stomachache, or sore throat. If they stay home from school, the "illness" might go away, but it comes back the next morning before school. Some children may have crying spells or temper tantrums.
What other problems are children with school refusal likely to have?
Children with school refusal may worry about the safety of their parents or themselves. They may not want to be in a room by themselves, and they may be scared of the dark. They also may have trouble falling asleep by themselves and might have nightmares.
What should I do if my child refuses to go to school?
Take your child to the doctor. Anxiety or a physical illness might be causing the problem. You also should talk to your child's teacher or school counselor.
How will I know if my child is really sick?
Your child's doctor will be able to rule out any illness that may be causing the problem.
How is school refusal treated?
Unreasonable fears about leaving home can be treated. Your child's doctor may want your child to talk to a psychologist, social worker, or child psychiatrist.
The doctor also might prescribe medicine to help with your child's anxiety.
The longer your child stays out of school, the harder it will be to return. The goal of treatment is to help your child learn ways to reduce anxiety and return to school.
Early treatment of this problem is important for your child's well-being.

Posted on: Wed, 09/12/2007 - 6:03am
gvmom's picture
Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

Had this problem with both my boys this year so far. I have a few suggestions.
While the edit is gone, email me if you'd like.

Posted on: Tue, 12/29/2009 - 10:21am
jsndsplus3's picture
Joined: 11/30/2009 - 17:44

I have a 10 month old who just had skin test for PA, TNA, and Egg. I'm not sure how accurate it really was though b/c he was sitting on my lap not flat. It really wasn't as bad as I thought it might be. He cried for just a few minutes and that was it. I was surprised how "easy" it all went. I wish you the best.

Posted on: Fri, 01/01/2010 - 6:53am
BestAllergySites's picture
Joined: 03/15/2009 - 21:46

Michal's Mom--I am so sorry to hear of your horrible experience. I am so glad that everything is okay now and you were able to receive quick treatment.
I'm not sure what your allergist will do as far as testing. Testing is difficult at this age not only because of the child's inability to sit still but also because of false positives etc. Your child is young and has not started solid foods fully yet therefore testing might not be 100% conclusive. Typically to develop a reaction, you have to have consumed the food before. Reactions develop on 2nd or after exposures. If you breast fed--then there may be exposure there.
Let us know what happens and whether they do testing or not.

Posted on: Fri, 01/01/2010 - 11:15am
MICHAELS MOM's picture
Joined: 09/23/2006 - 09:00

That's the really odd part to me. Connor has obviously never eaten shrimp. I did nurse him, but I haven't had shrimp or any type of shellfish in oh, say, 30 years! It's never even been in our home. Can second exposure happen within hours? This was the 1st time he was exposed to it, but it was out at lunchtime, put away, and brought back out at dinner time. I know these are questions for the allergist, but the progression of his symptoms was terrifing- even the EMT said, "OK I can breathe now" after treating him for 20 minutes and finally seeing some improvement...

Posted on: Fri, 01/01/2010 - 12:23pm
Septemberrayne's picture
Joined: 12/25/2009 - 13:32

My daughter had her first skin test around 4 months of age.
And still gets allergy tests... and never sits still.
I guess it is up to the Dr. on if they will.
I hope you can figure it out for your peace. I can not imagine what that felt like.

Posted on: Fri, 01/01/2010 - 12:28pm
momofda's picture
Joined: 12/22/2009 - 15:41

I'm so glad he's scary for all of you. My 4 year old has severe peanut allergies and I just had a baby 6 weeks ago. I was part of an experiment where pregnant mothers who have children with peanut allergies, do not ingest any peanuts while pregnant. Then when the baby is 6 months old, they are going to test her, so I believe it is possible to test early, but yes, getting them to sit still is another issue. Let us know what you find out...good luck!


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