Tell me if you would be mad

Posted on: Wed, 03/05/2008 - 11:14pm
nonutsforus's picture
Joined: 03/28/2002 - 09:00

Another Chic-fil-story, I know, but here goes.
Yesterday my daughter came home from school and presented me with a Chic-fil-a box from her book bag. I guess they had a rep from Chic-fil-a at the school for a presentation and he handed out these samples. The school put 80 students in one classroom for this presentation, which basically means they were packed in there like sardines. After the guy was done talking he handed out sample boxes to each kid. On they box it clearly says made with peanut oil. They allowed these kids to eat the chicken in the room and then offered a sample to my dd who thankfully has the intelligence to turn down food without a label of ingredients on it. Noone washed their hands. They did not bother to ket me know, even though I was at the school most of the day volunteering. I am basically disgusted that noone at the school thought it would be a good idea to make sure that my dd could attend a presentation that involved food. I know some people feel comfortable eating the refined oil at Chic-fil-a but I am not one of them. I guess I wonder if I am over-reacting or if I have a right to be upset that they put my PA child in such close quarters with all these kids eating a subsatnce that is known to cause her great harm? Tell me what you all think, please.

Posted on: Thu, 03/06/2008 - 12:45am
SkyMom's picture
Joined: 10/27/2001 - 09:00

nonutsforus, I have to agree with your feelings. This would make me mad as well. I think that there is a complete disregard for your dd's safety. Who is making that call that refined oil is safe for your dd? As you have said, it is not you. My secondary concern would be that they allowed a product that was labelled with an ingredient containing peanut! I do not believe that the school is more informed of fa than you and this is a dangerous practise that could become the norm if not addressed asap. Hope everything works out for your dd's future safety.

Posted on: Thu, 03/06/2008 - 1:57am
niche's picture
Joined: 02/05/2007 - 09:00

I would be over the top so furious. Really I would flip out. What they heck are they thinking? I would be calling the principle asap.
Even if I didn't have a FA kid I would be somewhat angry. It is up to me to decide what my kid eats not the school. And was that really healthy for any kid - ah NO.

Posted on: Thu, 03/06/2008 - 3:23am
CorinneM1's picture
Joined: 06/20/2002 - 09:00

I would be ticked off. May I suggest a suggestion however? Do not tell the school that they should not have had a presentor come in from Chick-fil-A (although...exactly what was he presenting to the kids makes me a little curious--please follow up and let us know *why* he was there?). If the school wants to have reps come in an present to the children information on their company or product they should hand out coupons to the students to redeem a sample or freebie. Especially when it relates to food.
Was this person a father coming in to do a show and tell?

Posted on: Thu, 03/06/2008 - 4:42pm
nonutsforus's picture
Joined: 03/28/2002 - 09:00

ok - thanks for everyone's response!
To followup...the principal did call me after she got wind apparently that I was furious. She tried to act like "oh my - this is terrible - and I am so shocked" I let her ramble for a minute and then I told her that it was nice of her to apologize but that it really didn't mean s@$t to me. I politely explained that I would rather she spend her energy fixing this problem so that it never happens again to any allergic kid at the school, not just my daughter. She assured me that they are addressing it and that in the future anything that would involve contact with food during school hours would be checked with me first. Am I supposed to really believe her? ( Especially when she followed it with the statement that "of course - things happen and we may not be able to foresee every issue".)
I explained to her that she should offer a brush up course in reading to her staff since there was a very clear statement on all sides of the sample box of chicken that said the product was made with peanut oil and that at the very least they should have been able to help my daughter determine that she could not have it instead of guessing and shrugging their shoulders like "oh well- she just won't eat it" and then having all the other children eat it around her while she scratched her arms almost raw from the reaction she was starting to have. Grrrr...I can tell I am starting to get worked up again about the whole thing so I will jsut stop.
Anyways, to answer your last question on why this gentleman was he is NOT a parent. The principal said he was there as a "fun extra for the kids, since they were finishing their study of economics". He did give out coupons also.

Posted on: Fri, 03/07/2008 - 12:51am
MommyOfTwo's picture
Joined: 11/08/2007 - 09:44

WOW! I would be hopping mad too! So many stories on here are making me a bit scared for when my DS goes to school! I do see things at my oldests PreK that they do that I KNOW my youngest wouldn't be able to do. They too had Chik-fa-la come to their preK class and give a presentation, then all their school fundraisers are at there. Unfortunately we can't go and I feel bad for not being able to let my oldest participate but I don't have anyone to watch my pa DS to go with him.
I would think perhaps a meeting needs to happen or perhaps at the next faculty meeting you can attend and give at the very least give a few minutes of what it means to have an allergy, things that need to be watched out for, etc.....Anything to make them more AWARE, because apparently they are not aware at all!
So sorry this happened!

Posted on: Fri, 03/07/2008 - 7:23am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Yea I would be very mad too! Do you have a 504? If it states in their no peanut products around your child, that is even worse. I would have done the same thing too. It is a good thing that your child is educated and knows what she can and cannot have. I know that my son is more educated about his food allergies than the idiots at his school. If he wasn't, I would hate to think about what might have happen.
You did the right thing. We have to stand up for our children. If we don't no one else will. I have said it before, and I will say it again, you can't fix stupid!
By the way, you should document everything that happens. Write it down in a note book or type it up somewhere. Put a date on it and keep up with it.

Posted on: Sat, 03/08/2008 - 12:52am
nonutsforus's picture
Joined: 03/28/2002 - 09:00

Thanks everyone for your responses. Unfortunately, the situation has declined since my previous post. Yesterday I got a call from my daughter at 2pm asking if she could have the pizza that was being served in the room at that moment. Of course she could not bc the school had chosen where to order it from and had picked a place that uses peanut oil in all their cooking. Nevermind that I had sent a note that morning asking the teacher to let me know if they were having a pizza party so we could discuss where it was coming from. of course she never called to talk to me about it. When I called to talk to the principal her response was "well who would have thought that pizza could be a problem". I reminded her that was what she had said about the chicken, and told her at the very least she could go down and be sure the kids cleaned their hands and desks after eating and apologize to my dd for being so thoughtless. I don't know what to do with these people! I then called the school nurse who is kindof my goto person to get things done. She says she will take care of it Monday, put something in writing and then call me back. I swear my blood pressure was so high yesterday that I thought I was going to have a stroke. Any thoughts?

Posted on: Sat, 03/08/2008 - 6:49am
Lindensmom's picture
Joined: 09/21/2007 - 09:00

I'm outraged on your behalf for PA reasons, but on top of that, isn't chikfilaa fast food? Why are they having people come into the school to push junk food on children? I'm vegetarian so we never went there even prior to PA, but am I wrong? If McDonalds came to our school and handed out chicken nuggets for "educational purposes" I would be FURIOUS even beyond PA issues! I'm prepared to accept the occasional party with junk food (with safety perameters in place for your child, of course) but it sounds like this was a completely diff context. You may be able to get the PTA on your side just re junk food as an educational theme. Do you have a 504?

Posted on: Sun, 03/09/2008 - 1:58am
Krusty Krab's picture
Joined: 04/20/2007 - 09:00

I think you're right to be mad. They are continually providing an unsafe environment for your child, despite clear instruction from you. Has your child's allergist ever weighed in?Do you have a 504 plan for your child?
I would be certain to document these events and exactly what you have said, to whom, and their replies. Keep this information handly.

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