talk about your irony.....

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 2:00pm
joeybeth's picture
Joined: 09/01/2006 - 09:00

how ironic. tonight was the celebration at school for the young author winners for the 4th, 5th, and 6th graders in our town. my daughter wrote her winning 5th grade story about her peanut allergy and how it's affected her life. (kind of a history of how she has evolved into accepting and embracing the PA way of life with some humor and insight added here and there). anyhow; we knew there would be either cake or cookies and she had not planned on being able to eat anything. they had drinks though, which she did hope to enjoy. after getting over the disappointment of not getting to have cake, (which she knew she wouldn't - she just still likes to hope a little every time and then act disappointed to make me feel guilty for denying it to her....), she asked me to get her a drink. as i went up to get a cup that had already been prepared, i noticed the two big bowls of shelled peanuts on the table with the drinks, alongside the two very large bakery cakes.

oh drinks either. who knows which adults pouring the drinks and scooping out the ice had been casually eating handfuls of peanuts during the event.

i just thought it was ironic. she wrote a winning story about peanut allergy and found the celebration dampened not only by "may contains" (which we are used to by big deal at all), but by bowls of peanuts on the table and handfuls of peanuts all over the room.

the event was held in, of all places, the cafeteria where she will eat lunch tomorrow. our school is very good about PA usually but whoever put together the celebration must not have put two and two together. hmmmmm.....

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 3:15pm
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Joeybeth that is so darn sad. I rarely say sad, I'd really like to curse, but it is so sad.
I'd find the person who arranged the food and tell them the irony of the whole deal.
This whole situation just begs someone saying something. You know what? I'd call the local newspapers too. Just as an ironic story and what our kids face every day. A celebration for her that is dangerous to her and she cannot join in on. That is irony.
I mean you know me by now. I would not get angry, just kind of sad and really want to let them know. Let them come to their own conclusions.
Good luck.
[This message has been edited by Peg541 (edited March 30, 2007).]

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 4:55pm
Sandra Y's picture
Joined: 08/22/2000 - 09:00

I agree with Peg. If you live in a small town, the paper might do it as a human interest story. In any case, a letter to the principal pointing out the irony would probably be well-received.

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 9:35pm
saknjmom's picture
Joined: 04/02/2003 - 09:00

Joeybeth, you must be very proud of your DD! tell her good job.
As far as the food served at this function, did anyone realize the irony besides you and your family?
I would take a step and point this out to the principal and whoever was in charge of this function.

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 10:40pm
notnutty's picture
Joined: 03/15/2004 - 09:00

Joeybeth: Congratulations to your daughter. Would you mind posting her essay...I would love to read it.
About the peanuts...I too would call the principal and explain the irony. Maybe it will be well received after hearing her winning essay.

Posted on: Thu, 03/29/2007 - 10:43pm
krc's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

I would be so disappointed. Like you said, we are very used to "may contains" and dd not being able to eat the food but she always counts on a drink. (We never have pop at home, so she actually looks forward to it [img][/img]
Did your dd read her story out loud for this? If she did, you would think everyone would be looking at those peanuts in a different light.
I would also bring this to the principals attention. I'd also want to make sure the cafeteria was cleaned well before lunch today.
Congrats to your dd! I think it's wonderful she wrote her essay on PA. Dd and I would love to read it sometime [img][/img]
[This message has been edited by krc (edited March 30, 2007).]

Posted on: Fri, 03/30/2007 - 12:37am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Ahhh Joeybeth I should also have said congratulations on your daughter's achievement!
I was thinking peanuts and not good job!

Posted on: Fri, 03/30/2007 - 3:47am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

oh, that is heartbreaking if you ask me. Here she is a proud moment in her life, she is sharing a very powerful story about this allergy she lives with and the vary food that causes her grief, that could kill sitting at the very table. I think that was in BAD taste for whoever planned the food for this. To serve flat out-peanuts...I think that is almost an insult to injury. If this were my school, knowing who does the planning(those moms who confronted me), it would have been done on purpose!
I hope she still enjoyed the moment, she should be proud. I'd love to read what she wrote too!!!! HUGS
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig and EE)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Fri, 03/30/2007 - 4:19am
bandbmom's picture
Joined: 12/14/2005 - 09:00

Hi Joeybeth - You must be so proud of your DD :-) Congrats to your DD!!!!! Great job!!!!
I'm sorry to hear about the bowl of peanuts. Talk about putting on damper on the evening :-( Did you talk to the principal about it?

Posted on: Fri, 03/30/2007 - 4:22am
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

I think I would try to find out who put together the food part of the celebration. And offer them a copy of your daughters story and ask them to please read it. Not with a nasty attitude -- it doesn't sound like you are angry, more disappointed. Maybe letting them know in your daughter's own words would work best.

Posted on: Fri, 03/30/2007 - 12:15pm
joeybeth's picture
Joined: 09/01/2006 - 09:00

the stories were not read out loud at the celebration. one of two things must have happened: 1) whoever put the refreshments out must not have been familiar with my daughter or her story or 2) the woman who runs the entire event every year (very nice woman, btw), did read the book but somehow forgot about my daughter's situation. she had just found out that very day that her husband has spots on his hip bones and in his lungs and most likely has metastatic cancer. so....i did not want to further burden her at the event by pointing out the problem. in my mind, she had enough to worry about already and it was no wonder that she didn't notice how inconvenient it was for my daughter who was one of the winners being honored.
also, yes, [img][/img] one woman came over to me and said, "how nice. did you notice the bowls of peanuts? did anyone bother to read b's story?" i appreciated her noticing. she's the type to notice...a very thoughtful person. she didn't say it in a hateful way but in a "can you believe how ironic it is" way. kwim??
and yes...i would love to post my daughter's story when she gets it back. she has her final young authors' event tomorrow all day at a university nearby and then the book will be returned to us. i am very proud of her. [img][/img] i read some of the other books on display last night and was blown away at how creative most of the books were. i don't think i ran across one that wasn't interesting and imaginative. so much varied and unique talent was there.


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