The Positives of living with PA

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 11:53am
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I was thinking today of all the positives of raising a PA child, I guess I need some light in this whole thing and here are my top three:

3. Being able to say "NO" when something is out of our comfort zone has taught me the art of saying "NO" to social engagements without DD that I just don't want to attend.

2. I'm not sure about the rest of you but my DD is very bright and I think that has to do with all the time I spend with her b/c I don't let her play with the PB&J kids in our neighborhood.

and the number one reason.

1. COMMUNICATION! I don't know about everyone else but since my DD diagnosis I talk to her constantly about school, friends, activiites, etc. I find it helps to open up the lines of communication, my DD is only 4 but I look at it as starting early and keeping them open now b/c in a few years she'll want to tell me I'm weird etc.

What positives has anyone else found?

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 10:56pm
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I think it gives me an out from giving DS all the junk that is around us all the time. I grew up eating natural foods and like DS's diet to be healthy. (Although he for sure gets way more junk *because* it is allergy-free and safe than he would if he didn't have allergies at times, too. lol!)
Having an out so I don't have to go to some social events I don't really feel like attending anyway. :P
Learning to decorate cakes. Altough I just kind of complained about all the work involved in another post I'm actually thrilled I can do this! I would *never* have taken the time to learn otherwise.
We do super cool things like have a soy "ice cream" making party including many safe toppings. It is way more meaningful and fun than going out for ice cream. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Our party this past summer with my brother is one of the best memories I have of the whole summer. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Having very good friends. FAs really weeded out some people who weren't nice friends and that was sad but they were replaced by wonderful, caring people. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
I'm sure there are other things.

Posted on: Sat, 09/08/2007 - 12:53am
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I am also doing more cake baking and decorating.
Not buying any baked goods is making my diet go a bit better.
I've always struggled with shyness, especially when something may put someone out... I now don't hesitate to tell people what I need to keep my son safe, and it's transferring to other situations.
I have learned that I do really have people that care in my life... one neighbor/friend now also has a peanut free home to keep my son safe when we go over.

Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 6:27am
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Thanks for this thread, I really needed to read some positive things because I'm at a low right now in this rollercoaster ride of a life we deal with. I especially can agree with the post above that communication between parents and especially PA kids is good and brings us closer to our kids and it also builds a trust between us and them.
I have to add that I bake more which I love to do, make my own bread and ice cream which is so yummy.
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Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 10:21pm
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I *am forced* to read labels before [i]deciding[/i] to purchase something my family. I don't impulse buy. I'm telling you, manufacturer's must completely think consumers are sheep....that all they look at is the front of the box or the price.

Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 10:46pm
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Learning to pronounce the words on the ingrediant labels. Years ago, I would have never believed that I could read it as fast as I do now.
My son knows when I worry about him especially if I notice red marks on his face, I check his body. He puts his arms around my head and tells me "I'm o.k. mommy". And then he keeps hugging me and tells everyone that I take good care of him.

Posted on: Mon, 09/10/2007 - 12:00pm
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I keep thinking of them. They will always feel special because that's the way we raise them.

Posted on: Mon, 09/10/2007 - 2:40pm
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My kids are learning to be great little cooks! Their spouses will thank me. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
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~Eli[b]Z[/b]abeth,
Mother to 2:
DD age 6, treated as though PA/TNA. Drug & chemical (sunscreen) allergies.
DS age 8, PA, suspected TNA, Latex, legumes?, sunscreens . . .
(PA diagnosed & ana reaction 1999)
Member here since 2000

Posted on: Tue, 09/11/2007 - 1:38am
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If I have goodies in the house I WILL eat them all. I have willpower in the grocery store, but no willpower in my own house - so I just don't buy cookies, etc.
But what do you do when you have house guests? I feel like I should have some sort of treat to offer for dessert - or a cookie to go with a cup of tea.
An advantage to having PA.......I buy 'may contain' cookies or desserts so that my guests can have them, but I can't.
This keeps me from eating a box of cookies in a day or two!

Posted on: Fri, 09/28/2007 - 9:31am
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We get to be selective about extended family outings - rather than being pressured into going due to 'assumed obligation'.

Posted on: Mon, 12/31/2007 - 6:07am
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I am still nursing my PA son so I cannot eat ANY of his allergens.
No more candy and pretty much most processed foods are gone, you can see in my siggy that he has a wide variety of allergies.

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