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Posted on: Wed, 03/22/2006 - 2:20am
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Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

You know, if Jesse feels uncomfortable with the Star Wars figure, I would guess it is plastic -- it probably could be washed.

Posted on: Wed, 03/22/2006 - 2:55am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Now I am the kind that is very flexible anyway, but here's what I would do. I would definitely plan on going to the bowling part, and play the rest by ear. If Jesse is nervous about going don't force him, but if he's having a good time and wants to go to the house go. BUt be prepared to leave abruptly if you or he feels uncomfortable. Or if it is obviously more dangerous than you had anticipated (for example if a young child gets the PB on their hands and then smears on surfaces). Talk to the kids about being flexible about your plans, and the hosts as well. Good luck, and I hope you all enjoy the party. We all know you deserve a happy day right now.

Posted on: Wed, 03/22/2006 - 3:09am
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Quote:The birthday boy is putting M&M Star Wars' figures in the loot bags. Jesse asked if it was okay for him to keep the figure (he's such a huge Star Wars' fan) even though he's allergic to real M&M's. I said, of course it is honey, if you're comfortable with it - it's not like your allergic to the M&M guys themselves.
I love those guys. They are so adourable. Even cuter then Darth Tater. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
My favourite coffee cup is an [i]autographed[/i] M&M cup. It's a set - and I usually chose the one signed by Red and Blue. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Funny thing though - I really scrubbed these mugs when they were brand new. I was laughing at myself while I did it - but, I still had to do it.
I'm jealous Jesse. I don't have any of those M&M star wars guys. They would make a pretty cool avatar though.....
Sorry CSC - back to discussion about your party (which I apparently have nothing to add to).

Posted on: Sat, 03/25/2006 - 10:56am
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The party went well. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
The bowling alley part was no big deal at all. One note I made. The vending machines that sell bubble gum and stuff - they had clear warnings about allergy alerts - one was one filled with barbequed peanuts and another one was a "may contain" product. I thought that was excellent.
The cake (not safe - just "may contain") was served at the bowling alley so no worries about that back at the house.
Then, it turned out they had rented the party room of their apartment building. The room is spotless before you go into it and you have to pretty well leave it that way when you leave as well.
It turns out the family with the peanut sauce on the potatoes wasn't Portuguese, but Spanish speaking from Ecuador I believe.
At any rate, all of the hot dishes were put out on the table and I did eat there. The kids had eaten at the bowling alley though (all the kids ate at the bowling alley). So, the food back at the house was really for the adults (although kids could have eaten if they wanted to).
I had people sit at the same table as me eating the potatoes and I couldn't even smell peanuts and I think I have a pretty good sense of smell for them (if nothing else). So, it must have been very light.
I watched Jesse. He went over and asked what dish had the peanuts in it and kinda looked at it and that was it. Didn't go close to it or touch the dish or anything, just looked at it, perhaps curious.
Then, later in the evening, he was actually playing right beside the table where all the hot food was and he was fine. No coughs, nothing.
For me, it was wonderful to see a family that got along so well and were willing to include us as part of their celebration. I don't just mean the birthday boy's family (and his Aunt and Uncle who are friends of our's to begin with - we met the boy through the Aunt and Uncle), but the extended family - Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, nieces, nephews. It was an absolutely joyous experience. Extremely positive.
I can't explain it *properly* but so unlike what we're used to experiencing in life and man, what a ray of sunshine. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Very much needed sunshine. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
So, I was really pleased that I did discuss it with Jess; that we did make a quick escape plan and our friends understood (the ones that were driving us home - they knew they might have to take us home at a minute's notice - I had said that if we needed to make a quick escape, I would transit it home, but no, they wouldn't let me think of that); and that we were able to enjoy ourselves "this time" in such close proximity to a peanut sauce.
I'm very happy and very thankful. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Thank-you to everyone here who gave me advice on what to do re this. I appreciate it. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Sat, 03/25/2006 - 12:05pm
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Joined: 01/16/2006 - 09:00

Hooray! Yippee!!! So glad you had a nice time. Really glad all your friend's were so supportive about being careful with the food. It really can be done!
Have a good weekend,

Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 4:32am
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Quote:and our friends understood (the ones that were driving us home - they knew they might have to take us home at a minute's notice - I had said that if we needed to make a quick escape, I would transit it home, but no, they wouldn't let me think of that);
While I'm glad to hear how great the whole party went - I especially liked this part that I quoted. [i]If[/i] you had needed to make a quick escape, I'm glad your friend was willing to leave to drive you. Red Rocket is not the place to be when you fear a reaction, and I'm glad you wouldn't have been faced with that possibility.

Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 6:07am
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Joined: 04/13/2005 - 09:00

hi - glad it all worked out for you :-) Now you have a feeling of how those sorts of situations can work...with peanut food in the room at social gatherings. Sounds like your DS had a real good way to handle it, it's good he asked where the peanut food was, got a look at it, and then knew better how to avoid it.
I think you are at the point where your own comfort level and your DS's comfort level with social situations will start to evolve. I'm super happy you had a good experience with the "first step" at this party :-)
30-year old survivor of severe peanut/tree nut allergy

Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 11:15am
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Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

Happy to hear that you all had a good time -- with no mishaps. Sounds like a great day for all of you, and it is lucky that you have friends that understand about emergency exits! That is really cool.
Hey AnnaMarie -- what is Red Rocket?

Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 2:34pm
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gvmom, The Red Rocket, I think (and Anna Marie can correct me, although I am older [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img] ) would be our old streetcars. Called "The Red Rocket". Sometimes in my posts you'll see me mention TTC if I'm not thinking and that means Toronto Transit Commission - basically, buses, streetcars, and subways.
Anna Marie, I think if there was any hint of a reaction that would have caused a quick escape, then we would have had a drive. It was more if we just felt the need because Jesse or both of us felt uncomfortable that I had said it was okay if we took transit out.
I do think it showed us that we could do it "this time" - I mean, if I couldn't smell the peanut sauce on the potatoes and the person was sitting right across from me at a small table, then it wasn't an overwhelming smell. So, that's why I'm saying "this time". The next situation we walk into, it might not be the same, or my guy might not react (or rather not react) the same. So, I kinda understand it's an event-by-event situation.
I just thought that everyone did try really well, especially since our friendship with the woman with the children (not her SIL) is just really new, or relatively new. For us even to be included in the family celebration after the bowling alley was a bonus, KWIM?
Something I was thinking about to-day though and again, not a big deal. But the friends of our's that were driving us - they both had some of the potatoes with peanut sauce. I can't read minds but I think they kinda scoped out how Jesse was dealing with it period, but I don't know. Can I say I just would have preferred, without sounding really over-the-top (or perhaps it is) that they hadn't had any, just in case?
Then, the Mother was feeding the baby at some point during the evening and he's about 20 months old, maybe 19 months old and she was feeding him the mashed potatoes with peanut sauce. It's almost one of those moments where you want to say - did you know blah blah blah, but given their ethnic cooking differences and just the situation itself, I didn't want to say anything. I mean, the child has probably eaten the peanut sauce before anyway.
Then, darned if he doesn't toddle over, with a mouthful, right to Jesse. Now, Jess didn't know what was in the wee guy's mouth, but I did, and I just watched to make sure everything was okay.
I guess really it's just knowing when you need to recognize what may be a "high alert" situation and even though I had hawk eyes, we had such a fantastic time, it was well worth it. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Oh, and at the bowling alley, Ember was rather reluctant to have any birthday cake. I told her that it was okay. Again, really trying to find that balance where in some situations she can eat stuff around her brother that she wouldn't be able to eat at home period and getting myself to accept that it is *his* allergy, not her's. I didn't have any cake.
Had a whole other thought there that just blipped out of my head. However.
Oh. I think this does depend on the age of the child and also the reaction history. To-date, touch wood, Jesse hasn't had any reactions via contact or inhalation.
Thanks for the continuing support. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Sun, 03/26/2006 - 10:16pm
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Cindy, I am so happy that you had a good time and everything worked out.


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