Do You Ever Think of Keeping Your PA Child Home Longer When Sick With a Virus?

Posted on: Fri, 01/27/2006 - 2:00pm
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Do you ever think of keeping your PA child home longer when they have a cold virus (for example) than you would with your non-PA child? Because of that whole glass half full/empty thing?

This question comes to me after reading about katiee's son's reaction and how he was just coming off a cold (if you will). And how my son's only reaction at school was when he was also coming off a cold.

I've never thought about it really, but now I am wondering. I know when my guy has a cold he does tend to be off longer than his sister, but mostly for me, that has been because of his asthma.

But now I'm wondering if it's something in my subconscious.

Or, I'm wondering if it's something I should be more alert about.

I mean, to-day, yesterday katiee posted about how the school didn't recognize a reaction because her son had had a cold. That was the EXACT same thing that had happened with my son. The reaction was not recognized as one because he had just gone back to school after having a cold.

So, essentially, is it "safer" for us to keep our PA children home longer when they have a cold "just in case" and do some people practice this already?

Many thanks and best wishes! [img][/img]

"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Fri, 01/27/2006 - 10:03pm
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Joined: 03/12/2004 - 09:00

Well, my guy's only in preschool, so missing days aren't that critical. But, I do keep him home longer if he's been sick than I probably would otherwise. I want his immune system to bounce back, and symptoms to be lessened, so a reaction will be obvious. I worry a reaction will be worse if he's already not feeling well.
But, I've sent him when I know a cold's coming (like his nose has started running), but there are no symptoms yet.
As he gets older, I probably won't do this so much. He'll be able to speak up for himself more. Good question csc, good to see you [img][/img] Meg

Posted on: Fri, 01/27/2006 - 10:20pm
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Joined: 12/20/1999 - 09:00

I also tend to keep my DD home longer when she is sick with a virus. I do it for the same reasons that you all do-she definitely is not up for the PERFECT ATTENDENCE award at school! [img][/img]
I also worry about them giving her the epi-pen when she is just throwing up from a virus. I know it won't hurt her and it is better to be safe than sorry, but I do keep her home an extra day if she has a stomach virus just to be sure she is healthy. She hasn't ever had a epi-pen injection (knock on wood) and I don't want the first time to be because of a virus and not a reaction.
Great question! I wonder if other allergy parents do the same thing! [img][/img]
Shandra (mom to Madeline 7 pn/tn/soy and Grant almost 4 no allergies)

Posted on: Fri, 01/27/2006 - 11:27pm
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Joined: 04/16/2005 - 09:00

May be a luxury that stay at home moms have more than working moms who have limited days off and need to save them for when their child is actually sick. That's the case with me, anyway.
No--DS had strep this week. I stayed home from work the day we discovered it (DH was out of town--he might have normally because of his work).
The next day his tonsils were bothering him more than the first, and I almost wrote off that day for work, too (I do end up working about 5 hours from home on days like this--even days that I'm sick, like I was Monday). But after having something to eat he said his tonsils were not feeling worse and he wanted to go back to school. They didn't look as red as the day before.
Note: I didn't mention work to him at all during this time--no pressure from me. He came to this decision on his own, and he had felt absolutely fine the day before--it was just his tonsils hurting that led us to the strep test.
But I did have a huge project at work that I actually needed to be in the office for. I'd worked from home the prior two days, and I needed to be there. So I was happy he felt like going to school. And if he felt good enough to go back and wasn't contagious, I needed him to so I could go to work.
This wasn't a viral thing, but he does have something going on in his sinuses--I actually gave him cold medicine--and made sure he had a dose before heading back to school.
I need to have those days available for when DS is sick or at least still contagious and needs to be home. And for when I'm sick, too.

Posted on: Fri, 01/27/2006 - 11:52pm
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McCobbre, your post makes perfect sense.
I don't know that I consciously keep my son home longer. I mean, it has never clicked in my head that he has a virus and has a greater chance of having a reaction. If I'm doing that with him, it would be subconsciously.
This week he had called me on Tuesday from school to say he was ill. I asked him to wait out the day (1-1/2 hours) and that if he still felt blah on Wednesday, he would stay home. He ended up home Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday. The decision to keep him home on Friday was really based on the fact that the week-end was coming, so one more day off to get over this thing would be helpful, although really, he could have gone.
Then, the strangest thing (for me anyway). My daughter ended up home sick on Thursday (something else). Thursday night going to bed, she was complaining of the same cold symptoms that her brother had, so it was kinda iffy if she would be going Friday morning. Friday morning she got up and was good to go, no cold symptoms she was verbalizing. Off she went. Then darned if I didn't get a call at 2:00 p.m. that she had fallen ill with a migraine just after going ice skating (not sure if that is connected).
Again, I've never really consciously thought to keep my PA son home longer because of his PA when he has a virus because he does seem to miss enough time, just in and of itself, but I do have to wonder if it's not something in the back of my head, especially when the only time he had a reaction at school was when he was coming off a cold.
What particularly frightens me after reading katiee's post and because of what also happened with my son, is I'm afraid that the school won't recognize a reaction with kids that are coming off a cold - the school thinking it's still a virus. I remember that being given as the reason no one even suspected a reaction when my son was having one on a Monday - that he had been off the previous week so they just thought he was still sick.
So, even if I wasn't thinking about it before, even after what happened with my son three years ago, I wonder if I'll be worrying about it more now, or, if because my son is 10 and able to verbalize a lot better (for example, he can tell me if his cough is asthma related - he can tell me if his asthma is bothering him), if he'll be able to tell the school, no, it's not my cold, I'm having a reaction.
It's scary though. [img][/img]
Best wishes! [img][/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Sat, 01/28/2006 - 3:08am
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Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

I know there are times when I've kept my DS home when he was sick, or just kept him home for something like a certain type of cough, because of the FA. I am concerned about the possible mix-up with recognizing symptoms of a reaction vs. the symptoms of a cold/virus. I don't really think they are on top of things there at the school -- or at least to my liking yet. If my DS is hacking away I want them to really pay attention and think first about whether they should be reacting to it as something to do with FA's -- instead of just blowing it off because he might have a cold/virus. School will always be there, and he can always do make-up work. I also kind of have a bit of the same philosophy my Mom had -- if we were sick, sometimes she'd keep up home an extra day past when we really could have gone back, just to give us a better possibility of not catching something right away again. Give our immune system a days lee-way in a way.

Posted on: Sun, 01/29/2006 - 9:15pm
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Respectfully, this is not a question for SAHM's. Although, yes, certainly, SAHM's *may* have the option of keeping their sick children home longer than those Mothers who work outside of the home.
I believe, depending on your support system, that a Mother working outside of the home, can choose to say to whoever it is that watches their child - hey, please keep them home another day. Depending on the support system.
I completely understand that it is not as easy for Mothers who work outside of the home when it comes to dealing with sick children - what to do with them, who looks after them, etc.
But I'll use this as an example. Last week, I ended up with kids home sick for most of the week with different ailments. I have absolutely no one dependable (key word) to ask to take the children while I kept a doctor's appointment (so they went with me, which is okay, because they needed to go, or my guy did anyway) and on Friday, I ended up having to cancel my dentist's appointment. Meanwhile, I had just cancelled one two Fridays previous because, guess what? Kids home sick.
So, I didn't want people to stop answering the question because all of a sudden they might have felt uncomfortable.
I know of one Mom here who works outside of the home and has a WONDERFUL support system whereby she may very well be able to post, despite not being a SAHM - yes, I do keep Little Johnny home longer or no, I don't.
Many thanks and best wishes! [img][/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Sun, 01/29/2006 - 11:05pm
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by csc:
I know of one Mom here who works outside of the home and has a WONDERFUL support system whereby she may very well be able to post, despite not being a SAHM - yes, I do keep Little Johnny home longer or no, I don't.
awwwwwwwwww shucks, thanks for remembering me. [img][/img]
Yes, my mom does live with me, (but I really don't have her "babysit" anymore---it's more due to her decreasing physical capacity and increasing age) and my husband will take a "personal day" in a heartbeat to indulge the cubs while I work. [img][/img] [img][/img] (who woulda thunk it??---am I being "pimped"??? [img][/img] )
(Besides, firemen have a cool schedule out here. And he usually has no difficulty finding folk who will "hold over", "come in early", or "trade shifts". Even last minute)
Anywhoooooo (shameless plug for nursing, and specifically, registry nursing). My employer (can't speak for other nursing employers, but have heard similiar stories), anywhoooooooooo, my employer affords me extreme job flexibility. I pick and choose my own hours, (including several 4 hour slots for "princess shifts" or work up to my legal limit in one day) and often give them the day before [i]or hours before I work[/i]. [img][/img] I never know. Am I a "stay at home mom" or "working mom". [img][/img] My employment has never limited me in that way.
I mean, I've been known to give my children "personal days" from school. Just because. [img][/img] (Especially my youngest---I mean, I've been told: "Kindergarten is [i]optional[/i]." But hey, again, I could be wrong.)
General Disclaimer: I am not offering advice in any manner or form. Absolutely not. I could be waaaaaaaaaay off. I'm an odd one. Individual Mileage May Vary.

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 1:42am
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Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

[b]Respectfully, this is not a question for SAHM's.[/b]
Sorry. I didn't see anywhere in your post that directed this question to specifically working Moms. As a SAHM I have an opinion about it -- and just plainly as a Mom -- even if I were a working Mom.

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 5:42am
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Joined: 04/23/2000 - 09:00

My kids still have this freak super human immune system to where they rarely get sick. I'd only keep them home if they had a fever otherwise no, they'd go back to school. Exposing them to the environment helps build up their immune system.

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 10:10am
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Not 'til you see it in quotes sometimes do you realize the error.
I meant, respectfully, this is not a question solely for SAHM's. It is a question for ALL Mom's regardless of whether they work inside the home, outside of the home, whatever.
I got the sense that once there had been a response from a Mother that worked outside of the home basically saying that it was not a luxury (not that person's words) for a not SAHM to keep her child at home longer that it might scare off people SAHM or otherwise, that might want to answer this question.
As I said, you can be a SAHM with NO support system and still not be able to keep your child home an extra day. Or, you can be a Mom who works outside of the home and has a great support system and can say to the caregiver that yes, your child is staying home a day longer.
Sometimes I think I type too fast.
My apologies.
I meant this wasn't simply a question or solely a question for SAHM's. I also didn't want people to be afraid to answer because they may be in the position to keep their child home longer because they either are a SAHM or have a great support system.
Best wishes! [img][/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."


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