School Vent- Easter candy nightmare!!

Posted on: Tue, 04/11/2006 - 2:26pm
jayD's picture
Joined: 09/20/2000 - 09:00

What a day!!! well, the whole started Monday with my sons Bus aide, who is hired to be on the bus by the school to adminster his epipen in an emergency situation. she is sweet, older lady and adores Brad.....she always gives him a little gift bag on the holidays. so far, it has been fine, this week it was full of chocolate bunnies, all may contain nuts or processed with nuts. she is his PEANUT ALLERGY AIDE- ackkk!

then today, I went in for his class Easter party. teacher had sent a note out 2 weeks ago asking parents for wrapped easter candy to put in the eggs - nowhere n the note did it mention peanut allergy and the fact that only nut free candy should be sent in. He is in a supposedly nut free room- there are 2 PA kids. when I sent my form back, I reminded the teacher to remind people. no response. today when I am there, she gives me a bag full of the labels/bags of the candy people sent in , to check ......80% of them were may contains, contains traces, manufactured on shared equipment and there was one bag of flat-out reeses peanutbutter cups!! Aughhhh! so I am mentally getting my ammunition together to take to the school nurse, when in walks a student teacher, carrying a large jar of roasted peanuts. He is laughing and starts telling one of the moms how he turned 40 this week, and as a gag, a bunch of the teachers or aides sent him on a 'nut hunt" him clues where to find peanuts they had HIDDEN ALL OVER THE SCHOOL AND GROUNDS!!!! he said he found them everywhere, in the library, by the flag pole, the computer lab, on and on ( at this point I am about to hyperventilate, I am so mad!!! they even freaking BOTHER to have a peanut free table in the cafeteria and these idiots are stashing peanuts ALL OVER THE SCHOOL??????? I walked out of the room and to the office, and of course, both the nurse and principal were out today ( they have a "health professional" in the afternoons as out nurse is shared between 4 schools), so the day ends with me picking all the nut candy out of my sons bag, watching as the kindergarteners eat all their nutty candy in the( peanut free) class I vent this to my friend as we are leaving, she asks me if I had heard about the 4th grader with PA that went to the hospital by ambulence with a reaction last week from school....noooooo, hadn't heard about it- I know of the boy and he is extremely sensitive, so all I can think of are all those stashed peanuts from the "nut hunt"- AND that same week, the same boy was threatened by other PB and J wielding 5th grader , waving it at him telling him he was gonna get him......I just felt like my head was going to explode. Now, my son isn't terribly sensitive with his allergy, thank goodness, but this is just out of control.....and to top it off, we brought Brads Bunny to school for the easter party, and the teacher wouldn't let us bring him into the classroom, because she was worried someone might be allergic to bunnies~hmmmmmmm. We kept the bunny outdoors and the kids came out to visit him when they did their egg hunt for the eggs filled with peanut candy at the nut free class. there is going to be one h*** of a meeting next week. Jen

Posted on: Tue, 04/11/2006 - 2:35pm
hopechapel's picture
Joined: 12/11/2005 - 09:00

This really sounds like **** . I don't even know what to say.

Posted on: Tue, 04/11/2006 - 10:58pm
Lori Anne's picture
Joined: 07/13/2005 - 09:00

Please keep us updated as to what happens.
You have every right to be upset. It's as if the school said, "yeah,yeah..we'll have a peanut free classroom to keep everyone happy" and just slaps a label on the classroom, but doesn't follow through.
They have a long way to go before they really get it.

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 12:17am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Oh my gosh!!! I don't even have words for what you've been through!! By the time you get together with all the right people about this, you'll be calm, cool and collected*, and ready to present a great case. I can't see how they could possibly have any valid excuses for all this. Take the ball and run with it. Go over heads if you have to. And good luck - keep us posted.
* I do encourage the "calm, cool and collected" approach - so they don't turn you into one of "those" parents and just shrug you off after you leave. (Although I know/hope you wouldn't just leave it at that, if they did.)

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 12:24am
kkeene's picture
Joined: 10/20/2003 - 09:00

That is horrible I would flip!
I would schedual a meeting with the school staff & board & perhaps your Dr if they are willing.
Is there any way that you can get in contact with the other pa parents at your school???
Sure would be nice if you could join forces & attend the same meetings, maybe then they will take it more seriously
[This message has been edited by kkeene (edited April 12, 2006).]

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 2:38am
jayD's picture
Joined: 09/20/2000 - 09:00

I did call the school nurse today , as I felt I needed to address this "nut hunt " issue immediately- and she tells me she KNEW ABOUT IT! "they told me it would only be in places where teachers had access, and that the students can't go. I told them I was not comfortable as there are nut allergies, but they assured me they would keep it away from student areas." She was very apologetic of course, and when I told her about the nut stuff in the room, she agreed this was a problem and would talk to the teacher again, but it isn't enough. I am going to ask that they do more educating of this staff- it is done once at the first of the year, then they just forget it as they go, I think. I am not wild about my sons teacher in general, although she has been great about not feeding him things without checking with me 1st...just seems completely oblivious with this candy in the room!! I told her I was SO uncomfortabale in the class yesterday as it was, then to have the guy walk into the "nut free room" carrying his big jar of nuts and laughing about his school wide nut hunt, just sent me beyond stressed! I am so pissed that she knew about it! I did bring up the boy who had a reaction at school a week or so ago, and she volunteered that indeed, he reacted to something someone brought in from home and he ate in class. Any suggestions as to who all I need to bring in for this meeting? the teacher, the nurse , the principal, I think I will ask the school district contact to come in too- I would love to have our allergist there, but doubt he could, he is a very busy guy. thanks for the support, I will update! Jen

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 3:00am
gvmom's picture
Joined: 08/24/2005 - 09:00

Do you have a 504, or are you going to ask for one at this meeting? BTW, I am totally shocked -- most especially by the NUT hunt. That is just horrific.

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 4:20am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

If you haven't started the 504 process I would seriously consider doing so. There is a ton of excellent information on this site if you search for it. There are many, many good reasons to have one and it sounds like you just experienced many of them. Keep us posted! And if you have any questions about 504 plans, don't hesitate to ask.

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 8:31am
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I ditto gvmom's post.
Best wishes! [img][/img]
"That was Polanski. Nicholson got his nose cut."

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 1:38pm
McCobbre's picture
Joined: 04/16/2005 - 09:00

It's the teacher bringing in nuts into a peanut free classroom (**violating** the room)nut hunt and the other two incidents, rather than the candy for the eggs, that gets to me. We have a peanut free classroom, but I do not expect other parents to keep may contains from coming in--they don't get it. I provide those kind of treats for DS. I just want to keep peanut butter cookies from coming in--blatant peanut stuff. That's what I expect other parents to follow through on. And if needed, we buy extra candy for others when peanut stuff has to get thrown away (like the Reeses). It's a good thing you were there!!
But the other stuff??? That's absolutely amazing. I can't believe it. Keep us posted.

Posted on: Wed, 04/12/2006 - 3:54pm
ahensley's picture
Joined: 08/23/2005 - 09:00

I have used an advocate for my son (not PA) many times. Someone that knows educational disability law inside and out and found that it is totally worth the money. This is a life and death allergy - and the nut hunt was in the librairy also right... aren't kids in the librairy - even if they aren't behind the desk - so what - this is scary to me - my PA son is 3 and I am dreading him going to a public school for this reason. I would take this issue above the school if the prinicpal doesn't respond appropriatly. You son is entitled to FAPE (Free and Appropriate public education - I think it stands for)- well a nut allergic kid in a nutty classroom is not appropriate - I was ready to sue our district over some special ed issues and I told them so - I would go that far over a peanut allergy.
When you go in to your meeting - I would have listed with you - specific cases of children that have reactions mild to severe at school - open their eyes that PA is possibly fatal - I know I am going all out here, but honestly - children have died from exposure at school.
I have learned over the years how important it is to be professional in these issues, but when you have an advocate at a meeting - it sets up different standards and they know you mean business. I also audio tape all my meetings so they can't say one thing then do another. I have a teacher on tape with a blanent documented and verbal lie - I never used it - but they know I have it. I don't use it like black mail and I don't bring it up - but it gives you the upper hand I think.
Would they put a bunch of candy/cookies in front of a child with diabetes and just hope he doesn't eat them and go into a diabetic coma... well that's what they are doing with your child - just hoping he won't eat what he isn't supposed to. Maybe most children learn and won't eat things they don't know if they are safe, but I know with my 3 yo - I have to watch him closely and its hard for my 6 yo to even understand exactly why he can't eat things because it could leave crumbs that would make his brother sick.
Sorry I keep going on - I am just so sick about what happened with your son - and it really struck a cord with me. I am a nurse and I just can't believe people can be so careless with health issues - especially life threatening ones.


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