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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 11:15am
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Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
As for your letter, I do think your point is lost in your "stream of consciousness" writing.
How about: "As previously discussed (Principal), (aide) is continuing to dress inappropriately (as determined by the school dress code) and it is having a negative impact on (child).
I expect that this will be addressed immediately and will no longer be an issue."
good luck!

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 8:56pm
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Quote:Originally posted by mharasym:
[b]Does this person have the credentials and education to be dealing with a child with Autism/Aspergers? My nephew was recently diagnosed eith Aspergers and it's quite a complex process steering an Aspergers child through the world. I would expect that if they have the credentials then they should also have the professionalism to dress appropriately - ESPECIALLY given the audience. I could see my nephews, jaw dropped, just starring and, of course, not realizing that that would be inappropriate. How can someone who is supposed to lead your child through the complex world of socialization do it effectively when they are themselves causing confusion for the child.
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Now if only my principal could repeat this to me, I'd think my child *might* be in an educationally [i]appropriate[/i] environment.

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 1:22am
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Wow. Almost makes you want to walk up to her and say, "Why Miss <>, what and interesting clothing choice you have made for yourself today. Going clubbing after school, are you?"
Grrrrr.

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 3:37am
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What's the issue? A dress code violation?
In someone else's child?
If so, help me out, really...
would concern YOUR family? (or ANY other family?)
Id say more, but I dont know, really, if that the issue at hand?
I read the letter... Besides a fragmented sentence somewhere at the beginning Quote:Mr. Principal informed me yesterday over the phone, that he had indeed, approximately three weeks ago, had opportunity to witness this himself and address the issue and in particular, with same certain staff.) or maybe not fragmented.. but it was 'tough' reading, kwim?
Jason

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 3:52am
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Jason, it's a staff member assigned to work closely with my child. It's a "related service" in his IEP. But I'll rework the letter to make it less fragmented. Point taken. If I'm not careful, that whole "stream of consciousness" thing falls through into my letters.
I'm going to wait for a few more responses before I rework it. Don't know why, but I'm trying not to name names in the letter or indicate specifically who it is. I've already covered that in several phone calls. Call it mercy. I don't want that floating around someone's "permanent record". I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. To save face. Maybe I'm being too generous?
I might be editing this out....

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:04am
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So Jason, being a man, how would you feel at age 11, if you worked one on one with school staff each and every day that even if only occasionally, dressed as described? You know, in front of your peers?

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:05am
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MB,this is just my opinion, but I like to get straight to the point in letters:
"Dear Ms. XXXX
My son's aide dresses inappropriately. He is uncomfortable and stressed out by this. I think her clothing is inappropriate and against the dress code. What are you going to do about it?
Sincerely,"
Clear and to the point. Then under your breath you could remind the aide that Spring Break isn't until April!
Good luck!
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mom to Ari(6) - severe nut allergies, asthma, you name it - and Maya (9), mild excema

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:10am
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LOLOLOL
I think a quick fix would be to tell said teacher that her low cut shirts with boobs hanging out of them is turning your 11 year old son on and that it's causing him to feel all funny inside. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Unless that's the kind of message she's trying to send. :shrug:
Btw, does she have a tramp stamp? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 4:38am
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I agree: keep it short and. . . businesslike. I like the draft put forward by that'smetrying.
Question~ You've already notified both the principal and Dir of Sp Ed about this in verbal conversations? Yes?
If so, then at this point I wouldn't hesitate to put the name on record. You've given them (principal and Dir Sp Ed) the opportunity to take action and it remains a problem for your son. Personally, if I felt my concern needed to be raised to the level of providing a written letter, then naming the staff person is inevitable.

Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 5:10am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]I'm trying to allow the district to handle the matter discretely. [/b]
LOL! You're kidding, right? You're still in the same district that you've been in for a while now, right?

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