Next time you see this, take a picture of her and your son together. Seriously. Does you cell phone have a camera?

Straight and to the point, yes. don't beat around the bush. Out with it, quickly.
So, your 11 yr old son has a one-on-one aide that dresses inappropriately? How old is SHE? Like, 20+ yo? I would guess a 'teachers aide' or something like that? (not like a junior/senior in high school, right?)
Have you talked to her about this? Has she dressed this way in the past? Have you talked to the principal (or 504 coordinator, or whoever's 'in charge')
Becoming more clear now...
Jason
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[b]* Obsessed * [/b]

E-mom you crack me up! Some of the younger people in my neck of the woods call them "bulls-eyes". [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

This is the point at which I would feel no compunction about manufacturing a fictitious neighbor/friend/relative who is a lovely 18 year old girl. She is beginning to explore the local college club scene.
Naturally, she'd love to know where to obtain such undergarments. Perhaps at
Victoria's (not-so-) Secret? I would ask this obviously fashion-forward person at my first opportunity. Since you've used your cell phone to snap a photo to admire later with this "friend/relative/neighbor." Naturally you need to know.
(silkily)[i]Oh, my... I hope I haven't embarrassed you by asking about your bra!! I had no idea you were so modest about it, dressed as you are. Soooooo sorry..... [/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
[i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i]
But I have been told I have a mean streak. I might be a bad influence. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
(In a whole pantheon of them, obviously...)
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Ok here is another possibility... does she otherwise seem like a good aide and a nice person? You could just talk to her and tell her in a nice way that you don't want to embarrass her but the way she is dressing is causing your son to feel uncomfortable.
Or instead of writing a letter, you could just have a chat with the principal in a friendly way and they can have a chat about it without it being a formalized, potentially tense thing.
Of course I have no idea about what the atmosphere at your school is like. If you have an uncooperative administration and/or aide a letter may be the best way to go. And in that case, I agree with the other posters, I'd get right to the point in a polite way.
Sorry that you're having to deal with the booty call aide! Haha... as if you don't have enough concerns at school already!
Hang in there [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Ohhhhhh how about just asking her what dance club she's going to after school lets out. And then break out your disco inferno dance. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
Oh man, I could have so much fun with this if I went to pick up your son from school. Please oh please oh please...can I???

How about just telling her that you heard some of the kids :snicker: and makes comments like, "did you see the one teacher...she has big boobies" [/snicker] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ETA: make sure when saying this that you put a "laughing snort" in at the end.
[This message has been edited by e-mom (edited November 02, 2006).]

Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b][i]Sayyyyyy! Have you ever seen that show on Friday nights--- it's called "What Not to Wear," and I have really enjoyed that. Very helpful in identifying age-appropriate and professionally appropriate attire.[/i][/b]
We could nominate her! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/cool.gif[/img]
I love how Stacy and Clinton do a sneak attack and scare the cr@p out of the person! The school staff (including the principal and Dir of Sp Ed) could be there when they watch the clips from weeks of secret videotaping of her wearing inappropriate attire. Can't you just hear Stacy and Clinton's comments? LOL!