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Posted on: Fri, 07/30/2004 - 12:33pm
NutlessMOM's picture
Joined: 09/17/2003 - 09:00

I will be homeschooling all three of my children starting next week. Two of my children are severely PA. Two of my children have asthma. So, yes, their allergies played in my decision to homeschool. I am looking forward to a great school year. I am just taking homeschooling one year at a time.
Also, just a note to Attlun, All of the private schools here that I checked with, do not have to make accomodations for PA/food allergy children. I do not know of any private school that receives federal money so therefore the 504 could not be enacted. If this is incorrect, I know someone will let me know (LOL).

Posted on: Mon, 08/09/2004 - 1:55am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Question for gw_mom3. I have a PA son and a positive skin test/negative rast test PA daughter. My son is in a private Kindergarten this year (half day) but I am looking at homeschooling next year. I have been to a "Homeschool Expo" and have actually been considering homeschooling since he was born, so obviously it is not because of PA, but that is another good reason to Homeschool. I am also applying at a Christian School that I absolutely think is the best available. My dh is not excited about homeschooling because he feels with two other toddlers at home, the house, and other responsibilities coupled with our son's outgoing and also strong personality that it will be too much. We both would prefer the Christian School, but there is no guarantee of acceptance, so I am working on the back-up plan (homeschooling). My sister-in-law homeschools but she was a teacher before having children. I'm curious why you are not enjoying homeschooling. Would you share little about the negatives (for you), please?

Posted on: Mon, 08/09/2004 - 2:32am
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Joined: 05/25/2004 - 09:00

I had considered it last year after my son's year in grade K. I had gotten a lot of good information from people on this board. I just couldn't decide if I wanted to take my 10 year old out as well as my 6 yr old and then soon my 3 yr old.
I really loved the benefits from it and I admire the people that choose to do it. But, my school was very accommodating and so far the school year is starting off well.
Good luck in your decision.

Posted on: Mon, 08/09/2004 - 3:18am
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Joined: 03/19/2002 - 09:00

We homeschool our 2 sons (7 1/2 year old with mfa's and 10 year old with no food allergies). We love it!!! We had always been interested in homeschooling, but the food allergies spurred us on to do it. We started homeschooling my younger son, and then when we were confident in what we were doing, allowed my older son to choose if he would also homeschool, which he did, as he saw what younger ds was doing and jumped at the opportunity (he completed 2nd grade in public school).
We love the lifestyle. There is time to really delve into what they want to learn. Time for family activities. We are able to really guide and be involved in our children's lives, and they have input into their academic progress and focus.
I agree that you only should homeschool if that is the educational and lifestyle choices that you want for your family. Schools should provide a safe environment for all students.
Some things that seem to make homeschooling work:
1) that you really enjoy spending lots of time with your kids; everybody loves their kids, but with homeschooling you are with them often and this includes all aspects of them, quirks and all.
2) that you live in an area that has lots of homeschoolers, plenty of various activities, classes, and lots of nearby places of interest (museums, recreation leagues, pools, community centers, libraries, etc). There are over 1 million homeschoolers in the USA (I'm sure other countries have similar numbers), so unless you live in a very rural area, you are certain to be able to connect with some.
3) you have a child or children who can work independently or with each other on certain things. This can usually be taught, and will allow you some time for the various life and personal tasks.
4) As they get older, they become very helpful. It is now much easier to shop with my 10 and 7 1/2 year olds, as they push and load the cart, bag groceries, and carry bags into the house to unload. This is true of most everyday things now that they are older (if you include them in the day-to-day when they are young, although it is sort of a pain, they learn and become helpful thereafter).
5) Every aspect of life is a learning experience. We don't just "do school", but learn in many other ways. They do volunteer work and help in our community. This creates a feeling of real worth for children.
6) Financial concerns can sometimes be met in other ways. Some people work part time, alternate with spouse, work from home, or are able to spend a lot less and be really, really, conservative with money. I started a business and work my own hours (sometimes from home, sometimes with the kids, and sometimes I go out before they are up in the morning)- maybe some day my husband will work for himself and we will all be free agents.
*** But I don't feel that by homeschooling that my mfa child is necessarily safer. We are in various environments every day, so he has been taught about his allergies and knows how to stay as safe as he can. Would he be safe at school? At 7 1/2, he is more knowledgable than most adults about food allergies. I'm sure that he would be fine. But, I wouldn't put either of my children in school. Not that the public school was horrible, but I see how they learn and thrive. They are excited to learn! I see how the many homeschoolers in our area learn and thrive. They have a love-of-learning and enthusiasm that is allowed to blossom with homeschooling.
Take care,

Posted on: Mon, 08/09/2004 - 3:23am
ACBaay's picture
Joined: 03/19/2002 - 09:00

Try this site
Also, a good book on homeschooling is by Lisa Rivera, called Creative Homeschooling for Gifted Children (not sure this is the exact title).
[This message has been edited by ACBaay (edited August 09, 2004).]

Posted on: Mon, 08/09/2004 - 8:59am
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Joined: 02/14/2000 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by CC'S MOM:
[b] I'm curious why you are not enjoying homeschooling. Would you share little about the negatives (for you), please?[/b]
I think the main reason is lack of support. My husband supports it, of course, but I can't find any local homeschoolers and don't know how to find them. I have joined a homeschool email group for my state but there is no one within 2 hours of me. I have asked at the public schools and they will not give me any information. I've asked around at other places with no luck. I found the "local" homeschool support group but it is over an hour away and it would be difficult for me to go to the meetings (which, btw, include food so I wouldn't feel comfortable taking my kids, especially my pa/tna dd) because of their schedule. When I called them they weren't very sympathetic to my situation (the allergy situation or the lack of support) so I wasn't very impressed.
As for the actual schooling, it's taken a while to find a curriculum that works for us. The only way to do that around here is to keep trying different ones which is very expensive and can be very frustrating-we can't afford to buy two different ones for a year because we decide one is not to our liking. So we had to suffer through it and hope that we find something better the following year. There is no homeschool convention near us. I really do live way out in the sticks-I'm in one of those areas where even the internet service providers don't have access and we are lucky that our local phone company offers dialup or else we wouldn't have internet at all.
The other thing is I had 1 child doing schoolwork where she needed my help constantly (K and 1st grade) with 2 others vying for my attention. Now my oldest is doing 3rd grade work and my younger two are doing 1st grade work. I still need to help them all a lot and it gets a bit overwhelming. This year my oldest is going to use SOS which is all on the computer so I'm hoping that frees me up a little to teach the younger two. Also I'm not really very disciplined-it's so easy to give in to the kids wanting to go outside instead of doing lessons and we did it far too much last year, which is why we're way behind now, at the start of the new year. I'm just going to have to commit to getting caught up and staying caught up this year and from here on out.

Posted on: Tue, 12/19/2006 - 12:36am
KS mom's picture
Joined: 03/02/2006 - 09:00

We are into our second year of homeschooling. DD was in public school until the middle of fifth grade. I had enough of the worry and frustration! Homeschooling for us has been very positive. I also HS my 7 yo ds. He doesn't have any allergies but I gave him the option of HSing with his sister or continuing on in PS and he chose HSing. I would be happy to talk about our experiences off the board (the good, the bad and the ugly).

Posted on: Tue, 12/19/2006 - 3:00am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

KS mom.... is there [i]ugly[/i]?? LOL!!!
(Some days more than others... where [i]IS[/i] that cooking sherry??? )
My daughter (7.5 yo) has never been to "school." (At least not since she was 2.)
The trick is to not open your mouth when the only thing in your head is [i]"WHY, oh WHY can't you just be someone else's problem for a few minutes right now?????!!!"[/i] I've learned to say, "Go to your room and read or play quietly for a few minutes so I can think."
If you like, I can try to find a few threads in the Schools forum that deal with HSing.
Don't let anyone judge your decision-- sometimes retreat is the better part of valour. HSing [i]as a lifestyle[/i] works incredibly well for us. We are able to school when we like... and take our vacations, run errands, visit doctors/hairdressers/family where and when it isn't crowded-- which reduces risk. I can't imagine having to do things with everyone else in the world now. My DD has trouble enough allergy-wise without us trying to fit things into peak usage/times. Christmas shopping, for example. We have gone out [i]ONCE[/i] this year during "traditional" evening/weekend hours. And DD had a reaction.
HSing also gives my daughter time to read and play that her B+M schooled peers do not have.
The down side is that if you have a kid that [i]really[/i] needs a lot of social peer interaction, it can be hard on them (and you). Church/synagogue activities can help fill the gap, but only to a point. You also have to fundamentally [i]like[/i] your children as people to HS for long. I [i]never[/i] get a break from her. I am away from her for perhaps 6-12 hours each week. But you find ways of generating the personal space that you all need, too.
If you have a child that has multiple unmet/special needs within the school system, this [i]can[/i] make homeschooling either that much more obvious a choice.... or that much harder to do well, depending upon what those needs are. (But your SD is still obligated to provide associated services to you if they are needed under an IEP-- even if you are HSing.)
There are a LOT of different philosophies regarding HSing... as many as there are people doing it, probably. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] They can probably be broadly broken up into three categories:
1. School at home. (This most resembles "regular" school and is what most parents are comfortable with, at least initially.) Prepackaged curriculum is available for each grade level from a variety of suppliers, both secular and religious.
2. Unschooling. This approach is the "way out there" homeschooling that most people think of... the child is in charge and directs their own learning. You simply provide a rich environment for it to happen in and answer (or help research) what they are interested in. NO 'instruction' is initiated by the parent.
3. Philosophies in between. This includes Charlotte Mason, Montessori, Waldorf, and "eclectic" methods.
Do your homework. Check out the resources that your local library has. Don't be too quick to jump into a set curriculum unless it [i]really[/i] feels right for you and your child. I would even issue the same caution about HS support groups. They tend to fall into one of the two extremes above (1 or 2, that is) and can be dismissive of other philosophies.
Your heart has led you this far, in other words-- don't turn your back on it now!

Posted on: Tue, 12/19/2006 - 6:19am
KS mom's picture
Joined: 03/02/2006 - 09:00

lol...Yes Corvallis mom, we have the odd "ugly" day where public school sounds like a dream to me. But honestly, there have only been a couple of those. Most of the time, especially my dd is very cooperative. She really appreciates my efforts and is grateful that I am giving her this option. She was so stressed out at school, partly because of pa and partly because of her personality.
I have to say that I love my kids, I love hs'ing but I do find that I need a little time for me. At the end of the afternoon, before it is time to start supper, I have a little bit of quiet time in my room. I get a good book and the children know that this is MY time (I tell my 7 yo that if he continually interrupts my quiet time that I will interrupt his x-box time...works well...lol). They are not to disturb me for one hour unless it is something important of course. It recharges me and allows me to unwind from the day.
When we first began I was very regimented and close to the school at home way of hs'ing. Now we have chilled out a little and have become a little more flexible. My goal from the beginning has been to keep the children ahead of where they should be (according to the SB) and once and a while I stop to make sure we are covering all of the bases. I am very proud of my childrens progress. It is amazing what they can accomplish with the one-on-one attention.
We use a variety of curriculum. I think it is great that I have been able to choose different approaches that work for each child. For instance, my dd works best with the Saxon Math program and my son works best with the Singapore math program. In PS, they don't have the choice.
Then we have the hot topic of "socialization". I won't go there at the moment...lol.

Posted on: Tue, 12/19/2006 - 8:14am
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Joined: 03/24/2004 - 09:00

i am homeschooling my 5 year old. we also have a 4 year old with food allergies. we are very laid back in our approach and i probably lean more toward unschooling at this age than anything else. that doesnt mean i will always do this but i see my son learning so much from everything we do that i havnt seen a need to follow anything structured. he has lots of interests and seems to soak up so much information and knowledge. he is learning all the "kindergaren-first grade" stuff without alot of effort on my part except providing him with a stimulating environment and a chance to play with other kids. we take a few classes like art and gymnastics. he is in choir at church and goes to sunday school. we go to library story times sometimes and our local homeschooling group has some classes and a monthly show and tell/arts and crafts time. they are also thinking about starting a monthly pe time to play group games and we go on field trips as a group. i love homeschooling so far and we have alot of fun. I dont try to "teach" alot but i do initiate alot of activities where the kids do learn.
James 4 yrs, NKA
Ben 3 yrs, PA and MA and SA



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