why don\'t people \"get it??\"

Posted on: Thu, 02/19/2004 - 4:49am
opahhhh's picture
Joined: 12/15/2003 - 09:00

I don't understand why...no matter how many times I tell people, (who are NOT educated) about life-threatening allergies, they still think "it's no biggie." I know, I know, most of us grew up eating PB & J, BUT I hate the thought of it now that I'm living in the constant shadow of being a peanut-freaked mommy. People do not get the impact of it, unless they have lived it, either themselves or their child....even then, sometimes people are laxed. I am dealing with P/A, the whole legume family, egg, tomato, lactose intolerance, my 23 mos. old son can't tell people yet. I feel like a human sheild and I feel that that isn't even enough at times. "Can't he just have an M&M?" people ask....NO HE CAN'T!!!!!!
Sorry people for venting, but I'm sure you can relate, that's all I wanted, for someone who'd understand to read this [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img](

Posted on: Thu, 02/19/2004 - 4:59am
leesadb's picture
Joined: 08/24/2003 - 09:00

opahhh, We have all been there at one time or another. A little bird once told me to "KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS". Just keep explaining it to them, and don't get mad, eventually they will get it!! I know how it is to be a MOMMY SHIELD, I do it all the time, but thankfully I get along with the Pricipals of our school, and our superindenent's daughter is severly allergic to peanuts too!! Remember to always explain yourself in a friendly tone! I used to get really mad, and found it was only hurting me, nobody else really cared!

Posted on: Thu, 02/19/2004 - 5:04am
darthcleo's picture
Joined: 11/08/2000 - 09:00

Also remember that when most of us were youngs allergies were considered very minor. You kept feeding the stuff to the child until he or she outgrew it.
Nowadays it's very very different, but most people don't know that the medical profession has changed its approach.

Posted on: Thu, 02/19/2004 - 6:14am
Nutternomore's picture
Joined: 08/02/2002 - 09:00

Many times, when people hear the word "allergy", they make an immediate assocation with [i]environmental[/i] allergies (dust, cats, dogs, grass, etc.). They think of those symptoms (sneezing, runny nose, watery eyes, etc.) and they think it's just a minor annoyance. They've seen the Clariton ads on TV, and think, hey, just take a pill or something and it's not so bad.
I learned from others here to try to use other words/phrases to attempt to help people to clue in as you do; things like "life threatening", and "anaphylaxis", but even that will fall on some deaf ears.
I've been on this journey now for almost 5 years. Looking back, I recall that it took awhile to learn how to read labels, how to inquire of manufacturers, how to think outside the box re:unexpected sources of peanuts/tree nuts, etc; and that's from someone who lives it every day and is trying to keep their child safe.
For someone who doesn't live it every day, I think it is easy in this frenzied world for people to easily lose sight of these issues, despite how important it is to us. Not that I condone it, but I understand it.
I keep my sanity by keeping my expectations of others low, and then finding myself surprised every once in awhile. Sometimes the education effort does start to make an impact.
Hang in there....some days are definitely better than others. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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