Am I expecting too much?

Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 3:13am
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Both my PA son and non FA DD attend the same school. The grade 3's of the school go on a "special" end of the year field trip every year to Upper Canada Village and there is fundraising to defray the cost of the trip.

This year, the kids prepared gift baskets which they sold tickets to and they will be raffled off in the near future. Now, forget that I never even heard a whisper about these "baskets" until we were asked to allow the kids to purchase tickets. The baskets are filled with many things including "treats".

I am a little annoyed that the powers that be did not even consult with the parents of food allergic kids at the school, I thought that was why we have an allergy committee. I don't think that it is fair to expect us to buy tickets to something that if won would never cross the threshold of my house. I tried to explain it to the kids and I think they understand (ie: if we win, you have to give it away) but it just seems silly that no one asked us what treats would be safe. It's not like they were not aware of the number of kids with food allergies at the school several in grade 3 alone, not to mention their siblings.

I don't know, maybe PMS is rearing its ugly head [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

What do you think?

Katiee

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Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 3:45am
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Hi katiee,
I know where you're coming from.
At our school it's an end-of-year camp trip for the grade 6ers. The Grade 6 "committee" holds 2 bake sales as well as other food-included events to defray the cost.
Our allergy committee has been able to keep track of these particular events because one of our members happens to be a Grade 6 mom. But, it's only through her that we are made aware of events --they've never officially contacted us.
When my Grade 6 mom leaves next school year, I will have to make a point of keeping atop of the Grade 6 events -volunteering to help out, making ourselves "discreetly" available for assistance...
For example, every Grade 6 bake sale this year has had a little table set up by our allergy committee with goods we've prepared for our kids. We don't keep a dime of the money we make, but give it all to the Grade 6ers. We get exposure and a message across --they get some extra $.
By the way, our school policy of no nuts/peanuts is followed by the other committees -but policy can't control for cross-contamination.
One of the things we had attempted this year was to implement a system where as soon as an event involving food were being planned by [b]anyone[/b], the allergy committee would automatically be notified. It didn't quite work as planned because it turned out everyone involved in the allergy committee was also involved in the other committees in some form or another.
Next year that will no longer be the case -so looks like we'll be doing a lot more volunteering!

Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 7:23am
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Katiee, I do not think you are expecting too much. As you said, your school has an allergy commitee; this is exactly the type of thing they should be involved with. My advice is to register a "friendly" complaint about this so that it can be changed for the future.
Good luck!
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 8:19am
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Thanks for the advice guys. I think I will ask to have this put on the agenda for tomorrows school council meeting, with a smile on my face of course [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Katiee

Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 11:47am
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Katiee, no, I don't think you're expecting too much, especially when there is an allergy committee for your school.
Interestingly enough, with the school that I'm dealing with this year, when it came to the chocolate fundraising, they did offer peanut/nut free chocolate to sell. So, fine.
But, what was really cool and unexpected (since I don't feel they deal with the allergy very well at this school at all) is that the child that sells the most chocolate for the school will be given a giant NUT FREE chocolate bar. I thought this was extremely cool, especially given my general feelings about the school.
No, I think you have an allergy committee for a reason, and I also think that really, how can you partake in the fundraising for the field trip, which you want to do (take part I mean), if what you're going to get is something your family can't have in the house?
When we were given the option (a special letter was written and given to each child in the school) of peanut/nut free chocolate (and there is an assortment now from World's Finest, I was surprised), I did write back saying that yes, we would take a case, wasn't sure how well we would do (simply because we have no neighbours and no one else really to sell the chocolate to, except Mom in the middle of the night [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] ), but that I was really pleased that they had given us this particular option because it was the FIRST time in five years that my son had been able to participate in this fundraising (that ever favourite chocolate selling) and the first time in three years my daughter has been able to. I thought I was quite thankful and gracious because I really did appreciate it.
No, I don't think you expect too much at all, katiee. I was going to say especially given that there are other FA children in the school, but even if your child was the only PA child in the school, I still don't think you're expecting too much.
(Totally separate, but I now have the Fun Fair *issue* to deal with and I'm not sure if I'm up to it or not - didn't find out about that until I read about it in the school newsletter. I'm sure it's still in the planning stages and I could approach whoever is doing it, but I'm almost at the point, despite the positive story I told above, that I'd just as soon stay home with the kids then try to get the school community to "get it").
Hope this helps, hon. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Mon, 04/05/2004 - 11:50am
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Hey, and even with your Irish blood a boilin' I can't see you presenting anything to anyone without a smile on your face! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 04/06/2004 - 3:34am
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Katiee, personally, I wouldn't buy tickets. I don't mind supporting the schools through fundraising, but I refuse to buy things I really don't want.
If you feel you really should support the fundraising - go in, hand over some money and politely let them know you can't buy tickets because the prize is dangerous to your child, but you still want to help with the fundraising.

Posted on: Tue, 04/06/2004 - 4:05am
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I understand your feelings.
Last year, I told the director and teacher that I was sorry that I could not purchase or sell food fundraisers that were not safe for my family. I spend too much time and energy explaining things to family and friends and neighbors, that I could not then go and sell them the stuff I do not want them to eat around my dd.
I have not seen the chocolate fundraiser rear its ugly head this year, but maybe my timing is off. It might still be happening. I thought it was before Easter last year, however. Maybe non-participation gets the point across? becca

Posted on: Wed, 04/07/2004 - 4:31am
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katiee, what happened at the council meeting?
Just realized I never directly answered your question. No, you're not expecting too much.
I agree 100% with becca. Don't participate in any event that poses a risk to your family.

Posted on: Wed, 04/07/2004 - 5:02am
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Thanks Arachide and everyone. I emailed my displeasure to council because I was not able to attend the meeting (DH working crazy overtime) so we'll see what they say. I guess I was mre disappointed than anything else. You know, one step forward, two steps back. I'll let you know what they say.
Katiee

Posted on: Wed, 04/07/2004 - 3:29pm
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I think that if the parents came forward and helped put together a "safe" basket, it would be really cool! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Again, exposure and extra money for the school as well. (and then there's a chance that if you do win, you get a safe basket, right??)
I can see your point-I would just not buy tickets, and tell them exactly why.

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