Remembering Nathan...

Posted on: Sat, 05/08/2004 - 9:13am
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It's coming up on the third anniversary of Nathan Walter's death in Spokane. I was thinking that perhaps we could have a memorial thread where we discuss the impact his death had on us.

My own son was only 2 1/2 in May of 2001. Reading about Nathan made me feel outraged and so terribly, terribly sad that the adults with him that day failed so miserably to keep him safe. It also made me realize that I can never simply "trust" the school system to keep him safe...that I will have to monitor and harass and question them constantly. My son is starting first grade next year, and I am determined to make school a safe place for him - which will mean constant vigilance on my part.

Sometimes the thought seems overwhelming, but then I remember a little boy named Nathan, and it seems like I almost hear his voice whispering "just don't ever let them forget..."

I won't every let them forget. I promise.

Posted on: Sat, 05/08/2004 - 9:21am
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Munchkin's Mom, Nathan's Mother recently posted on the board, I believe under Schools. You might like to see if her e-mail address is in the thread or listed in her profile. I know that I missed responding to her all together. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
I'll be back later when I can add things properly.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Sat, 05/08/2004 - 11:52am
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In a sense, Nathan's death is one reason we're homeschoolers now. It happened just when I was dealing with the private school where we intended to send ds. They claim it's peanut-free, but high school has distributing machines selling peanuts (DUH!) and cafeteria/gym/corridors are shared.
The epipens are locked away with the nurse, and the nurse leaves the premisses at lunch time to go eat at a restaurant. (DUH!). The person replacing her has no medical training (DUH!).
When I insisted ds wears his epi on him at all times, the director told me that our family was causing too much trouble and they would pick another. (DUH!)
I mean that's more than "three strikes you're out". Knowing that the worst *can* and *did* happen, we were just not ready to compromise on ds's safety.
We were left with the choice of public school/bad curriculum or homeschool.

Posted on: Sun, 05/09/2004 - 1:21am
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Quote:Originally posted by darthcleo:
[b]The epipens are locked away with the nurse, and the nurse leaves the premisses at lunch time to go eat at a restaurant. (DUH!). The person replacing her has no medical training (DUH!).
When I insisted ds wears his epi on him at all times, the director told me that our family was causing too much trouble and they would pick another. (DUH!)
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pick another? could you elaborate?
also wondering if there is anything in canada similiar to "Nurse Practice Acts". Was type of nurses are found in canadian schools? Licensed Practical? Registered? Regulated in some sort of way?

Posted on: Sun, 05/09/2004 - 1:23am
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also noting not trying to take the thread off topic, just darthcleo's post stood out for me. Darthcleo, if you would like to answer per email, my address is listed.

Posted on: Sun, 05/09/2004 - 5:06am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]also noting not trying to take the thread off topic, just darthcleo's post stood out for me. Darthcleo, if you would like to answer per email, my address is listed.[/b]
Nurses are not mandatory here. Too many cuts. Some private schools still have nurses, but that's about it. The school said they would pick another family over us, because we were trouble makers. (or so they said). This was a private school. They can do pretty much as they want.

Posted on: Sun, 05/09/2004 - 6:51am
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Quote:Originally posted by darthcleo:
[b] Nurses are not mandatory here. Too many cuts. Some private schools still have nurses, but that's about it. The school said they would pick another family over us, because we were trouble makers. (or so they said). This was a private school. They can do pretty much as they want.
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thank you for the clarification.

Posted on: Sun, 05/09/2004 - 6:58am
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quote:
"I was thinking that perhaps we could have a memorial thread where we discuss the impact his death had on us."
I've always had certain expectations regarding schools. I still do.
You asked about "impact". I guess when I read what is out there regarding Nathan's death, (which I understand has been restricted in some ways, correct me if I am mistaken). Certain things stood out for me. They still do. Again, I have certain expectations that in light of Nathan's death, and my own personal experiences, those expectations still hold true and are [i]non-negotiable[/i]. Not saying they are guarantees either, just [i]non-negotiable.[/i]

Posted on: Mon, 05/10/2004 - 1:18am
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To Nathans Family (if you read this)....I have been struggling with what to post in this thread. I am having trouble trying to find the words to say what I feel. It is so difficult, because all of us here are standing where you stood at one point in your lives. We are trying to keep our kids safe at school. It is a constant fear in my heart that what happened to Nathan, could happen to my son.
It is so hard for me to read about what happened, so I can't imagine how hard this anniversary date, and every other day must be for you. I hope it helps you to know that we are thinking of Nathan, and of you. I am so impressed with how you, as parents, have handled this situation. You truly are an inspiration. From your work with FAAN, the school system, and your forgiveness.
My heart goes out to you and I will [b]always[/b] remember your Nathan.

Posted on: Mon, 05/10/2004 - 10:05am
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Good post. Ditto.
Paula

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