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Posted on: Mon, 06/14/2004 - 2:12pm
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It is hard for us to eat at those places bc ds is also allergic to eggs.
I dont think you were rude at all. I think you did a great job and went with your instinct [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I am sorry you and your ds could not eat [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] You mentioned that you are new to this. I used to hate to go out to eat but now after 4 years of dealing with MFA (anaphylaxes to all, contact reactive to all and inhalation reactive to fish) I have learned where to go and what to ask. I have also learned to go with my instinct and do what I feel is right for my ds and if someone gets mad or upset with me they will get over it. I would never get over it if something happened to my DS.
My dh never ask the questions either. Maybe he would if I gave him a chance. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] I dont though bc I like to feel in control with this situation. Not that I dont think he could not do it. Its just that I have always done it. So I feel more comfortable doing it.
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Posted on: Wed, 11/02/2005 - 10:29am
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I know this is a very old post,but did your dh ever get on your side? Or is he still in denial?
My dh keeps quiet and lets me do all the talking when it comes to our ds p.a.
He thinks he is the boss for everything else(or I let him think he is! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img])

Posted on: Wed, 11/02/2005 - 9:47pm
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This brought back memories. It has been over a year since that post. That was like the first trip we took after his allergy testing. I was trying to avoid eggs, soy, milk, nuts, peanuts and bananas at the time. I think I was just trying to order him some fries. We are down to milk, soy and peanuts/nuts now. (he is not allergic to tree nuts but we avoid them for now). Yes, dh is better about it now. I still ask all the questions primarily. He is starting to read labels when he goes to the store (which is rare) but still brings home alot of stuff ds cant eat (I just read the labels when he gets here). He always feels bad when he does this so is getting better. I have accepted that I will be primarily responsible for this in that way and I think he just relies on me for that. He doesnt get embarressed anymore when I ask question now and doesnt call me rude.
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Ben 2 yrs, PA and MA and SA

Posted on: Wed, 11/02/2005 - 9:50pm
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That reminds me. this summer we went on a trip and went to mcdonalds. I tried to get some allergy information about the breakfasts there and the people acted like they had no idea what I was talking about and no way to find out about ingrediants. The kids were already playing so we just let them play without buying anything and left. I spoke with the maneger. It was weird.
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Posted on: Fri, 11/04/2005 - 6:47pm
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Quote:Originally posted by lalow:
[b]That reminds me. this summer we went on a trip and went to mcdonalds. I tried to get some allergy information about the breakfasts there and the people acted like they had no idea what I was talking about and no way to find out about ingrediants. The kids were already playing so we just let them play without buying anything and left. I spoke with the maneger. It was weird.
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That's so aggravating. When I contacted mcd's a few years ago, they told me that all of their employees are trained about allergies. I guess the ones in our town were absent that day.
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Posted on: Wed, 11/09/2005 - 12:06am
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About the original post, since the frier is cross contaminated with everything else that has been fried in the fryer, doesn`t that pretty much rule out the fries anyhow (if dealing with milk allergy, almost certainly something with milk was in that fryer earlier that day---breaded chicken seems to be the most common one).
About McDonalds, again if dealing with milk allergy I would not advise it due to their total lack of concern for cross contamination. I witnessed an employee pick up a piece of cheese to make a cheeseburger and then touch pretty much everything else. I also witnessed them using the same tongs for their chicken strips without milk and their chicken mcnuggets with milk. They absolutely don`t have a clue about cross contamination there. The website is great with all their allergy information, but at the actual place where they cook it, they cross contaminate everything with everything else. It might be an option if you are only pa, but definitely not with milk allergy.

Posted on: Wed, 11/09/2005 - 4:10am
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Yes, I agree about the cross contamination with milk.. it is true really for all restaurants. Although I try to be very very careful about peanuts and trace amounts etc. With my sons milk allergy I am more lax. For example I will let him eat foods run on the same lines or may contains milk. He has not reacted to this and I guess I am taking a chance he will not outgrow the allergy as quickly I have found it very difficult to avoid it totally.
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Ben 2 yrs, PA and MA and SA

Posted on: Wed, 11/09/2005 - 11:01am
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Well, I guess that is true. But after Sabrina Shannon died from tongs that were used for French fries and the tongs were cross contaminated, it really scares me. The only restaurant we eat at is PF Changs where they bring out a brand new wok if you have food allergies, therefore there is no chance of cross contamination with anything. And since they are Chinese, almost none of their dishes have milk, and only one dish has peanuts. So cross contamination is not an issue. We found one other restaurant with some vegan nut free items that is very allergy aware. Other than that, we can`t do restaurants due to the cross contamination.

Posted on: Wed, 11/09/2005 - 11:47am
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It does deffinately cut down on restaurants. But then taking small kids does too. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Lalow
James 3yrs, NKA
Ben 2 yrs, PA and MA and SA

Posted on: Mon, 03/27/2006 - 7:52am
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No, I don't think you were rude, you just said what you said.
Since there are obviously deeper issues between you and SIL, I wouldn't spend too much time and energy thinking about what she said.
Can I just surmise something?
I'm NOT saying that SIL isn't negating your son's allergies. But I'm thinking that maybe she was just really really happy that her child could eat something safely and she did want to express that sheer joy and also have her son thank you regardless. KWIM?
(If you like, please see my thread under Living with PA about a Birthday Party question).
It sounds like you may deal with the FA's differently and certainly she may sound over-the-top, but I'm trying to look at it from a positive point of view (at a time when I have NOTHING positive to say about my SIL).
Unless you think that she was trying to negate your son's allergies again, I would take it for a more simple exclamation of joy and thanks on the part of the woman and her child (trying to see the *good* in people).
But if that's NOT the feeling you're getting and you know the dynamics, then don't let it bother you, and no, you weren't rude.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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