Who doesn\'t trick or treat???

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 2:24am
Dunpun's picture
Joined: 01/26/2004 - 09:00

This year we are not trick or treating. My PA/TNA ds is going into kindergarten. We have always trick or treated and just sorted the candy & threw away any peanut products. My allergic ds is so sensitive to food coloring (it seems to take about 36 hours to get out of his system and he is like a monster from another planet during this time) I cannot feed him this junk anymore.....

We are going to find something to do this year instead and start a new tradition (don't know what yet) but I am shutting down the house (may get egged or something don't know).

What other things has anyone done besides trick or treating? Some act like I am doing my kids a disservice(sp?) by not going, but I don't really care what others think. Don't know if I should let them dress up for school and maybe go to a movie or mini golf, etc. something fun for all of us? What do you think??


Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 4:51am
Cindia's picture
Joined: 06/05/2001 - 09:00

This is what my son's class did a few years ago. I copied this from an earlier thread. It might be fun to do this at home. It would keep a Halloween feel. Then, perhaps you could see a movie or go mini-golfing afterwards.
I am so pleased to learn that my son's kindergarten teacher has decided to celebrate Halloween a bit differently than other classes. She calls it pumpkin day. There are no costumes and no candy or food of any kind.
In a sense, the teacher makes the day a huge, fun, science project.
Each table of kids gets a large pumpkin. The kids are then asked to make a series of predictions such as: How much do you think it weighs? How many seeds do you think we will find? How much do you think the seeds will weigh? Do you think the seeds will float or sink in water? and other questions of that nature. Then, the top is cut open and they get to dig in and get to compare their predictions with what they find.
I thought that this was just a wonderful, fun idea! Plus, I don't have to worry about the dreaded peanut in the Halloween candy.
Thought I would pass this on, maybe a trend will start, who knows?

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 5:41am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

Not trick or treating while all of your friends are seems kind of sad to me.
I would get a bag of appropriate safe candies (just a few) and lots of little dime toys.
Plan ahead of time that when you all get back from trick or treating you will exchange his entire bag of candy for the bag you have ready at home. K age is old enough to reason with a bit.
Or only go to a few doors and the day before give them what you want your child to have.
I think to take Halloween away from him, the T or T fun that everyone else does just isolates him further.
Might be worth a bit of brainstorming and you still have time to find little gifties.

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 5:59am
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Joined: 05/06/2003 - 09:00

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Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 6:06am
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Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 6:41am
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Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

I used 2 trick or treat but a couple of years ago more than 3/4 of the sweets contained nuts so we don't do it anymore INSTEAD we get to get

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 6:42am
becca's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Well, we do Trick or Treat, but we have the candy witch come and take all the unsafe stuff overnight, leaving non-food items or safe treats. This year, no candy at all from the candy witch. We leave the stuff on a tray table by the front door(the one that had our bowl of treats we give out). The naxt day, it has a stack of small gifts, books, etc...
I know you do not want to trick or treat, but you could, and just sub everything with a few toys this way. Of, make it sort of like Christmas eve, and set out some fun cookies or a piece of pumpkin pie(skipping the trick or treating) and she can still leave treats.
Other ideas might be going to a movie and later(when olde enough) a scary movie, collecting money for a charity or food for a food pantry(kids do that here), dressing up and still doing something in costumes, like your idea of mini golf or apple picking earlier in the day. The tough part is if you are home when others are out and about. I guess you need to be able to do your activity in the evening like that. Movie sounds like a sure bet for being available.
I support your choice. We grew up next door to a family that did not go door to door on Halloween for religious reasons. It was fine. We asked why and they told us, but nobody bothered them. My dd's friend does the same, but they do allow her the school celebration(they did not the first year, just kept her home). becca

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 6:44am
Dunpun's picture
Joined: 01/26/2004 - 09:00

I think the pumpkin day sounds wonderful. I can't quite think of not trick or treating as sad. My one ds simply cannot eat food coloring (which all of our safe treats have in them). My kids live a well rounded fun life with tons of experiences. They are not isolated beyond peanut safety. We don't want the candy, and I need to find something else to do that is just as fun and exciting.
Most of my son's friends are doped up on junk food and pop most of the time and it is not sad that I don't want that for my kids. We had a family birthday party yesterday and while the other kids had pop my kids had water. They didn't complain or feel left out at all. I gave them their water and they drank that while laughing with their cousins. Is that sad too???
I will definately exchange halloween for something worthwhile. I guess I will have to put up with some comments about doing the wrong thing.
Thanks for the great ideas, we will think of something fun
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Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 7:06am
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dunpun, I see where you're coming from and I also see where other people are coming from that do believe Hallowe'en shouldn't be something that is "taken away" from your children. If you were dealing with PA only, I would say that you should still trick or treat with your children, that it is still do-able, etc., but it's the food colouring in the "safe" replaceable treats that you're talking about.
Me, personally, I've always hated Hallowe'en (except one year when I took a little boy out my Mom babysat and the gentleman currently talking to me came with me - 30 years ago [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] )
However, we've always done Hallowe'en with our children (one PA, one non-PA) and we haven't even been thoughtful enough parents to replace the unsafe stuff. Perhaps because here, in Canada, "safe" treats are so heavily promoted and also because I felt they got enough candy even when you took all the peanut stuff out.
We had an incident the other day that really made me re-think my children's intake of chocolate, not that they do it daily. We had gone out on a long walk to run errands and to explore our new neighbourhood. The kids were fine. They asked if they could have a chocolate bar in the grocery store and we okayed it. They both chose Smarties and I swear, immediately after they ate them, they were off-the-wall!
I had to go into one store for just one second and their Father asked them to stay outside of the store with him. Did they do that? No. They came running into the store with me, but also very loudly and disruptive.
It was unreal and it was also an almost immediate change from their behaviour previous to them consuming the Smarties.
Having said that, we'll still be doing Hallowe'en this year, but I am really re-thinking my position on a lot of foods that they currently eat and I can tell you, it will be quite some time before they get a chocolate bar again, if only to test my theory on their change of behaviour that day.
I know that there is another member here who does not do traditional "trick or treating" and from what I understand, their family has a wonderful Hallowe'en evening regardless.
As I said, I do understand where you're coming from because the "safe" treats wouldn't even be okay and I really think any negativity you feel you may have already received in this thread was because people thought you were not doing Hallowe'en simply because of PA.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 7:33am
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Joined: 01/26/2004 - 09:00

You know my older ds can seem to eat junk without any behaviour changes. I'm sure it's still not good for him. My my PA son can eat a tiny little bit of coloring and he is a monster. He feels terrible, tantrums, can't listen, hits, yells at every little thing. When he is off this stuff he is happy, funny, smart, eager to do anything I ask of him. 100% turn around.
Anyway, we just had our snack and I asked the boys if they cared if we didn't go trick or treating this year (I know it's still a while away), they both said they didn't want to go (although they may when the time comes) and started coming up with ideas of what we can do. My youngest said we could dress up and go to people's homes and just say "no thank you" when they give us candy. LOL I will have them dress up for school I'm sure.
This year when the fair came to town I gave them the choice:
a)we could go to the fair
b) we could spend the money & get them both a fishing rod, go out to friends cabin, go boating and fishing and have a weiner roast.
They chose b and we had the most fun ever. They don't seem any worse for wear as all their friends and cousins went to the fair. They really didn't care & said maybe we'll go next year.
Thanks again everyone

Posted on: Sun, 08/22/2004 - 7:50am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

This topic just came up about a week ago. My 12-year old daughter stopped trick-or-treating last year because she wanted to hand out candy. Caused a little stink because the others wanted to stay home and do the candy too.
Well, my 10-year old said to me, "Mom, why do we even bother to go door to door because we throw out all our candy anyway." We really do. Everything in the bag gets thrown out when they come in the door, and I give them a bunch of safe candy to keep them happy for a week.
I say taking your kids out when they're young to go door-to-door is a good thing. Your kids can never say, "Why didn't you take us out like other kids?" If you want to throw away all their candy and replace it with what they (and you!) like that is a good thing. They may actually prefer money instead.
By doing it this way, your kids will eventually figure it out on their own--why bother. At least it is their decision.
I never wanted to deny my kids the same traditions I had, however the method we use lets them decide when they want to stop and we're virtually there. They're figuring out there really no reason to go (except for the sheer enjoyment of having people see them in their costumes) because they will get good/safe candy from me, and everything else they get from neighbors in thrown away.


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