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Posted on: Thu, 10/28/2004 - 7:26am
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Anna Marie, I agree that the visit should be pre-arranged, not just having every Mom and Dad (or guardian for political correctness) wander into the classroom to observe it whenever they feel like it.
I was met with such openness from Jesse's teacher when I made the request one night after having a discussion with her about something to do with Jess, obviously in class. I basically asked her permission and she gave it to me right away. No big deal.
That's why I can't understand why Momma Bear is getting such a run around about basically the same request I have already had fulfilled.
Same as for the party tomorrow. I went in tonight to drop off Jesse's donation to the party for tomorrow (mind boggled in the morning [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/rolleyes.gif[/img] ) and I told her that I'd be in around 12:30 maybe - that Jesse was extremely aware of his allergy and what he can't eat, for example he probably wouldn't eat cupcakes, etc.
Now, she had already given me permission immediately when I asked this also. To-day she basically said I didn't have to come if I didn't want to because she's extremely diligent about PA in her classroom and I do believe her.
I told her that the only reason I would come in was just to do a quick glance to see what was coming in (to me it's just checking to see if people are "getting it" for the first party of the year).
Sorry. That was all about something else.
As far as your situation and the field trip. I'm sorry. I would be bloody angry. You were clearly told that only 2 parent volunteers were wanted/needed/whatever and that because that number had been met you could not go. So why the third Mom now?
Is it a clique situation or something (I saw that in Jesse's school last year)?
However, I would be very angry if I were you - is the field trip tomorrow or next Friday? If it's next Friday, after finding out that there is a third party, I would pull the "parent designated supervisor" card and to he** with them. This ticks me off. You have a legitimate reason for wanting/needing to go. It's not so that you can la dee dah have a good time on a field trip.
I was going to say that now that we're no longer long distance, if you're concerned when your guy is away, you could always call me next week and I'll try to calm you down in my very calming voice (I've heard that about my voice recently [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img] ) but then again, you want the phone open just in case.
No, Anna Marie, I'm sorry, I'd be ticked right off. If a third person was all of a sudden going to be allowed to go, it should have been YOU. Period.
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 10/28/2004 - 12:54pm
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Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

AnnaMarie and MommaBear, you are both getting the runaround big time. When schools do stuff like this, I always wonder if they are afraid of what we will see. I would be very upset if I were either of you. I def. wouldnt put up with it.

Posted on: Thu, 10/28/2004 - 11:55pm
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The trip is today.
The mom with the difficult daughter couldn't get a baby sitter, so she told the teacher she couldn't go. Teacher got another parent. (Let's assume this other parent also put in request before me.) So, OK, fine.
The the mom did get a sitter. So, she told the teacher she could go. So, the teacher said fine, but didn't cancel the second mom she had gotten.
But, if she could take three, why wouldn't she allow me when I had a valid reason?
What I want to find out after school today is; is this other mom driving herself? is she paying herself?
If she is driving herself, then I have to say - OK, I couldn't and if there was no room on the bus, fine.
But, the thing is - I really think this teacher is good. I like her as a teacher, and as a person.
When we have parent/teacher interviews, I think I will let her know that come spring (and insect season) I insist on going on any outdoor trips with my son. It's cold here today, so little risk to him, but when the warm weather returns - I go or he doesn't.

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 1:43am
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Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

AnnaMarie, I think you have an incredibly valid issue to bring up with the teacher ASAP.
If I were you (and of course I am not so please don't think I am telling you what to do - KWIM?) I would make a time to talk with the teacher and let her know that you are confused about the way this field trip thing was handled. I would go into the details of what happened this time and see if she has an explanation.
Good luck!

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 9:50am
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Miriam, I love the way you wrote that. It made me laugh. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
OK - so here's what I found out after school today.
First mom (with difficult daughter) cancelled because she didn't have a sitter. Another mom took her place. One of the two mom's cancelled the day before the trip, and [b]then[/b] difficult daughter's mom said she did have a sitter after all.
So, in the end ---- two mom's went. Both on the bus, and paid by the school.
My son was in his teacher's group at the conservation area. He had a great time. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
I am still going to talk to the teacher about trips in the spring though.
[i]Additionaly lesson for teacher: Next time - pick a mom you can depend on.[/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 12:27pm
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Joined: 03/19/2001 - 09:00

Hi AnnaMarie:
Quick note to say, sorry that you are having to go through this...but delighted to see your son went on the trip, everything worked out okay and that he had a great time!

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 1:25pm
momma2boys's picture
Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

AnnaMarie, Glad he is ok, and had fun!

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 1:31pm
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Joined: 07/14/2000 - 09:00

[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] I swear I wasn't even trying to be funny!
So glad that all went well!
[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Miriam

Posted on: Fri, 10/29/2004 - 11:35pm
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by AnnaMarie:
So, in the end ---- two mom's went. Both on the bus, and paid by the school.
My son was in his teacher's group at the conservation area. He had a great time. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
I am still going to talk to the teacher about trips in the spring though.
completely understand. I mean, if you could have had this handed to you straight from the get go.................
yup. there's a lot of talk about things being more difficult than they have to be. This is a perfect example, yes?
Personally? One of the more difficult aspects of my job is not to be able to tell people everything they want to know about someone they love or deeply care for. Especially when I know it can offer solace. (HIPPA laws prevent me in many instances) [i]It even causes me suffering[/i]?
I'd hate to think people would leave others dangling purposely for no reason.
edited for numerous typos. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited October 30, 2004).]

Posted on: Sat, 10/30/2004 - 12:36am
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Yes - that's it EXACTLY, MB.
If she had just said "sure, he'll be in my group". There would have been no issue. I would have worried while he's on the trip (that's just normal, isn't it?) but I wouldn't have been fretting for a whole week.


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