Is your spouse as diligent when it comes to PA?

I must say that around me, everyone is pretty good, in general. I'm the most diligent, but I can't diss what my husband does. well, most of the time.
He will sometimes take DS to the park without any medication, since they have no intention of eating anything at the park. I had to point out peanut shells, and a half empty reese's on the ground to convince him that even if you don't intend to eat, there may still be peanuts around. But when he buys stuff, it's generally fine. Once in a while he makes a mistake, but so do I. However he never got the hang of soy allergy. Thankfully the soy allergy's been cleared by the doctor [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

I don't know that I would call it "not as diligent," but there are areas where our comfort zones are different.
For instance, if I weren't there to object, he would drop Tucker off at sunday school, which has rotating parents as the teachers, without explaining the Epi-Pen.
I of course am horrified by some of the things he would do that I wouldn't, while it is no big deal to him. Fortunately for my sanity, I'm there to intervene and overrule him. I have to admit that there are times that I wonder if I were to depart this world and he were in charge, if our son would be "as safe."
In the end, however, I know that my husband loves our son, is a good caregiver, and that he would do everything to keep him safe (in his opinion). So I chalk it up to differences in comfort zones, and go on with my day. It's not worth going crazy over "what-if's" and it's not worth causing such a conflict in my marriage over something that may never happen.
I don't know if you can relate to this or parts of this, but maybe it can help a little.

Well....my dh and dd are both pa and tna, but believe it or not, it's me that is the most diligent! Just this a.m. I found a milky way wrapper in my dh's pants pockets. He said he always has eaten them. he doesn't even keep his epi-pen with him in the winter and certainly wouldn't ever wear an epi-belt or anything of the sort. It's so frustrating, his comfort level is definately way better than mine.
Tamie

My husband is very good about the allergy, but I always remind him to take the epi-pack. He has forgotten it in the car on freezing days. I am the one who takes care of checking all the food and places my son nears. I have researched everything and put together a school plan.. Even though he doesn't "do" much he supports my efforts tremendously and tells me often how much he appreciates that he doesn't have to worry about "it" when I am around. He goes with me to meet with my the school administrators. He tries to educate people whenever he can, but,for some reason, the motherly instinct perhaps, we don't forget when it comes to the peanut allergy and the men do. It is foremost on our minds. Our husbands just don't have that instinct. Just be thankful you do and work with your husbands strengths.
Then again, everything I said does not apply to the creator of this site-- Chris!!

My hubby and I are about on the same level as far as diligents is concerned. We are very careful, but we are both very relaxed/ laid back people, so to others looking on we may not SEEM diligent at all, but inside we are ALWAYS on guard. We handle a lot of situations without anyone knowing there is anything wrong. We are a really good team. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Take Care,
Amy

My husband is not very diligent at all about my son's allergies. He has never witnessed a reaction and really has no idea what one looks like or how utterly horrifying it is. I think he just figures that I will take care of everything. He used to not even believe that our son was allergic to peanuts! He had his first reaction at nine months to peanut butter ice cream and for the longest time he would tell people that he thought ds's face got hives "because the ice cream was so cold!" Even the trip to the ER didn't change his mind. He was in denial until our first allergist appointment when our son tested positive for not only peanuts but also tree nuts. My husband has never been on this board even though I have told him about it a zillion times! He too would leave the house without the epis if I didn't remind him. Although to his credit, I have heard him explain the allergy to strangers quite well. I guess he really does listen to me he just doesn't take a large share of the responsibility.
Jaime

I find everything out, I come here, I talk to the school, and I tell dh everything he needs to know. Therefore he automatically comes away knowing less, as I am sure I do not tell him everything I read here. He is very careful, but would never ask someone to put away nuts or such. He might not wipe a table in a restaurant if I were not there. Those things. He does carry the epipen everywhere and is better about its care porbably moreso than me, who froze the darned things twice already this year! I just spoke to him about looking for info on his own. My rationale is that he needs to really read and see some of the reactions and stories to have it all sink in better, and he might very well catch or remember something I forget or missed. He said he will do that, but we shall see. becca

My very dear dh usually will just follow my lead. I'm the one reading labels, calling manufacturers, asking at restaurants, educating the family and school, and I do sometimes have to remind him to remember the Epi, but he, too, is very appreciative of all that I do, so that he does not need to. He knows that I need to do all this for my own peace of mind, so he just lets me go at it.
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Be safe,
~Dawn~

Similar to some of the other posters, I am the one who checks this website, reads up on the allergy, calls the school, calls ahead for birthday parties, makes sure the perscription is up to date, etc. I then relay all of what I can to DH. Like Becca said of her spouse, he probably has less knowledge because I don't rattle off everything to him. But he is pretty good about following my lead.
I would like to add that this site has been a really valuable source of information!
Regards,
Kelly