I have a very concerning question about one of our members?

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 3:32am
Claire's picture
Joined: 04/19/2000 - 09:00

I know that this may sound a little out of sorts,but it is bothering me. Does anyone here think that maybe Lisa is not one of us. Maybe she is just trying to get to us. Remember when we had the people starting trouble before saying horrible things to us,and we ignored them and they moved on/
My reason for wondering is because she has never answered any of my questions about reactions and really ignores how we feel and how to help the situtions we have. I refuse to start arguing with anyone I just wonder if I should be reading anything she writes or blowing it off. take care claire

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 4:40am
katiee's picture
Joined: 05/09/2001 - 09:00

Hi Claire,
In my opinion, blow it off. I resolved not to respond to any of this beyond letting her know that, here in Ontario at least, the Ontario Human Rights Com. considers PA a "hidden disability". Funny thing is, she did not respond! Go figure.
The sad fact is that she seems to have taken over the boards with her negativity to the point where some of us don't even want to post and that's just sad.
This person craves attention, any kind of attention (good or bad) and we (myself included) have all take the bait. The only way to be rid of this is to stop responding to her or talking about her in any thread. It just feeds her already huge ego. I kind of feel badly for her, she needs help big time!
Just "my" opinion and the last I have to say on this issue.
Take care,

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 4:52am
erik's picture
Joined: 05/15/2001 - 09:00

Hi Katiee,
Thanks for your sensible and logical advice [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] The last few days there have been numerous helpful postings/threads out there so I think things are returning to normal.

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 5:22am
Fran's picture
Joined: 08/09/1999 - 09:00

We are all best to ignore people that are so negative. Remember WHY we are here, and continue to be positive and help each other and our children. Let's not waste time answering people like that, but rather continuing in our real mission here. Everyone is under enough stress keeping their beloved children alive, without getting involved with ignorance. Let's all just move on and only reply when it's "for the cause". Unfortunately, alot of feelings have been hurt...but to all of you that this has affected, just remember that we are ALL behind you 100%...there are just too many good members, REAL members, who have put their hearts, souls, blood, sweat and tears into creating a place we can all come to for positive learning, help and support. To all of you out there who give your all for your children each and every second, minute, hour, day after day...don't quit. We need you! Don't let them get their claws in and drag you down to their level. We are all in this together, along with the hard work of Chris and his family and everyone researching and helping our kids. "United we stand". Keep posting where and when it counts, everyone and God bless you and your families.
Stay Safe,

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 6:36am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I agree with katiee and Fran. Just ignore her. I have stayed out of those heated discussions on the other threads. I could see the more other members responded to her, the more ambivalent she became. She craves attention and ruffling other peoples feathers. These boards are here for support and information, not to criticize each other.

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 6:50am
Dawn's picture
Joined: 02/22/1999 - 09:00

I agree, we should ignore her, though things just don't sit right with me. If you read through her posts in the "Girl Scouts wants to keep my daughter's identity w/held due to PA", there are some interesting comments...some that support her most recent behavior and some that contradict it...leading me to believe that those who suggest she is not all she claims to be might be true. It kinda made me feel like she was taking notes. ("Keep talking to me.") But anyway, she seems to have settled down and hopefully has become bored with us.

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 7:35am
synthia's picture
Joined: 10/05/2002 - 09:00

PS Don't lose sight of what we all are here for.
Love this site
[This message has been edited by synthia (edited January 15, 2003).]

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 8:07am
Claire's picture
Joined: 04/19/2000 - 09:00

Great info and thank you to all. You must all understand my reason for starting this thread is because I am so caring for anyone with the PA allergy and want to make sure I help the ones in need. The answers you all gave me remind me of my children when they argue. I always tell the other one to "close the curtain and pretend He/she isn't here right now. Thank you all. claire

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 9:38am
Dawn's picture
Joined: 02/22/1999 - 09:00

LOL!!!! Yes, Claire, exactly! And with 4 kids myself, I'm starting to say this in my sleep!
Be safe,

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 1:46pm
Anonymous's picture
Anonymous (not verified)

Claire, as the Mother of your 16 year old son, I have also been inspired and motivated by you. When Peg541 joined us a couple of weeks ago with an 18 year old son and she had a thread go terribly bad, I e-mailed her to tell her how much I admired her and YOU. How Mothers like you have paved the way for ALL of us that follow.
You did not have the internet. You did not have this support group. Yet, your child survived and you survived. Quite frankly, I can understand how your child survived, but after my head exploding constantly re PA, I wonder how you did.
You are a brave, decent woman. You have always responded to people on this board with caring, kindness and concern. You have much information to share with those of us who want/need and may I say most importantly APPRECIATE (I'm not screaming, sorry, just don't know how to do the dark lettering) your words.
I am very upset with myself for becoming embroiled for what seemed like days in a big mess here. But I felt what I felt and I posted it. I feel badly that I felt that way and I almost went and edited all of my posts that were nasty and negative and yes, downright bi*chy.
I can't lurk on this board. Never could. I came on last night and saw the My Apology thread and I thought, no, I can't go back yet, it's making my stomach sick and I can't read it (of course, I read the whole thread but I just didn't respond).
What I decided to-day, when I had to visit the PA Penpals thread was that this site can be the same as your television set. If you don't like a thread, don't enter it (I mean me). Come and visit the board and enter the threads and respond in the ones where you feel you might offer some information, caring, support, encouragement, etc. Stay away from those that you know are going to upset you (unless it's *good* upset like when you get more angry about what's happening to someone with their family not understanding than they seem to be [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] ) and give to the other people that need you and take what you can from the people that are willing to give it to you.
I'm sorry, Claire. I don't know if I ever told you what I just said now and if that's one thing that comes out of this whole situation on the board of late, then I'm pleased. I am motivated and inspired by you Claire and hope you never leave us. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 01/15/2003 - 8:34pm
Claire's picture
Joined: 04/19/2000 - 09:00

HI cindy,
I really appreciate you taking time to let me know what you have. I have been having a very hard time with dealing with the allergy since the posting about the death a the gentleman from PA. Going to a dinner party is such fun and should be as well. It just bothered me to think he has left a small child and wife behind and was such a good guy. Just when I think the allergy is going to be easy there comes another turning point. chris saw me cry when i shared this article about the death and it had a nasty impact on my day. I explained why I drive him crazy with questions so much.
Just last week he found a safe donut that he can have. YOU should have seen his smile. He was so excited over eating a donut. I think he ate the whole box. I wish I had his smile on film that day. He sais to my DH "Gee dad donuts are good". he has never found a safe donut. Now we can not find that kind anywhere. They were a glazed one.
Coming to this web site gives me such a good chance to talke with people that care. I think a lot of people care but this site is just a little bit better for support. take care Cindy and thank you. claire


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