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Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 12:30am
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Quote:Originally posted by kcmom:
I also sometimes think that maybe this was handed to us to make me a better person! I have so much more compassion for other people's situations now. Not that I was not compassionate before, but I think I am more now. I don't like to think so but I probably never would have realized the seriousness of food allergies before PA, and maybe I would have been one of these people that just "doesn't get it". Pa has taught me a real sense of being sympthathetic to other people's situations, and that I need to give more of myself to people and be more aware if I expect to get the same back. I guess what I am trying to say is, even though PA stinks, I think it has made me a better person in a sense! I like to think that if dd did not have PA and it was a friend of her's who did, that I would do my best to understand and keep her safe, but that is easy for me to say now, maybe I would have had a bit of a 'not my kid, not my problem' type attitude. I hope I would not, but you never definetly know how you will feel about a situation until it happens to you.
That was worth reposting. (Actually, the entire post was worth reposting). [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Thank you!

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 12:35am
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Joined: 11/14/2001 - 09:00

I quadrupled that wow.
I think what you said is very true.
[This message has been edited by smack (edited February 26, 2003).]

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 12:42am
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Nope nope NOPE
Been there, done that. Don't know the specific ingredient, but something in red licorice made my son literally climb walls. We had a very bright two year old who injured himself in the most UNBELIEVABLE accident. Took him to the hospital for stitches and KNEW they would not believe how the accident happened. We also knew if we lied, he'd tell the truth and we'd really be in trouble. Well. We told the truth. So did he. Several times each. They sent us to an exam room to wait for the doctor. It was taking forever. When DH left to go to bathroom, there was a security guard standing outside our room. They had actually called CAS to investigate. Well, eventually, the doctor came, and saw our son literally climb the wall. He stitched him up and sent us home. Told nurse she was looking at a law suit by keeping us there (feared he would hurt himself more with all the doctor's toys around).
Back to LD question. Same son had LD. Actually, non-verbal learning disability. My initial answer to the first question was, yah, I'd pick LD over any food allergy. But then, we found good support for our son, and it's not an *unknown* for me. My LD son graduates from college this June. (He was planning to go back, but has since changed his mind and will settle for one degree.) And there are many different types of LD and many different degrees of it.
Karen - I think it is great that your hubby is now working towards helping others. Some of the best help we received for our son came from adults who had severe learning disabilities. It also gave me my best hope. I had a child who's IQ testing hit the top of the chart and yet he couldn't read or spell a simple word and 8. Although, he could read dinosaur names at 5.(His IQ isn't actually as high as the first test showed. The psych who did it just got over excited and probably made some mistakes.)
And those who think LD is easier to deal with than allergies, many teachers don't know any more about LD than they do about allergies, you still have to stay on top of them.

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 12:51am
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

loved your post. It's such a big world, isn't it? No one knows till they have been in your shoes. Again, loved your post.
Just for clarification, was the "nope Nope NOPE", in response to WOW WOW WOW, or my most recent question regarding PA and behavior disorder? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] (I know, I probably shoulda made a separate thread, but it fit in so well here) Again, thank you for sharing your experience. It is invaluable.

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 1:05am
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Joined: 08/16/2000 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]Thought about this today. Would we trade our child's PA allergy for a behavior disorder? A severe behavior disorder? One that is triggered by common ingredients in our food supply: (ie dyes, lactose, sugar, etc?) [/b]
I know where you're coming from with this question...
No, I wouldn't trade. I've seen the skin "burn" off my mother's hands and feet from eating certain foods containing red dye. The skin literally peels off as if badly sunburned. (albeit not a behaviourial reaction - but scary nonetheless)
There are always worse things and better things... (and I understand now what you meant by "giving as good as you get" - hope the orifice is healing nicely... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 3:30am
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

kinda tuff standing while typing. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 5:03am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
Just for clarification, was the "nope Nope NOPE", in response to WOW WOW WOW, or my most recent question regarding PA and behavior disorder? [/b]
It was in response to:
Would we trade our child's PA allergy for a behavior disorder? A severe behavior disorder? One that is triggered by common ingredients in our food supply: (ie dyes, lactose, sugar, etc?)
Since I think while I'm typing, I'm slow. (Typing I mean, not thinking.) Didn't see the WOW WOW WOW til after.
I know where this is coming from too, and debated staying the he** out of it, but, I've learned so much from others experiences. Also, I'm still trying to get adopted. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] (Though now, I want to be adopted by your parents.)

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 9:11am
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Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 1:57pm
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Joined: 09/21/2002 - 09:00

I really agree with your posts Mommabear. Nobody really knows what it's like until it happens to them.
I've been blessed. My worst ailment has been my allergies, and failing math in high school. I have so far never lost anyone really close to me, broken any bones, or had to watch my child deal with anything other then some stitches. I've had it easy.
On the other hand, I've seen how LD has permenantly affected my DH, and how hard he works to get all those A's in university (yep-you saw that-straight A's-am I proud? Darn right I am!) I've lived and worked with kids with almost every ailment imagineable. Severe behavior disorders like the ones described, bi-polar disorder, mental illness, you name it. And from my own experience, I wouldn't trade PA for any of them. If more people had your perspective Momma bear, this world would be a whole lot less judgemental.

Posted on: Wed, 02/26/2003 - 3:01pm
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Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

I do believe you paid me what is probably one of the best comments I could ever receive in my life. Thank you. Speaking as a mother of two children with special needs myself(aside from PA), I hope you realize there isn't a compliment I could pay you that would adequately express how appreciated you are. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]



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