other pa child- you wont believe this !

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 3:32am
momma2boys's picture
Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

Well my "baby" went to school today and the school has done a wonderful job. They have gone out of their way to protect my ds. The only problem is I miss them so much I think I was kind of hoping theyd give me a hard time so I could just homeschool him! But he loves it.

I had to go back in to give my older son medicine and both boys were at lunch. Well my ds is supposed to sit at a desk pushed up to the end of the lunch table and I go in and hes sitting at his desk eating about 5 feet away from the table. Apparently the lunch monitors say they were told he wasnt even supposed to eat in the cafeteria. He didnt seem to mind at all , but I was about to cry. But it got taken care of while I was there and it was fine.

Now, there is another little girl in his class whos mother told them is pa but its no big deal. So the nurse called the ped. and the mom and said , she needs epi, etc. The nurse got documentation from the dr. saying it was a mild allergy and no precautions were needed. (think thats bad, just wait!!)

So my ds is sitting next to her at lunch and she calls my sons aide over and shows her that she has a pb&j sandwich in her lunch!!! Told her to throw it out, she didnt want it. I about died!!! What in the world is this mother thinking? Even if its mild, which we all know may be severe at any time, why would you give her pb&j??? I can tell its going to be fun dealing with this mother.

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 3:58am
supermom's picture
Joined: 09/02/2003 - 09:00

WOW! That blows my mind! What is she thinking? or should I say Not thinking??!!

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 4:07am
StaceyK's picture
Joined: 05/06/2003 - 09:00

I will never understand parents like that. I have relatives who allow their young children to take all kinds of risks that I find shocking - and guess what - their kids are always showing up severly bruised, burned, and with broken noses. They think I'm a priss and that I overact. Whatever! Poor little kid you are describing. Her mother has no clue and could kill her. Awful.

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 5:01am
wendysco's picture
Joined: 05/03/2003 - 09:00

What is even scarier to me is that the doctor who is supposed to be an educated man wrote a note saying that no precautions were needed. Even if the parent is an idiot, the doctor should know better.

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 5:50am
Love my C's picture
Joined: 04/03/2002 - 09:00

I believe it. But I don't necessarily believe it may be that the mom is being reckless.
If her child hasn't had a bad reaction to peanuts, and the child's doctor has given her no education on peanut allergy or epi prescriptions, then she may not have researched peanut allergy at all. You'd be surprised how little many peds. know about the serious nature of the allergy.
When my son tested positive to peanuts, we were not given epi scrips. I asked the ped. if I could give him a little peanut butter as he had never tasted it at this point. You know, the question "how much is too much?" She said, "I wouldn't". And that was that, until he had a contact reaction over a year later. That is when I looked into peanut allergy and found out how serious it was.
You may do the mother (and child)a service in giving her some facts about PA.
I'm glad to hear your son is adjusting well to school [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 6:16am
becca's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

I believe it too.
There was another child in an afternoon preschool class that had my dd's teacher. She, on several occasions, made mention of this girl with PA, "but only mild." "The doctor even said it is only mild." She was allowed all sorts of things I would not allow my dd to have. I couldn't always tell if the teacher was truly nervous about it and talking to me or comparing up and letting me know I was a thorn in her side in a passive-aggressive way.
Also a mom on this street works as a nurse and is pretty up on health in general. Her dd has had Rast for some sort of nut allergy which did come back positive and she says, "but it is only mild." Doesn't know or has not disclosed which nut, dd has epi Rx. in a cabinet at home, school does not know, neighbors do not know. Child is about the neighborhood on her own(10 y.o.) and tells me about foods making her mouth itchy. Parents blow it off and tell her to eat. They find her to be dramatic, I know, and they do know her, but I would take it seriously. I am just glad when she comes here to be a mother's helper, I have a safe house food-wise, and lots of epipens around!
Go firgure. becca

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 10:04am
cooper's picture
Joined: 12/20/2002 - 09:00

I agree that the child's ped. may be incredibly uneducated about this allergy. When my son was two and given peanut butter, he had a reaction. I called the doctor, who said, oh kids outgrow these kinds of things -wait a couple months and reintroduce it. Yikes. Lucky I never decided to do that, but I completely believed the guy because I didn't know any better then. It was only after talking to my own doctor that I found out how dangerous it is and got a referral to an allergist. This was eight years ago, I try to be kind to myself and say, well, not as much info was out there at the time. But I certainly learned not to blindly accept information. I bet this mom doesn't know any better and maybe hearing from another health care person could change her mind, as it did mine.

Posted on: Wed, 09/03/2003 - 10:09am
momma2boys's picture
Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

I agree that the mother is probably just misinformed and told them to tell her she could call me and I could give her more info.
One of the things that is making me crazy is I believe she has the same ped. as us, so am I supposed to just blow it off next time we are there??
Im pretty scared what could happen to this child. It was pretty weird too because it wasnt even a whole sandwich, just like 2 strips. And the child obviously knew not to eat it, nor did she want it.

Posted on: Thu, 09/04/2003 - 12:52pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Wehave 4 other PA kids at my ds school. ALL of them are very very lax about it. They too will have pbj's and eat may contain candy frequently. I have felt like calling HRS and ratting them out for child abuse.

Posted on: Thu, 09/04/2003 - 1:38pm
Driving Me Nutty's picture
Joined: 05/01/2003 - 09:00

I would be tempted to say something to the ped for the sake of that little girl. Maybe in relation to comparing her style with yours or something. The doctor should know that his flippant comment about 'no precautions needed' was taken to the extreme for this parent.
It is hard to blame the mom entirely since most parents rely on doctors. After my friends' 9 mo old tested postitive to peanuts, her pediatrician told her to try to give the baby a taste of it in 6 or 12 months to see if she was still allergic. Crazy. I'm glad I've been discussing all of this with my non-PA friends and my friend was aware of it enough to ask me if this made sense.
Also, could the sandwich have been a mistake? If the mom has other child(ren) at home, maybe it wasn't intentional.
Good luck!
Mom to 2 y/o Karissa (PA >100 CAP RAST)

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