Yes Dear


Anyone see last night's episode of Yes Dear? The grandparents were visiting and grandpa offered little Sammy (maybe 2?) some peanuts for a treat. Sammy ran out of the room. The dad reminded gramps that Sammy is allergic to peanuts. Gramps said, oh yeah, so what's that mean, he gets hives? The dad said, "Uh, it could kill him." In a later scene, the granparents are lamenting the fact that poor Sammy will miss out on pb&js, reese's cups, snickers, etc. (The pa was not the main storyline.)

I thought it was ok. They showed Sammy running from the room, obviously knowing to stay far away from peanuts. They mentioned that it could kill him. And despite the fact that it was kind of dumb to have the grandparents pitying him for missing out on pb, didn't we all go through a little bit of this when our kids were first diagnosed? They didn't do a lot of education, but I think it helped raise awareness. I'll be interested to see if they stick with it, or if Sammy is eating pb&j in some future episode. I don't watch that often, but I'll keep an eye out.

On Dec 18, 2001

It is a great show! Although it was not the subject of the episode at least the show is consistent with Sammy still having a PA. If they can throw in a reference to it every once in awhile and raise a little eyebrow about it then hats off to them. Their tiny effort is alot more than any other network's level of responsibility. [img][/img]

On Dec 18, 2001

Although I have never watched that program, I happened to stay tuned to it. I was extremely happy that they mentioned peanut allergy. It was well done. The grandparents feeling sorry wasn't my favorite, but they were the "B" grandparents anyway. haha. I plan to write the network. Ataboys don't always happen and this one should. Awareness is 9/10th's of getting the severity of this out ...

On Dec 18, 2001

I didn't see the show, but I have to say that having the grandparents feeling sympathy for the boy having to "do without" peanut products added a dose of realism, in my opinion.

I can't tell you how many times people feel sorry for Cayley that she can't eat a PB sandwich or indulge in Reese's Pieces - when in reality, these PA kids don't miss what they've never had!

Anyway, I think it's a normal reaction and even though we don't like it, at least they brought up the issue. Maybe some non-PA viewers even realized that the grandparent's reaction is ludicrous and perhaps they caught the irony that these folks actually think the little boy misses a food that could kill him. It *is* ironic, isn't it? [img][/img]


On Dec 18, 2001

Linda from Mass, so they've had other shows where they talk about Sammy's pa? I remember a Halloween episode, but I don't remember if they brought it up then. Don't recall any mention of it in other episodes I've seen. It is nice if it is an ongoing thing that is periodically mentioned.

On Dec 18, 2001

I had a different view on the show. I did see the episode and felt as though yes it was great that sammy ran out of the room at the sight of peanuts. I did not like the way the "B" grandparents were just discussing what he would be missing ie. candy, PB etc.. I just think the network had the grandparents make like of it. That is only my point of view, of course. I was a little disappointed. Although I am happy someone is addressing the issue, they should have portrayed the issue more seriously.

On Dec 22, 2001

It sure makes me nervous when I seen these PA topics raised on sitcoms, even if they are not obviously ignorant or misleading. CBS certainly seems to have a large contract with the Peanut Industry, as seen in such shows as Survivor and Big Brother, (peanut butter everywhere.) It's one thing to covertly market their product and quite another to (possibly) attempt to influence public opinion regarding PA. Such a move would be unethical if not downright despicable.

On Dec 22, 2001

It is a sitcom, they really can't address it in a totally serious manner. At least they are addressing it to some extent. Perhaps they will have the grandparents wise up in future episodes. And come on, be honest, who hasn't had someone in their lives act the way the GP's did regarding PA?

On Dec 22, 2001

Why is this a topic in a sitcom at all? It seems a little strange---as strange as it showing up in 3 different sitcoms in 3 months. I'll be watching with interest to see how far they take it. I'm hoping that they don't make any choices that could endanger PA children.

If CBS does have a contract with the Peanut Industry, they would definitely consult someone before approaching a subject that has been negatively affecting the Industry's profit margins.

On Dec 22, 2001

To answer your question, river, PA is in sitcoms because it's in the news. I went to a comedy club last fall, and PA came up because peanut-free schools were in the news at the time. I think the joke was "Why do we need peanut-free schools? If your kid is allergic to peanut butter, tell him he can't eat my kid's peanut butter sandwich!". (Oh, hardy-har)

So, sitcom content is definitely a barometer for what's new in current events. I think all we can do is what we ARE doing - watch, absorb, react. If it's great - tell the studio. If it's inaccurate - tell the studio. At least the subject is getting out there.


On Dec 24, 2001

I saw the episode and was very pleased to see PA acknowledged on a highly watched TV program. I don't understand why people are questionning CBS's reasons for having this portrayed on a sitcom. I highly doubt that this is a conspiracy to help the peanut industry. My guess is that a writer for the show knows someone that has a child with PA and thought "this might be interesting to put in the storyline." Jonathan's grandparents are the first people to sympathize that he can never eat peanut butter meltaways or a PB&J sandwhich. It's ridiculous, but by them telling people "his sad story" they are helping increase awareness of PA. Most TV exposure helps increase that awareness. Despite what we told her, my own Mother in Law never took Jonathan's allergy serousily until she saw some drama show where a guy had a PA reaction after kissing a woman that ate beer nuts.

On Dec 24, 2001

I saw this episode and I was very pleased with the way it was done. I didn't feel the grandparents behaviour was out of place. I too, went through the same emotions when I found out my son was PA.

PA is a normal part of life for a lot of people, just like it is for this family on YES DEAR.

Job well done.

On Dec 27, 2001

This is not about a "conspiracy theory". This is the way business is conducted everyday especially in the US where the media is a powerful medium even in the form of a sitcom. Why do you think companies pay big bucks just to have Jerry Seinfeld eat a handful of ceral from the clearly visible Reeses Ceral box? It's BIG business!

Peanut allergy has been identified as a factor in lower peanut consumption and especially fewer government purchases:


The Industry is particularly concerned with the removal of peanuts from the classrooms:


That's why they are such big supporters of FAAN---they like their policies. As far as I know they're not throwing money into this website. Not that this website has policies; only that it fully supports the American right to free speech --- and some of those speeches would not do anything to help profits.

I'm not saying that the Peanut Industry is run by Dr. Evil and his loyal band of evil doers, only that it is run as a business and any business is going to use damage control strategies when profits are threatened. The more money a business has, the more it can afford the most sophisticated strategies.

Who knows, it could also be the saviour of the PA, if there is a breakthrough in medical research. They are also the only ones who seem to be funding the search for a "cure". Good things can also come out of the drive for profit.

I just think---well if I were a high payed marketer, how would I approach the PA issue to assist a peanut-profit client. What would I do with a show like "Yes Dear". Well, I think that I'd take the passive-aggressive mother-in-law approach. (ie. Darling that dress looks wonderful on you. It makes your bum look so much smaller than it really is.) Then slowly I'd build up the the school issue, (big $$$ lost there), and somehow plug the "peanut-free is a bad thing" message, by presenting a psuedo sympathetic situation that supported some argument against peanut-free schools.

Anyway---we'll just have to watch and see. Maybe I'm wrong---I'd be quite happy to be wrong in this instance. But if I'm not, I'll tell you this now---I'm going to change my user name to Fox Nutler of the X-Nut Files.

The truth is out there---da da da daaaaaa!

On Jan 10, 2002

I was very happy to see the allergy mentioned and to see that they acknowledged it as life-threatening, even if it was in the context of a joke (Joke was on the out-of-touch grandparents for not knowing such a basic thing about their grandson). I veyr much hope that they stick with it and mention it in future epsiodes.

On Feb 1, 2002

I saw another episode, and although pa wasn't mentioned, the mom was making cream cheese and jelly sandwiches for her son's preschool class. So at least they didn't forget!

On Feb 4, 2002

Another episode tonight! Included a scene at the end where the father was going to probably get beat up by a very large man while at the movies. The son picks up a peanut containing candy bar on the lobby floor. The father notices and punches the bigger man (knocking him over) and goes to the boys rescue.

The next scene shows the boys perspective of trying to save his dad from the bully, he picked up the peanut candy bar to make his dad react.

------------------ Stay Safe,


On Feb 5, 2002

I'm so impressed with this show and its inclusion of the allergy. The mother said to the father at the end "you knew your son's life was in danger and you saved him, you're a hero". They didn't misrepresent the allergy at all. Just wonderful. Going to shoot off an e-mail to them now and tell them so!

Here's the website...use the feedback button at the bottom. I hope everyone sends them an e-mail so they'll do more shows like last night's episode. They have the power to educate many people who may not know about the allergy!


[This message has been edited by Heather2 (edited February 05, 2002).]

On Feb 5, 2002

I just e-mailed them to say I haven't ever watched the show, but will now because they are bringing awareness through T.V. for people with food allergies.

On Feb 5, 2002

I saw it too and was very pleased. They really had the allergy as a theme runnign through the whole episode. First, the mother established that the little boy is allergic to peanuts just like his father is to strawberries. Then as the previous poster wrote, the father proved his toughness when he effortlessly punched out the big hulking man who had been bullying him to get to his son who had picked up a candy bar with peanuts. He said "Sammy's life was in danger" so he was able to do anything. The ONLY problem I had was that the goofy brother-in-law character at one point implied that the father's passing down of food allergies was a sign of weakness--and that the father had to "break the chain." BUT, on the whole, I think they did a very good job--managing to deal with it a humorous way yet still emphasizing the seriousness of it. I'll definitely send an e-mail.

On Feb 6, 2002

I saw that episode. I also saw the show about two weeks ago and the mom made Cream Cheese and Jelly sandwiches to take to nursery school. I wonder if he is allergic in real life because normally they would do a PB sandwich. If he is allergic for real then they certainly will have it realistic. I never heard of the cream cheese and jelly. take care claire

On Feb 6, 2002

I saw last weeks's show and I was very unhappy with food allergies being portrayed as a 'weakness'. This is what I just sent to CBS:

I have a 6 year old daughter with a peanut allergy. I am generally pleased with this show and how it presents the peanut allergy. However, last week's show portrayed having a food allergy as a weakness. I'm sure you're aware that a person cannot control whether they have a food allergy. To say someone has a weakness because of a food allergy, is to say someone is weak because they have diabetes. Having a food allergy does not make a person weak, making fun of someone because they have a food allergy is a sign of weakness. I wish when that comment was made, there would have been a rebuttal to that statment. Also, there was a 'joke' about being able to take out his familiy with just strawberry and a peanut. That also was just a cheap shot and should have been recognized as such. This show does a good job showing how to 'physically' take care of someone with a food allergy, but I believe the show needs to show the characters being more supportive of a person with a food allergy.

On Feb 6, 2002

I'm going to continue to play the devil's advocate on this one and add a little criticism of the show.

How realistic was it in terms of a real PA parent's experience. They had no worries about going to the theatre in the first place. No worries about what people around them were eating, (talking is the least of my worries.) The threat was eliminated simply by knocking the candy out of the child's hand. There was never any concern regarding traces on the baby's hands or clothing, or reactions to smells, (which is our biggest problem.)

In another episode that had nothing to do with allergies, one of the character said loud and clear the word "Benadryl". Contracts have been signed by different companies around the theme of allergies, but we'll have to wait to see the direction it takes.

On Feb 6, 2002

I think you're right. They do a good job showing 'surface' information about food allergies, but they are not realistic about what it means to have a food allergy. If my child had touched a candy bar I would have wisked her away and immediately washed her hands, face etc. And of course worried for the next 4 hours that she still might have a reaction. Is it because it's a 1/2 hour sitcom and not a documentary on food allergies? Is it becuase food allergies are a 'downer'. Is it because they don't have enough information? Is having some mention of a food allergy better than having no mention at all? Or is it giving the general public 'false' information and making us seem like over-reactive parents when we do take our normal precautions. I don't know, I'm just raising the questions.

On Feb 6, 2002

I have mixed feelings here. I think that maybe the dad saying at the end "lets go get his hands washed off" would have been good. I also agree that the comments the BIL made about taking out the family with a strawberry and peanut should have had a comeback and portraying it as a weakness is bad. BUT, I think the pros far outweigh the cons. The important thing to me is that the awareness is getting out there and they consistently talk about it as life-threatening. I think if every time the family went out, they scoured the area for peanuts, people watching the show would either turn it off or not believe it. Peanut allergy is a part of their lives, but it's not the only thing in their lives. I think the show portrays that appropriately. (This is not a criticism of those parents who need to take more precautions, but some of us have more lax comfort zones because our kids are not as highly sensitive.)

On Feb 6, 2002

We will all never totally agree if a TV show is protraying the allergy "just the way we want" it because we all have different experiences and views. I don't want CBS to be discouraged from this storyline as I am glad the topic is at least on the table!

On Feb 7, 2002

This is a half hour sitcom, for them to acknowledge the way we all deal with PA to the fullest, there would be no time for comedy on the show. Then no one would watch the show. Then the show would be cancelled. Then NO ONE would become more aware of PA. I agree, let's not discourage CBS from addressing PA. No medium will ever portray PA in a way that everyone will agree... there's too many of us. Having a PA character on a highly watched sitcom is a good step for adding awareness. Atleast that's my opinion. I'm off to email CBS right now!

On Feb 25, 2002

Well I think they blew it this week. I turned the show on right in the middle to find the brother-in-law in the kitchen making a pb&j sandwich. They even had product placement--Jif. Makes me wonder if someone in the pb industry noticed the ongoing peanut allergy storyline and threatened to pull advertising. As far as I could tell, there was no mention of safety. I didn't see whether he used the same knife in the jelly jar--he was already on the jelly when I tuned in. The mother, who is a neurotic type anyway, so you'd think she'd keep a peanut free home at a minimum, was there smiling away not saying a word. Boo hiss. I realize not everyone with a pa child keeps a peanut free home, but something could have been said--"I knew Sammy was in bed" or "I remembered to use a separate knife" or something like that. Before I send an email to the show asking if they are bowing down to the peanut industry gods, did anyone see the whole show?

On Feb 26, 2002

When is this show on anyway, I keep on forgetting the title of this show, so when I scan what's on, in my head I'm thinking is this the show?

Bensmom, that stinks about them eating peanut butter, it's a bit unrealistic. If they were doing it at night when the child is sleeping, still a few words would be said about safety or even guilt in eating it at all.

On Feb 26, 2002

smack, "Yes Dear" is on Mondays at 8:30 on CBS. It's on right before "Everybody Loves Raymond" which my husband and I like to watch together (marriage counselling, lol) so I usually catch at least the end of it. I try to watch it now just to see how they handle the pa.

On Feb 28, 2002

While I think it's good that peanut allergies are at least mentioned on a network show, tell me if I am being over sensitive here: Sammy is presented as a sweet kid, but a bit of a dork (can't make friends in preschool, etc). It seems to me like they use the allergy as part of his dorkiness. Has anyone gotten the same impression, or am I way out of line here?

On Feb 28, 2002

NO I don't think you are out of line,but I don't think they are using the allergy as a Dork thing. I just think they are trying to make both families totally different. The ones in the back yard are ding,dongs and the ones with sammy are protective and very loving. I myself see me more of the Sammy mom than that of the ones out in the back yard. I don't thing they are even thinking about the allergy being involved in that. I just wish I could be as energetic as Sammys mom. I always forget the names so please excuse me for that. Take care claire

On Mar 1, 2002

You're right, that's a better way of looking at it. They portray Sammy's parents as very, even over, protective, and the allergy gives them another reason to be super protective. Thanks for putting my paranoia in perspective!

On Mar 26, 2002

this morning i am actually angry with yes dear. I love the show and don't usually put it down. Last night however when the couple decided that with Greggs allergies they didn't want him to be the doner to them because he was a "mess" with allergies i did get angry. Chris even thought i had reason to be mad at the show. Anyone here see it. claire

On Mar 26, 2002

Yes! my dh and I were watching the show too. I was hurt at first too. It felt like they were saying no one would want our children if they had the choice and that hurts. None of us I am sure would trade our kids for kids with non- allergies, but if we had the choice we would surely choose that they didn't have these allergies.

On Mar 26, 2002

I watched the show too. However, I had the opposite reaction. As you may recall, Greg's allergies were compared to his brother-in-law's baldness. Now, how many of us would choose not to have a child with a man based on his genetic predisposition to male pattern baldness? It is just plain silly. As silly as choosing not to have a child with a man who has multiple allergies! The whole point was for the infertile couple to make a big deal out of trivial "defects", if you will, that each man possessed.

I applaud Yes Dear for continually mentioning the families' allergies. It shows us that allergies are part of everyday life for some families.

On Mar 26, 2002

Well maybe if I hadn't had such a terrible day with Chris yesterday it would not have even bothered me. Chris was having Asthma trouble and i guess I was already in a b****y mood.I should have looked at it the way you all did. Sorry I even brought it up. claire

On Mar 29, 2002

Claire, right after I saw the show that night, I wanted to get in here and post because I was as angry as you were. However, my DH put it in a different perspective for me (such as another person posting above has) and I restrained myself.

The cousin's baldness was an issue for the couple wanting his sperm. However, Greg's multiple food allergies plus his use of Rogaine (obviously baldness there too) had him ending up being called "a mess".

Now, if you look at all of the things that can be genetically passed on, DH and I certainly shouldn't have had children at all. But we did and hopefully they'll be okay. Sure, Jesse has PA and environmental allergies and asthma and Ember has asthma, but I still don't consider them unwanted candidates for breeding in thirty years (please notice the time-line I have put on their reproducing! [img][/img] ).

I do like the point above where it mentioned that regardless of how PA was handled that night, it still continues to be handled and gets it "out there". Remember, when couples are looking at particular sperm donors in particular, they are probably looking for the "perfect" donor.

However, Claire, I think I still feel the way that you did initially. I don't think his food allergies should have been a reason for him not to be considered a sperm donor and being called "a mess".

You're also right in that it depends on what's going on with you and your child's PA (or your own) and how you respond to these things. Some days, I cringe when Ember is watching PB&J Otter (Peanut, Butter, and Jam - or is it Jelly) and other days I just let it go.

However, again, I think it strikes a cord with us that in the future our children may be considered undesirable as husbands or wives because of something like food allergies (or baldness).

And Claire, stop apologizing dear woman. If my husband hadn't almost literally been holding me back from the computer, it would have been me posting with the angry face smilie, believe me! [img][/img]

Yes, Dear isn't even a show that I like to watch but I believe it was Going Nuts that mentioned above that she catches it sometimes when waiting for Everybody Loves Raymond. I loved what she said about her and her husband considering that show "marriage counselling". Off-topic, certainly, but I think Raymond is such a wimp with his Mother and I really identify with Deborah! [img][/img]

Best wishes! [img][/img]


On Jul 2, 2002

Hi, did anyone see yes Dear last night. Little Sammy almost ate a What looked like a baby ruth bar to me. Greg had been accused of being a whimpy kind of guy. he was about to fight a guy when he sees little Sammy at a distance about to put the candy into his mouth. The Father instinct kicked in and he punched the guy in the face and ran to save Sammy from the dangerous Candy bar. It was great. Of course they didn't go into great detail but the show was really good. I mean they only have a half an hour to do the show so they need a story line and all. The ending was great. My kids were so frighened about the outcoming for little Sammy. I sat there as if it was my own boy. I am screaming and holding my head hoping they save the baby. Chris was extremely interesting with the episode. It was as if it was my own. I sat there explaining to my little one how it was kind of pretend,but if it was ours we should immediatly go to the rest room and was to remove the conamination. I give Yes Dear 2 thumbs up!!!!!!!!!!!!! Claire

On Oct 29, 2002

Last night my 14 year old PA son was watching Yes Dear - I was on the computer and not following the show. He said - they're talking about epi-pens so I came over to see a man eating in a restaurant starting to panic, his wife charging at him with the epi, he drops his drawers in a comical fashion in the middle of the restaurant and she injects him. I don't think I've ever watched an entire episode of Yes, Dear but since I've seen a couple of threads on this show, they seem to bring in anaphylaxis occasionally. I grumbled that they're making fun of food allergies and my son basically told me to lighten up because it was funny. Anybody else see the show?

On Oct 30, 2002

My husband and I saw it and well, we were laughing. I complained that they should have known to inject the epi right through the pants, but it was kind of funny. I guess in my opinion, anything that raises awareness that food can kill some people is good. As the father was eating the food and the mother was starting to tell him "I think you're having an allergic reaction", I was wondering if they would have an epipen on them and they did, so I thought that was good. I can see people being upset about it--it is a serious issue, but it didn't upset me. My son is 7 and didn't see it. I don't know what he would think.

On Oct 30, 2002

I saw the episode and was a little disappointed that they are still writing "allergy skits" into their show. They likely have a contract with Dey Laboratories that they needed to fulfill, and I'm hoping that's the end of it.

At least they could have tried to be a little medically accurate. The epi-pen was given closer to the knee than the thigh, there was not hospital trip after the injection and a short while later the guy with the life-threatening reaction was at another restaurant wolving down 'whatever'.

It's just stupid and thoughtless to do this. Doesn't the network have any worries at all that some ignorant person is going to do the wrong thing based on what they saw and they'll end up being sued.

Surely they can find someone with enough imagination to create lame sitcom jokes around topics other than life threatening medical conditions.

On Oct 30, 2002

I saw the episode and was happy that they showed an actual epi pen. To tell you the truth I wasn't disappointed in the show. It totally got everyones attention and We all need to realize that any information that is put onto tv is a great idea to let people know that there is such a thing as an epi pen. Chris said kids were all asking about how to use his and saw one on tv. Maybe us adults can not adjust to the whole thing but the teens did talk great with chris. I totally understand how you people feel though. claire

On Mar 4, 2003

They had another scene last night or tonight about PA. I didn't read all the previous posts, so forgive me if this is something they do all the time on this show, I don't watch it, but my SIL commented on it said they were in a rest. and he was eating caviar, and whoever was with the character playing the PA individual, was noticing his hands swelling and that he was having trouble breathing and then she had to give the shot. Could be an old episode too, I don't know.

It does raise awareness, but on the same token, like my SIL, people believe what they see on tv. The reason it came up was due to me rec'ving the letter from our allergist, discussing the fact that the dr didn't feel it was necc. to go to the hospital after injection. That's when she brought up the show and said, he didn't go to the hospital afterwards or anywhere......Argggh... [img][/img]

Can't win for loosing sometimes..

On Mar 29, 2003

I was just on FAAN's website and read that Greg Garcia, producer of "Yes, Dear", just rec'd an award for "Public Awareness".

"FAAN is proud to present this year's recipients of the Mariel C. Furlong Award for Making a Difference." "Individuals were chosen based on their contributions in the creation of food allergy awareness programs, education, and advocacy. Thanks to all of you who sent in nominations."

On Dec 11, 2003

I saw an episode of this the other night. They didn't mention the PA at all during this episode but they did mention that the sons favorite ice cream that he was going to eat after dinner was "chunky monkey". Anyone else see anything wrong w/ this one!! NOt being picked because I don't expect much from TV, I just thought you might all find that as annoying as I did.

On Jan 28, 2004

Did anyone ever see the one where the dad was wrestling the woman in the grocery store for the last box of peanut free granola bars? It was so funny. I was so excited because it looked like a real brand. I had never been able to find a brand that didn't have peanut flour. We never found that brand. It took about a year and then a new brand came out with no traces of peanuts. Not even a may contain.

Angie dd 3yrs PA, TNA, Dogs, Cats, Mold, Dust, Dust Mites, and more

ds 6 yrs no known allergies

On Jan 28, 2004

Where did you find safe granola bars? What brand are they?


On Jan 30, 2004

We live in Iowa. We got them at a Fareway grocery store. I can't remember what brand they are. I've bought them twice and we don't have any right now. I think it's Kellogs and it still says NEW on the box. I'll check tomorrow and let you know.

On Jan 31, 2004

It's Kelloggs Nutrigrain Granola Bars and Granola Bites. It says Allergy Alert: Wheat and Milk Ingredients. I didn't see anything in the big list. They seem safe to me. She ate some but didn't really like them. Doesn't that figure. All that time looking for peanut free and she doesn't even like granola bars. Oh well. If they do have them where you are check the list, I'm sure you would anyway. For example Twinkies and other Hostess products are safe here accept for the muffins but in other states they are made in different factories that produce unsafe products. At least thats what I've read. Anyway, hope this helps.

On Jan 31, 2004

Thanks HappyMom. Yes, you are right about the Twinkies. They used to be safe here, but no longer are. I used to depend on them for a birthday cake subsitute.

I'll check out the Kellogs granola bars if I can find them here.