Wow....just when I thought we were moving forward...

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My son is about to enter Kindergarten in the fall. Until then, he is about to go into a summer program at a pre-K he attended last year. Apparently there has been some backlash from a parent about being "nut safe" and that they are "going overboard as a precaution". The director actually asked me to if 1) it would be okay if my son ate with the teachers in stead of the children, and 2) if it wouldn't just be safer for us to hire him a babysitter at home. Suffice it to say that I unleashed an enormous "teaching" on her, which brought her to tears (emotional tears....not from anything harsh from me). In the year 2011, are we still not clear on the fact that 4 and 5 year olds don't have the ability to advocate for themselves or protect themselves adequately yet, no matter how much teaching we do?????????? Is it not clear yet that kids should be with kids to the greatest extent possible???? What about social responsibility? Wouldn't that parent who has the bone to pick have a lot more damage control to do for his child if she got to see a child suffer anaphylaxis or worse because of the lunch she prefers, rather than if he told her she would have to wait until she got home from camp to eat the PB&J sandwich that day???? Mind you, this is a 2 day per week program. God, this just makes me want to move to an area where people are more apt to "get it".......

By cervonil on Jul 6, 2011

it is amazing to me how many mothers don't care about other children. It's appauling really.

By jessicaNJpa on Sep 16, 2011

that is so sad that someone would actually get mad about that. question for all of you - do you and your child remain anonymous (i.e. the parents know there is a pn allergic child, but not WHO it is) or make it known who you are? which way do you think is better?

By jessicaNJpa on Sep 16, 2011

that is so sad that someone would actually get mad about that. question for all of you - do you and your child remain anonymous (i.e. the parents know there is a pn allergic child, but not WHO it is) or make it known who you are? which way do you think is better?

By TracyC on Sep 17, 2011

Jessica - When my son started K a week ago I introduced myself and told the three parents I was sitting with at orientation that it was my son who had the allergy. My philosophy is that it is a lot more difficult for a parent to be cruel and insensitive to a child they know, rather than some anonymous child.

Plus, the kids certainly know who the allergic child is from knowing who sits at the allergy table so it's no big secret.

Nikkiz - Have a 504 ready when your son is going into K.

When you encounter the difficult parent, all you need to say is, "My child has a LTA and the school has a legal duty to keep him safe. Removing PB from the classroom (or whatever measure is being taken) is one way they are going to accomplish that."

Some people see things solely the way they see them and no amount of rational discussion will change their perspective. The normal, caring parents of the world will 'get it' and will go out of their way to keep your child safe, as you or I would for another child. Do not waste your time with the idiots. Just repeat the above words.

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