Would you send your PA child to a school that refused

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 11:56am
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to take any action to decrease the amount of PB served or brought into the school?

If grade level would influence your decision, what grades and why?

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 12:48pm
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My son currently attends the school district preschool. The kids bring in their own snacks from home. The teacher has allowed me to send letters to the other parents asking them not to send peanut snacks, or may contains, but there is no rule about what they can send. The school has a full time nurse, who has my son's epipen and antihistimine in her office.
The elementary school my son is supposed to attend (beginning fall of '04), also has no regulation of peanuts. They also have bake sales with homebaked goods. They only have a nurse on site one day a week. All medication must be locked in the nurses office. The school secretary has a key. I have often walked by the office and seen noone there. What would happen in an emergency?
While you were just asking about the presence of peanuts, the issues of medication access and allergen presence are too intermingled in my head right now for me to answer one without the other. Sorry.
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Jean
mom to 3-year-old with PA

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 12:54pm
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For the sake of discussion (oh, goody) [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
let's say the school in question satisfies one's requests for accomodation regarding medication.
(Jean, thanks for helping me clarify that [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img])
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Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 1:34pm
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I did refuse to send my son to a preschool that made it very clear that it would be an inconvenience to them for me to send my son's snacks in and thought it was preposterous that he should not sit next to another child eating pb.
I also asked permission for me to send a letter to the parents regarding my son's allergy -not asking them to [i]not[/i] send pb, just asking them to avoid it if possible and if not possible, to understand that my child would not be able to sit next to their's if pb was brought in.
Permission denied.
So basically, my son did not go because they were not willing to make reasonable (in my opinion) accomodations. Even if they were willing to meet my every request regarding medication, their unwillingness to understand the need for precaution in respect to exposure was way below my comfort level. At any age. My son is also allergic to bees. Would I encourage him to be a beekeeper? No way. Off the subject, but to me, same threat.
Editing in to say that I feel that just because they are willing to meet my needs in having medication readily accessible, does not necessarily mean they are willing to be ready to handle an emergency. If they don't make the necessary precautions to [b]avoid[/b] a reaction, I would not feel confident that they would be ready to handle one.
Anxiously awaiting your rebuttal, MommaBear. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by Dawn (edited April 14, 2003).]

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 9:23pm
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Quote:Originally posted by Dawn:
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Editing in to say that I feel that just because they are willing to meet my needs in having medication readily accessible, does not necessarily mean they are willing to be ready to handle an emergency. If they don't make the necessary precautions to [b]avoid[/b] a reaction, I would not feel confident that they would be ready to handle one.
Anxiously awaiting your rebuttal, MommaBear. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
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[i]No rebuttal here, Dawn [/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
I'm not into [i]Martyrdom.[/i] And placing a child in that situation creates a strong potential for it (Martyrdom).
[b]I. M. H. O.[/b]
Loved your beekeeper example, BTW. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
MommaBear

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 10:18pm
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[quote]Originally posted by MommaBear:
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[i]No rebuttal here, Dawn [/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Aw, MommaBear! I was thinking you would have a different angle to look at.
It was an emotional decision not to send him, but certainly (imho) the right one. They were numbskulls at that school, and I guess a numbskull is still a numbskull at any angle. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 10:29pm
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Quote:Originally posted by Dawn:
[b] They were numbskulls at that school, and I guess a numbskull is still a numbskull at any angle. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img][/b]
(Clouds parting and a single ray of sunshine pierces the meadow............)
[i]There's hope for the neurotypicals yet.[/i] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Again, no rebuttal [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
MommaBear

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 10:35pm
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PS Dawn,
although I am entraced by a hearty debate that brings forth other's personal insight, (as we are all unique and diverse), I can't argue with Common Sense. BTW, I truly can [b]appreciate[/b] your post.
Heartily,
MommaBear [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 10:57pm
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MommaBear,
I see that you have lots of fans [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 11:14pm
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I took my son out of school in large part because of the way they dealt with peanuts. They try to make accomodations, like having a special 'allergen free' table, but they were inconsistent with recognizing my sons PA and I was told repeatedly by my step-son who attended the same school that my son was not at the 'allergen free' table and when I asked my son, he said his teacher wouldn't let him sit over there.
Add the PA to his Asperger's Syndrome (high functioning autism) and the horrific way his disorder was dealt with in the public schools and home schooling began too look REALLY good.
Fact is, at this point I would never send my child back to school. My PA daughter is only 2 and because of my experiences with my son, I have no intent to ever put her in any kind of school or daycare. For me, it's too much to expect the schools, other students and administration to make the accomodations necessary for my child to be safe AND get an education.
And I fully expect my son to be finished with high school by age 16 at the rate he is going now. He is 7 and starting the 3rd grade curriculum next week. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] And he is happy and peanut free, to boot!
~Melanie

Posted on: Mon, 04/14/2003 - 11:42pm
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Refused is the key word for me.
I ask, they refuse me, entirely, I would not send my child.
We work together on solving problems, I would consider it.
Refusal to me is saying more about an entire attitude rather than my specific issue.
They are surely of an attitude to be "refusing" lots of others on many levels. becca

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