Why Are You Here

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Hello I am just curious to find out why everyone is here at this site? In some ways my question stems from tinah's post of what's going on here. That post and the way I was spoken to here got me wondering that if there are so many of us here that are new why don't we all give a reason as to why we are here.

I am here to learn everything that I can about this allergy. Yes it scares me to death but at the same time it doesn't. No I am not one who has banned peanuts from my house. those who can eat it are allowed with lots of hand washing after as well as brushing of teeth. I take a mild mannered approach to it most days and it does not run our lives most of the time. I like to here all the views being posted here because sometimes I feel like keeping my son in a bubble and at other times I just want him to do everything others do with out any restrictions. I was sad to see that some people are leaving this site. I feel it is very valuable and often times catch myself from posting out of frustration, knowing it will sound wrong. I hate being confrontational but at times I am. So how about it yes this isn't the intro board but really how many people actually go there to read the posts? Why are you here maybe this will help to clear the air.

On Nov 2, 2000

yarnwoman, My views are pretty much like yours. I'm sort of laid back, i.e., I also allow other family members to eat peanuts with very careful supervision and my son's life is very unrestricted. The only real differences in my treatment of him is that I am not yet at a point where I will let him go to a birthday party alone yet, whereas, at almost 6, my daughter was. I have been dealing with this allergy for about 5 years now and I am past the learning curve portion. I mainly visit these boards now to see how others with children the same age deal with it such as areas of dining out, sports teams, school, etc. I look for innovative ways that others deal with parties, field trips, etc., and of course I am always looking for "safe" foods and treats. This board provides the most valuable resource for this information than any other website or publication out there. When I first came to the board I was searching for support and looking to others to validate that what I was doing was okay. I no longer feel the need for that and I try not to do that in return as someone always seems to get offended or will criticize me for seeming to be relaxed. Christine

On Nov 2, 2000

THEN: I started here last year to get information and support. NOW: I still come here and read some of the posts to learn of anything new or to offer some support. However I'll admit that lately I'm a little hesitant of the latter as I don't want to be chewed up and spit out!LOL (I'm sure glad that I didn't "just" find this site now.) A lot going on here that has nothing to do with support and information.

On Nov 2, 2000

Diane and Christine thank you for your posts. I get the feeling these baords used to be alot different from the way they are now. But I am still in the learning stage as if it is possible his allergy is getting worse. I.E. more rashes and such. So I am trying to be as informed as possible. But still myself have to indulge at times what is forbidden to him. Maybe these boards will turn around again.We will just have to wait and see I guess.

On Nov 2, 2000

I'm kind of past the support stage, also. Now I just come here to see if I can learn anything new. A few months ago, my son started to have what seemed like asthma symptoms so I knew I could come here and do a search and get a lot of information on asthma. There's always someone on here who has already been through it or has the answer to a question.

I'm also glad I didn't just find this board. I feel sorry for all the new people coming into this. But if you can get past all the B.S., then you really will learn a lot. There's a lot of great information out there. Deanna

On Nov 2, 2000

Yes, misunderstandings are easy on this board. Sometimes I reread my posts before I reply, and I realize it sounds like I'm telling the person what to do, when what I'm trying to do is tell the person what I would do. My own definition of support is "Give me options!", whereas someone elses definition might be "Tell me I'm doing OK". It's hard to read the difference in the inital post, sometimes.

I'm skeptical about things, by nature, you know, a new idea... well - prove it to me! Sometimes it needs to be proven to me over and over again, until I "get" it. Then, lookout - I'm converted! LOL! Other times, I realize I will never to converted to another's point of view. I know how difficult it is when you are saying something you think is positive, and other people aren't "getting" it, but everybody doesn't HAVE to think the same - that's what makes the world go 'round!

I was very nervous to make my first post, as a 'newbie', but I'm obviously past that now! Using the 'search' function is helpful retrieving info when you don't want to read thread after thread, and there are so many positive aspects of this board, I do believe we will see a turn around.

Welcome to the board, everyone, and think positively about yourself. Don't hesitate to post, just think carefully about what you want to say - I myself have deleted my own posts (with an effort!) that I have written in frustration, or anger. I am always glad later that I didn't send that message to the board, after I calmed down! Take care, everyone! Carolyn

P.S. I have learned more about PA at this site than any other, and I am a Web Surfer, so I'm definitely here for the information!

On Nov 2, 2000

Hi all, Since May, when I found out about my son

On Nov 2, 2000

Good topic! I come here to read about the allergy and surrounding issues...to see what the general consensus is to dilemmas and concerns that crop up with the allergy. I also come here for further allergy education although we all need to know that input here is from a variety of sources so we need to weigh the information received in our own minds and follow up with expert advice if still unsure.

It is a good resource for me to hear about other people living with the allergy...to see the range of reactions (physical..the PA person and including the mental, spiritual, and social lives...that of the PA person and their loved ones.)

I like to see where I fit in on the broad spectrum of ideas presented and hopefully to be more accepting and open to other responses differing from my own.

On Nov 2, 2000

I'm here for the information - the alerts, recalls, things others know their kids have reacted to, how to handle school, etc. Sometimes things can get a little heated, but the information shared here is invaluable, as far as I'm concerned.

On Nov 2, 2000

I definitely first came to get educated and now more just to find out if anything is new. I like the school stuff the best because I feel it is the biggest challenge. I get frustrated by some posts ( esp. lately) so I just yell or talk to the computer screen. I find I can get my anger, name calling out before I post this way. Of course my husband thinks I am psycho.....

On Nov 2, 2000

Hi,I am here because I was told my someone that I know this board existed and maybe I should check it out. I was interested in the food recalls and then one day I saw an interesting post I felt I needed to reply to. It was about a person feeling that schools should not be aware of a childs allergy to nuts. I was hoping I could convince this person to tell the school because of concern. Then someone e mailed me at home one day because my son is a teenager they felt maybe I could share some experiences. Now I am almost wondering if I just enjoy discussing things with other moms and not just because he is PA. I mean that is always at topic,but sometimes it is just nice to hopefully help a pre school child with an idea we found helpful or make a parent see that at 14 we have dealt with it and our life is normal. Maybe I really don't need this site but I enjoy reading and sharing with others. I am trying not to become a pain in the rear but maybe at times this site could do without my letters. I think I shall take just a few weeks off to think about why I do go on. If I find I can not stay away I will come back with an answer as to why I could not stay away. Best wishes to all. Claire

On Nov 2, 2000

Like the rest of you I started using this website for information and it has been invaluable to me in terms of learning about things to watch out for - both foods and situations - even though I rarely post. I think I am in between in my attitude, as I don't allow peanuts or products in our home, but I don't want my daughter's life to revolve around her allergy. She has only had one reaction at about 14 months which was scary in terms of hives and swelling, but luckily no respiratory involvement. We don't know yet how sensitive she will turn out to be, and if possible I don't want to find out the hard way. So this site has been great for things to watch out for. I think the reactions to some of the threads have been quite sad (I first noticed it on the NAET thread), and I wish we could all just accept that we have different views and attitudes without getting defensive, and try to learn as much as we can from each other.

On Nov 2, 2000

Hi. Like almost everyone else, I am here mostly to get as much information about my son's allergies as possible. I joined last year when we found out he had the allergies, got pregnant a few months later, my husband changed jobs....blah blah.....I didn't get back into this site until a few months ago and I'm glad I did. I think the biggest reason I came back is because of my new daughter... I want to know if she's going to be allergic. I guess only time will tell. I appreciate all of the important information I get here (I just realized our epi-pens were expired thanks to a thread here.) I'm glad I have a site that I can come to when I need to vent-like when I gave my son real milk, instead of soy, or when my brother joked about giving my son peanuts. The support you get (usually) is very helpful. I enjoy reading the posts and I hope they continue to give me good information. Colleen

On Nov 2, 2000

When I found this site, I was fairly new to the internet and I really wanted information on Jesse's PA. Well, I stopped my search with this site. I have found it invaluable.

I enjoy asking questions and seeing how other people deal with PA compared to me. It has allowed me to appreciate that we all don't deal with it in the same way and that's okay.

I have found the support, caring, and understanding so wonderful that despite "a thread gone bad" I can't consider leaving. It was wonderful this week, for example, when I got the allergist's results, to be able to post with my [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/confused.gif[/img] smilie and so many people were so eager to help me out.

I also explore PA, especially at the school level, now that Jesse is in his 2nd year of school and I do a lot of research and letter writing and I also make sure that I post every single bit of information I receive about PA on this site to share with other people. I feel like if I have this particular piece of information, everyone should have access to it.

I've also found that I've needed a lot of advice re how to deal with the school, how to deal with situations that are new to me, etc. and I have always gotten a good answer here. I have nowhere else to turn for this type of advice but this site and I feel that's okay.

I enjoy reading the posts of the PA Adults, who give us hope, courage, inspiration, to know that our children will lead "normal" lives despite them being free of peanut products.

And, for people that are newer to PA than I am, I hope that I am offering the same type of support, caring, and encouragement that I have so often received on this site. (I've also been reamed terribly too, but I've decided I don't give a toss about that!).

Sharing information and discussing. Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Nov 2, 2000

This site is now becoming my 411 of the Internet. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I've put off dealing with my allergy (denial) for too long. I now have two beautiful little girls, am not about to find out if the're allergic (too young), and am ready to arm myself with information, it helps me feel in control.

I realized this would be a long journey for me the day I went into anaphylactic shock, I called my mom and to let her know what was happening, she left to come see me at the hospital (1 hour away) she told my dad and he called 911, I had already left to drive myself. While I was gone the firemen had come in the house through an open window, a large amount of my "new" neighbors had come out to see what was happening. When I came back home the next day after being in the ICU overnight, the joke was that the firemen were saying a girl on Almond Street had a reaction to Almonds. Ha, ha, ha. No one believed it was serious, when I look back, I didn't want to believe it either. It was actually a reaction to Walnuts, not Almonds.......although Walnut Street was four streets up, (yuckkkk). That was my second clue, the first clue was the morning at the hospital they gave me my breakfast, with a muffin on the side. The muffin had walnuts on it....ahhh!!!!!!! So that's why I'm here, to research, to learn from everyone and maybe somewhere a long the way to make a difference. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Connie [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

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On Nov 2, 2000

Well, when I first came here (as in very first time) I was hoping to find some information about peanut allergy in connection to immunizations. At the time, we had known Matt was allergic for almost a year, but didn't really think it was a big deal. We thought it was kinda like being allergic to strawberries or something. We hadn't bought any peanut butter or other obvious peanut products or those with "may contain" labels that jumped out at us (we were NOT checking every label at that time) since we found out he was allergic. We did this not so much out of concern for Matt's safety, but more along the lines of "Matt couldn't eat it, so it wouldn't be very nice to eat it in front of him" type thing. Well, that and we didn't want to have to worry about his older sister giving him something with peanuts in it. Anyway... when the site first pulled up I noticed the poll, and remembered I had heard a rumor at some point that PA could be life-threatening. So I started looking around the site.

Once I hit the discussion boards, I was hooked. By that point I had seen enough to 'get the gist' that PA was really serious, and that I knew absolutely NOTHING. I first did a search on vaccines, but just from reading those posts I decided that the whole question of whether or not Matt's FTT battle last was tied to PA was not what I needed to be focusing on right now. So I posted my intro and then just started from the top, reading as many posts as I could. I also opened up several of the links I found as I was going through in new windows. I think at one point I had 6 different windows going. One for the boards, and the other five for the different websites/articles I was browsing through. Ok, not browsing. Reading every word and soaking it all in.

So at first it was simply information, I guess. Now, while I am still looking for (and getting!!) lots of information and answers to various questions that pop into my or my husband's head (at odd hours, I might add!), I'm also thoroughly enjoying the communication. And on top of THAT, my husband and I (now that we are "PA aware") are QUITE interested in doing our part to get things changed to make things safer, easier, and more pleasant for all PA-affected individuals.

As for coming in on all the discord...it hasn't really bothered me all that much. I just skip over the stuff that I think is truly bitter and distasteful. I belong to several different email mailing lists and this kind of thing happens all the time over there. In my experience at least, the first time it happens (generally after several weeks or months after the groups was first started) is almost always the worst. Seems like after the first major blow-up has blown over and people have calmed down, things don't progress near so quickly or harshly in subsequent events. Don't hold me to that though if in 6mo we have an even bigger and nastier blow-up! ;-)

On Nov 3, 2000

I joined this site while still in my initial panic stage about my son's pa diagnosis. I needed a crash course on the subject and this was the best spot I could find. Since then I've calmed down quite a bit (maybe [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]) and have certainly gained an education and a half about peanut allergy.

I am guilty myself of having started an argument thread (re: nuts in the home), but learned a lot from it nonetheless. I am not put off by disagreement or by vehement arguing of one's views. In fact, I relish it as food for thought. What a dull world if we all agreed about everything. I do feel there is sometimes a lack of "maturity" in the way people "talk" in their posts, but "sticks and stones"... If something strikes me as unconstructive and mean, I just click to the next topic. I remember reading a thread that had degenrated into who was bashing who's religion. That stuff I avoid.

I simply find sometimes that in the quest to be totally p.c. (necessary I guess when dealing with large groups to circumvent chaos) clear delivery of valuable info is lost sometimes.

Now, I try to sift through the threads for bits of info I am interested in, and when I come across info or have a question I think may be of interest to others, I post. I am also very grateful to have made a friend through this site who supplies me with great research information. To any newbies out there I'd say just try to be selective about the information you're trying to obtain. Don't be afraid to post questions. A lot of pa vets out there have great info to share.

On Nov 3, 2000

In the beginning, I came because I seemed to have little in common with the moms on some of the other allergy boards. Eli is allergic to milk and eggs (not peanuts) but it is a severe anaphylactic allergy. He has gone into anaphylaxis from milk spilling on him, with no ingestion.

So, I came on over and joined the PA moms.

I wanted to learn, teach, comfort, and swap stories.

I find myself coming less and less. Mainly, because I seem to have a very firm grip on Eli's allergies and what we need to do. I pop in occasionally to see what is going on, and if I have learned something new to share.

Kristene

On Nov 3, 2000

What a great idea! A way to introduce ourselves! Just like most people here, I came for helpful information. I am an adult with PA, TNA, and a celery allergy (that is a strange one!!) living in MN. This is the second time I have posted anything. Most of the info. I have found has to do with kids, but some of it is still helpful to me. I haven't been through many threads (I'm new here)--are there any threads that deal exclusively with adult's allergies?

I consider myself middle-of-the-road about how I deal with my allergies. My husband can eat nuts whenever he wants (we don't have kids, so I don't worry about encountering messes), but he also knows how dangerous it would be for me to eat them. He asks more questions than I do when we eat out. My husband--always the protector!!

I like the information I get here, even though I find the tone of some of the threads very angry or pushy. I just move on when things get too intense. I know that the world needs to take PA seriously. But, on the other hand, I think it would be a lot to ask that the entire world give up eating nuts.

I hope that I can find more threads like this one! It is friendly here...

On Nov 3, 2000

Jennifer I am very concerned about this and glad I found you. My son is 14 extremly allergic to nuts. Have you ever had a reaction from your husband eating nuts and then coming near to you? No I am not trying to embarass you,but I know that when my son ever starts dating this will be in my head. You don't have to answer me I will understand if it is a personal question. I just know that where I am from they even make Peanut butter lip gloss. Thanks and good luck. claire

On Nov 3, 2000

"Why Are You Here?"

Lol, I love that topic heading, even if it is not meant to be humorous, as I first thought it would be.

Well, I post here sporadically, at best. Why? Well, to check out the Alerts and Recalls, see if I can offer any answers for people's questions, and things of that nature. If work is slow, I'm definitely here more often.

I got pretty inflamed a week or so ago with a NAET poster. I probably got a ton of flack from people here with the way I chose to conduct myself. Well, you know what? Who cares !?!?!? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I never went back to read the reaction I caused because I figured it probably would've been critical of me. I don't need that kind of karma right now. That might be a good idea for a few people here. I mean, if you don't read what people say about you, then does it really exist? Just post your response and leave, especially if it's a controversial one. It might save some heartache (I'm thinking of jdickson right now).

Did I even answer the question? Sorry if I didn't! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]

On Nov 3, 2000

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On Nov 3, 2000

rilira - I just can't shake the image of you yelling at your computer screen - what a great way to relieve tension! I think a lot of our husbands (or wives) must think we're pycho at times, because it's hard to understand why we're so upset about something, when they're not involved with the board. Thanks for a good chuckle! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Take care, Carolyn

On Nov 3, 2000

Claire,

I haven't had a reaction from coming in contact with my husband after he has eaten peanuts, or any other kind of nut. (For me, almonds are more dangerous than peanuts.) I do, however react to lotions, shampoos, etc. that contain almond oil. My skin gets itchy, red, and swollen. My husband has had to cut off my wedding ring before because of it.

I should relay, though, that according to what I have read here, I don't react as severely as other people. (Thankfully, I have never had to use my EpiPen) But, it pays to be careful. Nobody knows what the next time will bring. Because of this, my hubby does take precautions. He washes his hands and face and brushes his teeth after eating nuts. Just out of his respect for me (to be my "partner-in-crime"), he chooses to not eat nuts very much, only when he visits his parents. And, we don't have any soap, shampoo, etc. in our house that contains nut oils.

I hope I don't sound too bossy, but I would tell your son to be a little cautious. Not only will he have to be concerned with what his date has eaten, but he may also have to be cautious of what his sweetheart may have used in her beauty regimen. You wouldn't believe how many shampoos, lotions, bubble baths, and other beauty supplies have nut oils. (For me, Bath and Body Works is a dangerous place.) I'm sure when your son finds a girlfriend worthy of his terrific spirit, she will want to know more about PA, and will not mind reading a few labels.

I hope he doesn't let PA put a damper on his life. I have a husband and many friends who are very supportive and know what I have to deal with every day. I have a new friend (who I have only known for 7 months) who reads labels, just to see if I would be able to use the product--whether or not I will even see it. There are going to be people who refuse to "get it", but they're easier to handle when you have friends who back you up. I hope your son can find many friends like these, and I hope he enjoys his last few years before he has to enter the "real world".

Hope this helps! Take Care!

-Jennifer

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On Nov 3, 2000

When I first read this question my first thought was "because I don't have a life" (SHAM with 3 kids! LOL) but truthfully, for myself, I stumbled on this site shortly after Wade was diagnosed about a year or so ago. I was trying to get as much information as I could on an allergy I knew very little about. I look at this site as a sort of "support group" for lack of a better term. I's nice to be able to come here and know that other people have experienced many of the same thing as my family has. I also come here for the links, information, recalls etc.. I am grateful for the information that is so close at hand (thank's Chris). As for some of the "nastyness" I have seen in some the threads lately all I can say is this kind of thing will happen sometimes and you just have to remember that we are ALL different and have different ways of coping with this allergy. I simply remind myself of that whenever I read something here that I don't agree with and move on! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Regards,

Katiee

On Nov 3, 2000

WOW!!! What a response! I just got through reading all of the posts so far. It was neat to see the variety and similarities in the posts. I too am glad to be here to learn all that I can. And even learned something here, as I have some bath and body works hand lotion that I have been using [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/eek.gif[/img] , I now wonder if that could be why he has itchy eyes today? I will have to Check that out.

On Nov 3, 2000

Cool! This is the perfect place for my first post. Did you know I was coming?

I have a three-year-old son with a peanut allergy. We found out about it over a year ago. Luckily for us (in a way), he also has an eating disorder that makes him terribly, INCREDIBLY picky about what he eats. So that means we have yet to experience an incident where he gets into something that he can't have. But that's just so far. It's only been a year, and he will be going through therapy to deal with his eating disorder, so who knows what can happen.

I found this site the day I found out about his allergy, I think. I looked through it, but I wasn't Internet savy yet, and I didn't know how to navigate the message boards. A year later, I have have plenty of practice on another board (a completely unrelated topic), and now I am here.

I really look forward to reading some good, practical information from some "vets." Right now my son is young enough that I am in a bit of denial, but within the next two years, he will be going to preschool etc., and then it'll be a whole new ball game with him. I need to start preparing for how to deal with that.

I've got some stories that I want to share with you guys, and get your take on it. Maybe some of you have had similar experiences, and I hope you can help me learn how to cope with some of these complicated issues.

Can't wait to spend more time here! Thanks for the great topic!

On Nov 3, 2000

Jennifer this was a great posting. I usually do not allow my son to read things on here because of the anger I have seen in some. I have never allowed the dating scene and I plan to stay away for a while. I think that you have a wonderful husband because he does follow the careful measures when he eats nuts. My son has 2 good friends that have always respected chris and never even eaten anything that could hurt him when they are around. These boys also have wonderful parents that will not allow nuts around him. These are special friends. I will not allow the dating scene until prom time because now days things are not like they used to be. I know he looks,but that can not hurt. I agree with everything you said. He reacted the other night just to smelling nuts. It has been a scare for the last couple of nights. Please don't think we let nuts run our life. I think I would be this protective even if he was not allergic. Also I have a Jennifer and I am very protective of her and my 2 year old. they grow so fast that I want to chrish them as long as we can. Thank you for your input on things. I told him about your letter and if someone loves you enough they will go to these extremes. We have. Best wishes to you Claire

On Nov 3, 2000

Why am I here? I actually found this website because I wanted to order the book "A Preschooler's Guide to Peanut Allergy". Then I stumbled upon the message boards. I have been reading posts since September and I am truly hooked. I find the topics very informative and some of it is real thought provoking. I have definitely learned a lot and am putting some of it to use. After reading other people's posts I realize my son's reaction was fairly mild and how lucky I am for that. I also feel I am now more prepared in case he has another reaction and it's worse.

I must admit that I was quite bothered by the tone of some of the recent posts that went bad. I completely lost focus of "Why I am here" and found myself loggin in to read the responses people were posting as if it was a soap opera. I hope we can all get back to the fundamental reasons why we are here; to share information, become more educated and educate others. I'd love to stick around to see how these boards used to operate. See you around.

On Nov 3, 2000

Good question. I originally found this site because for some reason one day I decided to research PA on the internet. I never used to think about it very much. In fact I have had a computer for years and never thought to seek info on PA. When I found this site I was amazed at what I learned. I had never even heard of an epi pen. I have never had the chance to communicate with people about PA and I enjoyed reading what people had to say. Over the last few months I have enjoyed communicating with people about my experiences. I think we are all a little better off becase of this site and the knowledge that we gain from eachother. I know I am.Andy

On Nov 4, 2000

I agree with the person who said this is like her support group. I like to come to a place where I can post about any issue, big or small, relating to PA and TNA - and know that others can relate or share their own similar experiences. I also feel that this is the place where I am most likely to find out about research, products, or anything else that I may need to be aware of. I also find it so very valuable to learn from the experiences of the PA adults who post here. I wish I had found this site even sooner than I did!!! Miriam

On Nov 9, 2000

I am here to read about other peoples problems & experiences and to put my point of view if I think it could possibly help. I guess that most posters are in the USA or Canada, from the style of posts [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] - I am a NA adult, recently diagnosed, in my 40s, from the UK. Maybe some UK experiences can help people in other countries...??

I hope that none of my posts come over as being pushy or bossy - I certainly don't mean them that way.

All the very best to all ...

------------------ Nick (PA sufferer)

On Feb 8, 2005

reraising.

On Feb 8, 2005

My Mission (ie: Why I'm Here) My purpose for being here, on this board (and other frequent haunts) is to:

1) First and Foremost: to Try my personal best to prevent even one more needless loss of a precious human life to food allergies. (NCLTFA: No Child Lost To Food Allergies)

2) Learn more about the allergy that threatens to steal my beautiful daughter from me (us, Synthia and I).

3) Increase the understanding and knowlege surrounding us (the P.A. community), first those directly affecting our family, then [ripple effect] as far out as we can reach.

4) Make a positive difference in this world, leaving behind (hopefully) a better, safer place that when I (we) arrived, Bringing more to the table of life than I take away.

5) Pause (as often as I get a firm foothold) to reach back and help another person take one more step up this steep, treacherous hill as a team player (if one succeeds, we all succeed).

6) Teach my children that we must all celebrate, respect, and enjoy our differences, strengths and weaknesses, to speak gently, have compassion and empathy, and to see more of the good in others.

This is my mission. If I can help open someone's eyes or soften someone's heart, bring more understanding and compassion, alleviate a little ignorance or misunderstanding, make one child's fragile life a little safer, and maybe even raise the 'safety bar' somewhat to help protect the other precious kids in this world, My children (and yours) may just have a fighting chance at a happy healthy life.

NCLTFA

-=Kim=- (Synthia's D.H.) I have cut and pasted this from the Mission Statement thread.Dh is more able to put into words better then I.I stand by his post and agree with him all the way!! I believe in hope for our children.Every time I read this it reminds me of [b]Why[/b] I come to this site! To clarify..KimK is my DH Thank you DH!!

------------------ Love this site Synthia

[This message has been edited by synthia (edited February 08, 2005).]

On Feb 8, 2005

Still the same response. With the addition that my son almost died when he was 3-1/4 years old and I never want another PA parent to go through what I did (or PA child go through what my son did) because of ignorance and denial. So, if I have to keep sharing that story, so others don't make the same almost fatal mistakes we did, I will.

And still finding, more and more, use of the School section, which I guess I had thought would lessen as my son got older, but it hasn't.

I've found since that last post in this thread, that I have come to see PA as a journey with things changing as your child ages - there is always something new to discover/deal with.

Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

On Feb 8, 2005

I came across this site accidentally when I was researching peanut allergies. I fell in love with it. I don't have anybody to talk to about the seriousness of PA. My friends are either indifferent or only a little sympathetic, but nobody can be empathetic unless they're living with it like everyone here.

I come here when I'm sad, or mad, or looking for information.

I've laughed at some of the responses and I've cried at a lot of them.

Can't do that with just any old group of people!

On Sep 14, 2005

I reraised this to remember [b]WHY[/b] I am here. [b]Thanks Chris[/b]

------------------ Love this site Synthia

On Sep 14, 2005

I'm glad you bumped this topic. I don't post much, but I come here almost daily. Really, you guys are the only ones who understand what I am going through as a mother. No one else understands my fear. My dd is 4. She just started preschool. She has begun the long road of being in school, surrounded by food that we can't control. She cannot recognize her symptoms or communicate effectively in an emergency situation. My stepmother recently told me that I "just need to relax". She has no idea.

I've gotten so much valuable information here, especially about how to research companies for safety and cross contamination issues. Just "hanging out" with you guys for a few minutes a day makes me feel like I'm not so alone.

Thank you all for being here!

On Sep 15, 2005

Welcome to the boards MNMAMA! I don't know about the others on this board, but I could probably go the rest of my lifetime never hearing "you just need to relax" again and be just fine. I'm new to the PA.com too, I've only been on about a 1 1/2 months and it is great to know that we aren't alone isn't it?!

On Jan 31, 2006

[img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

------------------ Love this site Synthia

On Jan 31, 2006

I'm here for the free porn.

Jason

------------------ [b]* Obsessed * [/b]

On Jan 31, 2006

lol,I think you are here for *more* then that?

------------------ Love this site Synthia

On Jan 31, 2006

Quote:

Originally posted by jtolpin: [b]I'm here for the free porn.

[/b]

YOU STILL GET CARE PACKAGES?????

On Jan 31, 2006

Quote:

Originally posted by synthia: [b]lol,I think you are here for *more* then that?

[/b]

Oh yeah! I forgot!

On Fridays, free pizza and beer! YAY! how I forget THAT part!!

Jason

------------------ [b]* Obsessed * [/b]

On Jan 31, 2006

Porn, pizza and beer? For Free? Are you sure you are at PA.com? Or are you gonna start your own fantasy thread?

On Jan 31, 2006

There are no peanuts or soy products in our house. It can be life or death and it is scary! Why am I here: to learn anything new and help anyone with what we have experienced. But moreover, I love the support!

On Jan 31, 2006

Quote:

Originally posted by gvmom: [b]Porn, pizza and beer? For Free? Are you sure you are at PA.com? Or are you gonna start your own fantasy thread?[/b]

Might be time for a new one.lol [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I think we are losing track.

------------------ Love this site Synthia

On Jan 31, 2006

Quote:

Originally posted by synthia: [b] Might be time for a new one.lol [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] I think we are losing track.

[/b]

Oh yeah!

is what I am here for... TYVM

Jason

------------------ [b]* Obsessed * [/b]

On Jan 31, 2006

Quote:

Originally posted by jtolpin: [b] Oh yeah!

is what I am here for... TYVM

Jason

[/b]

YQW

------------------ Love this site Synthia

On Jan 31, 2006

I have MISSED out of the porn! have no luck at all, always miss the good stuff. What thread??! sarah

On Jan 31, 2006

Jason, want a care package with COOKIES in it?!! I know how to pack and ship now!

On Jan 31, 2006

Sarah, The 'going on vacation' thread gets pretty racey at times!

On Jan 31, 2006

Someone actually needs to care about you in order to get a care package. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]

On Jan 31, 2006

Hi. I am posting under my wife's username (I don't have one!). I think the main reason I return regularly to this site is to keep myself humble about how much I don't know and how important any little thing might be. Our son, now eight, has multiple food allergies like many of your children and there are times that I think we know what to expect and how to approach restaurants, parties, school, family gatherings. Then I read something here that easily could come up in my life, and does, that I hadnt considered. Complacency is risky. So, all the questions and possible solutions posed here keep my AWARE... Thanks, all. Husband of Jill32797

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