Which school would you choose?

Posted on: Wed, 06/16/2004 - 11:17am
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I am not looking for answers just some thoughts about my dilemma.
DD will be starting school in August 2005, but I have been told it will take awhile to get everything in place and then the wait if we want to try to open district transfer. So I have been giving this much thought lately. Here is my dilemma.

Our area feeds into a school that is 13 miles away from our home, that right now is more then 16 miles from the nearest fire/emergency department, although we should have a new EMS/fire department about 11 miles from the school soon. It is a 20 minute ride to the highway to get to the nearest hospital, 30 miles away. The school district does not have a full-time nurse at any school in the district.

My non-PA ds attends the school located 13 miles from home and rides the bus. This is my dilemma, do I try to work with the school that ds goes to and our neighborhood feeds into, trying to see if we can make it peanut free and reduce the risk as much as possible, let dd ride the bus, etc. so she can be with the other kids in the area, even considering the above information about EMS, etc. Or would the school that is located about 10 minutes from our house in the middle of town, about 3-5 minutes from the nearest EMS/fire department be the choice you would make? It is not peanut free either and I would need to work with them also. But dd would not be going to school with the kids she plays with on a daily basis. I have been struggling with this for the last two weeks, just not sure where my comfort level is and at the sametime want to keep her very safe and do what is best.

I am not looking for answers just thoughts on this about what you might consider doing in my position. Any comments are greatly appreciated.

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Alicia, mom to:
Edward-21 years-EA,dog, cat,sulfa drugs
Cody-8 years- EA,dog,cat,mosquito
Shaylyn-4 years-PA/TNA,all legumes,peas,egg,dog,cat,molds,weeds, Amoxicillian,Zithromax,Asthma

Posted on: Thu, 06/17/2004 - 3:01am
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It sounds like you have quite a dilemma. Are there other differences between the two schools? Is one "better" than the other? Have you talked with the people at your ds's school to see how receptive they are to making changes? Does your dd have a history of severe reactions? Does she seem to be contact sensitive?
The thought of having my kindergartener so far from medical care would be frightening for me. However, it sounds as though you must live in a much more rural area than I do, so you are probably more used to it.
Hopefully you will get some helpful thoughts here.
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Posted on: Thu, 06/17/2004 - 10:02am
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California Mom, The schools are exactly the same when it comes to academic's and test scores, they both rate high. So that is not really a concern for me, I love my son's school and have heard wonderful things regarding the other school also.
DD does have a history of very severe reactions, in fact her first reaction last December, was nearly fatal, she had stopped moving air thru her lungs and every body system was involved in the reaction. She also now has had a fullfilling history of contact reactions since. I have counted at least 8 that we know were contact and one of those also required administration of epinephrine in the ER.
Actually the rural living is fairly new to me, we moved to our area we are in just about 1 1/2 years ago. So I am still getting used to the country life.
You hit it right on the head, it does terrify me to have her so far from medical help. This is why I am in a dilemma.
Thanks for your response.
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Alicia, mom to:
Edward-21 years- sulfa drugs
Cody-8 years- EA,dog,cat,mosquito
Shaylyn-4 years-PA/TNA,all legumes,all peas,egg,dog,cat,molds,weeds, Amoxicillian,Zithromax,Asthma

Posted on: Thu, 06/17/2004 - 12:22pm
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Based on what you have said I think I would go with the school that is closer to emergency care. I'm sorry that you are placed in such a tough decision. I am lucky that we live a few blocks from a major hospital and dd's school is just a few blocks in the other direction.
Good luck, I hope you get some other feedback!
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Posted on: Thu, 06/17/2004 - 12:57pm
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Alicia, I have to agree with Miriam. Closer to medical care . At that age they make friends so easily. It will make neighborhood friendships easier in a way, it gives them a break from each other so they don't get sick of each other.
It sounds like she has pretty scary reactions. Are all the contact reactions from a definite peanut exposure or just to the best of your knowledge?
Tough decision, good luck!

Posted on: Fri, 06/18/2004 - 12:55am
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momma2boys, We have been pretty sure it is contact reactions with peanuts/peanut butter/nut residue since all but 2 have been at gymnastics and the candy machine in the lobby does have peanut products, they have since gotten rid of those for us. The other two have been, one a shopping cart(hives on back of legs) and the most recent severe reaction was after we came to the emergency room for treatment for croup and pneumonia, the ER doc thinks she either inhaled something in the waiting room since she was on my lap the whole time or she inhaled/came into contact with something in the ER room, but she got hives over her entire body and her face started to swell. ER doc felt she needed epinephrine since we could see it progressing quickly.
momma2boys and California Mom, thanks for your thoughts on this, in my heart I feel the school closer to the EMS is the best choice also, I just don't want her to feel excluded when she is older because her neighborhood buddies all go to another school.
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Alicia, mom to:
Edward-21 years- sulfa drugs
Cody-8 years- EA,dog,cat,mosquito
Shaylyn-4 years-PA/TNA,all legumes,all peas,egg,dog,cat,molds,weeds, Amoxicillian,Zithromax,Asthma

Posted on: Fri, 06/18/2004 - 1:26am
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I think you are wise to go with the school closer to the medical care. I know as parents we worry about our kids and their friends. We live in a neighbourhood that feeds into 4 different schools so my children have close friends at school and in the neighbourhood. Think of it as giving your child the opportunity to make lots of new friends and keeping the 'old' friends from the neighbourhood!!
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Posted on: Fri, 06/18/2004 - 1:46am
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I think you are probably right in thinking about the school closer to er. I don't know if this helps but my 4 kids go to a different school than most of the other kids in our neighbourhood. They have for about 4 years and they don't mind. They play with the neighbourhood kids at home and their school friends at school.

Posted on: Sun, 06/20/2004 - 12:44pm
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Hello Shaylynsmom,
I would definetely go to the school closer to the ER. God those reactions she has had, I'm with you she should be as close to proffesional help as possible.
Just one thing I hope you do before you make your move, physically go to the school(the one closer to the ER)and talk to them and make sure they are going to do as much of what you want done as possible.
Better yet I hope a miracle happens for you and they tell you about their allergy program they have already.
I guess I just would want you to make sure there not going to be the kind of school that fights everything with you.
But your little one should really be where she can get help and fast.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
Keep us informed - Good luck

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