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Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 1:51am
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My son 5 PA, first on in the school with allergy like this. I trained all staff and teachers, alerts went home with children. Needless to say it has been a rocky road, the children are very protective of my son but the parent are horrible!!!!! Our school will be having a fall festival the children will dress up, games will be played. I found out that one family is going to dress their children as follows: Peanut Man, Snickers bar, Reeses Cup I know it could be cute but come on..... Now these parents are teachers at the school the mother stayed home the last couple of year with children but dads still their and attended the in service for the teachers that I gave... Dad is also allergic to Peanuts but all he get is a itchy throat so I guess he doesn't get it......I really want to let them have it but my children will suffer so thanks for letting me let of lots of steam......

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 1:58am
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My daughter just got her latest newsletter from FAAN, and there was a girl who is PA and she herself dressed up as Mr. Peanut!

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 2:16am
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I think the parents are terribly insensitive.
My only reaction isn't suitable for print.
I hope you can handle it with more humour than I would be able to.

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 2:30am
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If it were me: I'd make sure I got it on tape. I'd be brief. It's a free world.
I would deliver certified mail the article detailing Nathan Walter's death to their doorstep. I would explain harrassment is a serious issue and that of a minor even more serious. Lastly I would enjoy knowing they will have heartburn for quite a time afterwards. Maybe I'd even qualify to get a restraining order for next year. This is not a recommendation, but just how I'd handle it. To me, dressing up as Mr. Peanut or any of the previous mentioned characters at a public activity your child is known to attend is as socially reprehensible as dressing up in black face at the school talent contest. Just my opinion, I am not a legal professional. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited October 17, 2002).]

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 2:40am
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You know, this really upsets me.
My son was sent home some homework sheets last week that asked him how many different varieties of peanut butter sandwiches he could make. It is supposed to be a math problem, but couldnt the teacher eliminate this page?? I didnt know if I was being over sensitive about this, so I didnt say anything. Do you think I should?

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 3:38am
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On the subject of the maths work, if it didnt involve MAKING the sandwiches , what does it matter?
Your child is going to live in a world that is full of peanuts /tree nuts, its best he gets used to it!
As for dressing up as a nut related product , whats the harm?
sarah

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 4:42am
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I think that while it may not be a costume I would choose it wouldn't really bother me. My daughter is doing a craft program at lunchtime with modelling clay and was telling me how yesterday they made little versions of the M&M's guys. Now, she knows that M&M's are not safe and that they have a peanut M&M but she likes their commercials and was completely unphased by making craft versions of the mascots (she is 8).
take care
deb

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 6:43am
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I think the issue we are addressing with regards to the costumes is "intent". It makes a bit difference. No one should be able to use a disability as a source of ridicule or a method to torment someone. Particularly minors. As for the math problem, if it wasn't a part of a text in use already, I personally could have thought of a better example in order to avoid drawing attention, possibly negative attention, to the child.

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 6:45am
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I agree with WilliamsMummy and DebO. I don't think anyone is out to get our PA children or to tease them. People dress as M&Ms and other candy for Halloween. It probably won't bother your son one bit. I think that you're so sick and tired of a world full of this food that can kill you're child that you're projecting your annoyance and anger onto your son and assuming he feels the same way. If it doesn't bother you, it won't bother him. I know you weren't planning on doing anything, but for others who might or who were asking, I think these battles aren't worth fighting. What's the point? I don't even think they're battles.

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 8:08am
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Bensmom,
I beg to differ. Adult attitudes go a long way. The day after our initial 504 meeting, a plastic bag of peanut candies, (reeses, almond bars, payday) was left on our front door step. If they can act that way, then I refuse to be viewed as "projecting".

Posted on: Thu, 10/17/2002 - 8:57am
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This is stuff that is just going to happen! Does it stink... yes, but it's going to happen. Take the opportunity to teach your child that there are people like this in the world and this is just what he needs to learn to deal with because it is not going away! This is if their intent is actually to take a jab at the PA community and you shouldn't assume it is. If this is not their intent then just let it go, as your child probably will on his own. I think sometimes we as parents tend to read into things and make a bigger deal out of things than need be and we have to be very careful not to let our children see this. I certainly don't want my dd growing up thinking that peanuts/nuts are evil and that people that eat them are evil and that anyone who dares dress up like one is evil. I think our kids are smarter than we give them credit for, this is something that most likely would not even phase them, that is if they aren't taught that it should.
As for the math problem, please just let that go! You will gain nothing by making a big deal of it but making yourself look like one of those "psycho PA moms" that we all too often get labled as anyway. This would be another good opportunity, if your child seems bother by it, to help him learn to deal. If he says nothing and this never phased him, why even bring it up as an issue?
These are just my opinions, and maybe they won't be liked, but that, IMO, is what this board is for, to share opinions, like 'em or not. Thanks for listening to mine! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
kcmom

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