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Posted on: Thu, 11/02/2006 - 6:00am
Samber's picture
Joined: 06/22/2006 - 09:00

What is so very sad is that PA can kill a child, an adult, and even an ignorant idiot. And because people like that exist we MUST be paranoid about schools, play groups, outings, stores etc.. To keep our children safe, alive, and to give them their own power we have no choice, but to be conscientious and knowledgeable about allergies.
As far as each persons high levels of anxiety on allergies, well it's hard not to be concerned about possibly having a reaction while just passing by a peanut bin. It is the stress of watching and waiting and praying that nothing will happen. If PA was more predictable, for instance a low blood test or skin test result would mean only a mild reaction that was manageable with Benadryl, than I think we would have a lot less STRESSED parents. But it is not. The score does not tell you how severe the next reaction will be regardless of the amount of exposure. Who wants to see their child suffer, possibly DIE for gods sake? It would be abuse to not educate and question and wonder and NOT STRESS about it all.
Because of the different levels of comfort zones that seem to exist just between spouses it is WONDERFUL to have this forum to vent, gather knowledge and learn from others experiences.
Good wishes to Everyone, [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 3:58am
saknjmom's picture
Joined: 04/02/2003 - 09:00

In what way do you mean what do you think of this?
I am of course sad to see obnoxious posters making fun of Peanut Allergy.com and our situations. BUT, that's life. Probably not even a serious post, more of a bored person just trying to get their kicks.
What did YOU think of it?

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:02am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

Ok this is the last straw... I HATE IGNORANT^ PEOPLE! i'm going over there!

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:07am
BriandBrinasmom's picture
Joined: 10/20/2006 - 09:00

I'm still trying to figure out what I think of it, which is why I posted it here. It bugged me. I realize there are mean, nasty people in the world, so the fact that it bugged me means that perhaps I see a little grain of truth here.
Do we obsess? Does our identify come from our child's peanut allergy? Is posting on this board a symptom of that? (Of course, the people who posted those notes are also posting on a board, looking for little bits of identity and fame...pots calling the kettles black.)
And, the other related question - do we expect compromises from society that are unreasonable, especially given the overstressed nature of our schools? Or is it o.k. to do absolutely anything to keep my child safe, even if it's at the expense of resources needed by the school for other things?

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:19am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

ok, im emailing this, and im afraid no-ones gonna stop me:
I can't believe this. You officially won my award for "mo0st ignorant hard hearted, cold blooded" award.
I happen to be one of those that are severally allergic (Anaphylactic) to treenuts. I bet if you or your son were in my situation or that poor little boy you would change your mind in a blip.
I feel so sorry for your little boy who just happens to have one of those immature cold blooded monsters for theiir mum. I really feel sorry for your son if he develops this life threatening allergy, I really do, especially with a mum with that sort of attitude!
This is not just a hayfever, this is something you could die from, did you know it takes less than 1000th of a nut for people like us to react? and maybe DIE? And even if it was from BEING AROUND them?
Bet your gonna ban me now, and delete this post, just to show how hard hearted you are, and you can't face the truth.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:20am
3xy1PAinNH's picture
Joined: 08/07/2006 - 09:00

I personally think there is a grain of truth in what is written...not for everyone, but for some. I come here for information. I have received tons of it. But I am still shocked at how extreme some of the moms seem. I forget when it dawned on me...but there was a mom about a month ago that had a user name something like "Scared to Death" or something like that...and she was posting about her child having anxiety and emotional issues related to her allergy.
Just like anything in life, it is possible to obsess and go too far. TO over-protect. Having said that, our children...who we brought into this world, have a life-threatening allergy to something that can be foudn every day in society...so a certain amount of paranoia is necessary for survival.
It is all about balance...and honestly, it depends on the severity of the child's allergy. I would wager a bet that the moms who seem most 'paranoid' are the ones who have children that have severe reactions. Or they are the moms who have watched their child almost die.
SO yeah, some truth...but take it with a grain of salt. They are intitled to their opinion...doesn't mean you have to own it as yours.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:22am
3xy1PAinNH's picture
Joined: 08/07/2006 - 09:00

Okay...just went ot the website. IN the first line I realized what we are dealing with. This poster is obviously dark, and a victim....Not worth the read.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:23am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

grrr! i cant seem to reply or email her!

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:31am
Lori Jo's picture
Joined: 09/17/2003 - 09:00

Ok, here is my 2 cents worth ...
There are people who are unaware, and there are people who are by nature insensitive. I don't think the people who posted on that blog truly would want to hurt a child, but are definitely unaware to the realities that we have to live, and unfortunately insensitive in the way they post their thoughts out to the world. If you asked any one of those posters to place a small child in the middle of a busy street, or ask an elementary age child to play with a loaded, unlocked gun, I would bet every one of them would be horrified to even consider it. To the uneducated, PA is just not in the same category. We know different.
The other half of the equation is how we deal with the probably blissfully un-PA aware. We all love and want to protect our children. We all will do anything to assure their safety. Some of us promote that love and protection more aggressively/stridently than others. I believe this is simply each of our basic personalities, boiled down to it's essentials when faced with life threatening situations. After having children, I can definitely relate to the "mother bear" reaction and our need to protect our children. It has got to be hardwired into our core being. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Most of the time the two groups work fine together. Sometimes, unfortunately, the unaware AND insensitive interact with the particularly strident AND protective, mixing a bit like potasium and water. The results (like that blog) are not pretty, and would probably have been much different if either side of the equation hadn't been what it was.
I think this is true for just about all facets of our lives, but when you throw protecting our children's lives (or our own for the older PA's) into the mix, the level of emotion is stratospheric.
So, there you go, just my humble opinion.
Lori Jo,
Rose, 7-31-02, PA
Beatrice & Georgia, 8-14-99

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:32am
krc's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

Everyone is entitled to their opinion- even if I don't like it.
Reading it did bother me only because it scares me that those at the school or unfortunetely sometimes even family, might think of me as overparanoid. We do ask for quite a bit in order to ensure dd's safety. (Peanut free table and classrooms etc) But mostly I think it is sad that there are people out there making judgements about what I have to do to keep my child safe when they have no idea what we have to deal w/ everyday. But of course there are mean, ignorant people everywhere. My job is to do the best I can in educating as many people as I can (especially those involved in dd's care) about the seriousness of this allergy w/o seeming hysterical.
Someone on a another thread mentioned tone and the way you approach PA can influence
how much others will understand or try to help and I totally agree w/that. Sometimes I am screaming inside but losing control when speaking to someone about dd's allergy is probably one of the worst things I could do.
I love this site- it's so nice to have others who understand what I am going through and are available to give opinions and another perspective or just to listen to me vent [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by krc (edited October 30, 2006).]


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