What do you think of this? (Warning: graphic language)

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 3:38am
BriandBrinasmom's picture
Joined: 10/20/2006 - 09:00

I was searching on Laura Duke and her son (as she invited us to do in one of her posts) and I ran across this posting on a blog board:


I have posted the exchange from the board below. Comments?

Personally, I never thought of myself as an attention whore, but I am guilty of having a cutesy user name...


f you ever want to check out the biggest batch of insane, cater-to-me mother****er breeders on God's peanut-clogged earth, go read the discussion boards at peanutallergy.com.

Most of the posters have handles like "emilysmommy" or "momof4kidz." They spend their days scouring the planet for molecules of suspected allergens and then proceed to have mass nervous breakdowns together.

One currently hot topic: peanuts for sale at Wal-Mart. A sample of the paranoia:

Last night after my son's bath he started getting little small hives on his stomach. He hadn't had anything different in the house and same baby soap he has always used in his bath. We gave him benydral and it seems to have helped. Could this have been caused by being around the open peanut bins? I think we walked past them once and was in the same area as the peanuts as I talked to the produce clerk. It was a few hours later that the hives came on, could it be a delayed reaction?

And then there's the "Brentson's Law" Mommy, whose precious Brentson...well, you read it:

Principal C.L.H. & Other MNPS School Board Members:

June 20, 2005 the date "Brentson's Law" became "THE LAW" in the state of Tennessee to protect "ALL CHILDREN" with anaphylaxis food allergies. The same children that Metro Nashville Public Schools "REFUSED" to protect in September of 2005 following "Brentson Duke's" near death experience at Taylor Stratton Elementary!

Do any of you at the Board of Education and/or Principal C.L.H. remember what you were doing on 09/12/2005 around 10:00 am? You probably don't but let me refresh your memory. This is "THE DATE & THE TIME" that I received a phone call telling me that my child was having an allergic reaction. This is "THE DAY" that my child and I will "NEVER" forget! This is "THE DAY" that my child almost lost his life due to a severe anaphylactic reaction that he had at Taylor Stratton Elementary by him unknowingly coming into contact with someone that had eaten peanut butter! Does 09/22/2005 ring a bell for any of you? Well, this is "THE DAY" that Principal C.L.H. finally returned my phone call from Monday 09/12/2005 when my child almost died at Taylor Stratton! Principal C.L.H. finally gets the time to return my phone call "NINE BUSINESS DAYS" after my child almost died in her care! However, she only returned my call after Dr. G.P. (with the Metro Nashville Public School System) "MADE HER" and only after Heather Orne with News Channel 2 started calling the Board of Education! My mother taught me at an early age that an ounce of compassion goes a long way. Evidently, no one at the "Board of Education nor Principal C.L.H." were taught this by their parents! Therefore, due to the lack of concern by the Board of Education for the welfare and well being of "ALL" of these children led me to the decision that something had to be done!
What was done is "BRENTSON'S LAW!" June 20, 2006 the date "Brentson's Law" became "THE LAW" in the state of Tennessee to protect "ALL CHILDREN" with anaphylaxis food allergies. The same children that Metro Nashville Public Schools "REFUSED" to protect in September of 2005 following "Brentson Duke's" near death experience at Taylor Stratton Elementary!

I bet "YOU ALL" will remember "THIS DATE!"

Laura & Brentson Duke

Ye gods. I do think peanut allergy is real, and that it's been increasing, but I also think that a lot of breeders are glomming onto it, sort of a Munchausen's-by-proxy.


If you ever want to check out the biggest batch of insane, cater-to-me mother****er breeders on God's peanut-clogged earth...

Jesus Jehosaphat Xrist. They give the TitNazis a run for their money.

Laura & Brentson Duke

So the "SENSITIVE ONE!!" is Brentson, Jr. Well, I guess I can be charitable and observe that at least they didn't pull his name out of their asses.

I do think peanut allergy is real, and that it's been increasing, but I also think that a lot of breeders are glomming onto it, sort of a Munchausen's-by-proxy.


Oh, severe allergies are definitely real things, and I do believe they have gotten worse. The jury seems to be out on whether this has been caused by additional chemicals in the environment, or by decreased childhood exposure to normal allergens (because they're all sitting inside playing X-Box rather than outside playing dodgeball, and because they're no longer allowed to fall down and scrape their knees).

But, yeah, the attention-h0r crowd has most certainly glommed onto the phenom. Not just parents, either — ever meet an "environmentally sensitive" type? While I'm willing to allow that sure, some people have adverse reactions to things like cologne and new carpet smell, some of these twits revel in the power their ailments give them to dictate their environments wherever they go.

I should be working, but instead I am sitting here Googling "BRENTSON'S LAW!" and laughing myself silly over phrases like this:

*"Each school will have an "Anaphylaxis Allergy Action Committee."

*"ATL (Atlanta) There's a Dominos in the food court on 'A' Concourse. 'B' concourse didn't have anything I felt was 'safe'."

*And this heartbreaking story on Peanutbutter Assault, AKA "Death By Lunchbox"

Don't miss this delightful bit of "Brentson's Law":

This bill also requires schools to consider providing a teaching assistant for any child with documented anaphylaxis. The assistant's sole purpose would be to guard the child's safety through constant supervision, monitoring of foodstuffs brought into the allergic child's environment, riding with the child to and from school on a bus, and observing the child's safety at all times the school has a loco parentis relationship to the child.


Oh, how nice. No teaching assistants to, you know, teach the little buggers to read and write and do math, but they can assign one to each allergic child...to essentially perform tasks the child could be trained to do him- or herself.


I'm not gonna say what I feel about these hyper-allergic types.

Other than that it involves natural selection. Or should, as it were.

(I think you catch my drift -- like the wafting scent of roasted peanuts.)

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 3:58am
saknjmom's picture
Joined: 04/02/2003 - 09:00

In what way do you mean what do you think of this?
I am of course sad to see obnoxious posters making fun of Peanut Allergy.com and our situations. BUT, that's life. Probably not even a serious post, more of a bored person just trying to get their kicks.
What did YOU think of it?

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:02am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

Ok this is the last straw... I HATE IGNORANT^ PEOPLE! i'm going over there!

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:07am
BriandBrinasmom's picture
Joined: 10/20/2006 - 09:00

I'm still trying to figure out what I think of it, which is why I posted it here. It bugged me. I realize there are mean, nasty people in the world, so the fact that it bugged me means that perhaps I see a little grain of truth here.
Do we obsess? Does our identify come from our child's peanut allergy? Is posting on this board a symptom of that? (Of course, the people who posted those notes are also posting on a board, looking for little bits of identity and fame...pots calling the kettles black.)
And, the other related question - do we expect compromises from society that are unreasonable, especially given the overstressed nature of our schools? Or is it o.k. to do absolutely anything to keep my child safe, even if it's at the expense of resources needed by the school for other things?

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:19am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

ok, im emailing this, and im afraid no-ones gonna stop me:
I can't believe this. You officially won my award for "mo0st ignorant hard hearted, cold blooded" award.
I happen to be one of those that are severally allergic (Anaphylactic) to treenuts. I bet if you or your son were in my situation or that poor little boy you would change your mind in a blip.
I feel so sorry for your little boy who just happens to have one of those immature cold blooded monsters for theiir mum. I really feel sorry for your son if he develops this life threatening allergy, I really do, especially with a mum with that sort of attitude!
This is not just a hayfever, this is something you could die from, did you know it takes less than 1000th of a nut for people like us to react? and maybe DIE? And even if it was from BEING AROUND them?
Bet your gonna ban me now, and delete this post, just to show how hard hearted you are, and you can't face the truth.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:20am
3xy1PAinNH's picture
Joined: 08/07/2006 - 09:00

I personally think there is a grain of truth in what is written...not for everyone, but for some. I come here for information. I have received tons of it. But I am still shocked at how extreme some of the moms seem. I forget when it dawned on me...but there was a mom about a month ago that had a user name something like "Scared to Death" or something like that...and she was posting about her child having anxiety and emotional issues related to her allergy.
Just like anything in life, it is possible to obsess and go too far. TO over-protect. Having said that, our children...who we brought into this world, have a life-threatening allergy to something that can be foudn every day in society...so a certain amount of paranoia is necessary for survival.
It is all about balance...and honestly, it depends on the severity of the child's allergy. I would wager a bet that the moms who seem most 'paranoid' are the ones who have children that have severe reactions. Or they are the moms who have watched their child almost die.
SO yeah, some truth...but take it with a grain of salt. They are intitled to their opinion...doesn't mean you have to own it as yours.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:22am
3xy1PAinNH's picture
Joined: 08/07/2006 - 09:00

Okay...just went ot the website. IN the first line I realized what we are dealing with. This poster is obviously dark, and a victim....Not worth the read.

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:23am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

grrr! i cant seem to reply or email her!

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:31am
Lori Jo's picture
Joined: 09/17/2003 - 09:00

Ok, here is my 2 cents worth ...
There are people who are unaware, and there are people who are by nature insensitive. I don't think the people who posted on that blog truly would want to hurt a child, but are definitely unaware to the realities that we have to live, and unfortunately insensitive in the way they post their thoughts out to the world. If you asked any one of those posters to place a small child in the middle of a busy street, or ask an elementary age child to play with a loaded, unlocked gun, I would bet every one of them would be horrified to even consider it. To the uneducated, PA is just not in the same category. We know different.
The other half of the equation is how we deal with the probably blissfully un-PA aware. We all love and want to protect our children. We all will do anything to assure their safety. Some of us promote that love and protection more aggressively/stridently than others. I believe this is simply each of our basic personalities, boiled down to it's essentials when faced with life threatening situations. After having children, I can definitely relate to the "mother bear" reaction and our need to protect our children. It has got to be hardwired into our core being. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Most of the time the two groups work fine together. Sometimes, unfortunately, the unaware AND insensitive interact with the particularly strident AND protective, mixing a bit like potasium and water. The results (like that blog) are not pretty, and would probably have been much different if either side of the equation hadn't been what it was.
I think this is true for just about all facets of our lives, but when you throw protecting our children's lives (or our own for the older PA's) into the mix, the level of emotion is stratospheric.
So, there you go, just my humble opinion.
Lori Jo,
Rose, 7-31-02, PA
Beatrice & Georgia, 8-14-99

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:32am
krc's picture
Joined: 01/16/2007 - 09:00

Everyone is entitled to their opinion- even if I don't like it.
Reading it did bother me only because it scares me that those at the school or unfortunetely sometimes even family, might think of me as overparanoid. We do ask for quite a bit in order to ensure dd's safety. (Peanut free table and classrooms etc) But mostly I think it is sad that there are people out there making judgements about what I have to do to keep my child safe when they have no idea what we have to deal w/ everyday. But of course there are mean, ignorant people everywhere. My job is to do the best I can in educating as many people as I can (especially those involved in dd's care) about the seriousness of this allergy w/o seeming hysterical.
Someone on a another thread mentioned tone and the way you approach PA can influence
how much others will understand or try to help and I totally agree w/that. Sometimes I am screaming inside but losing control when speaking to someone about dd's allergy is probably one of the worst things I could do.
I love this site- it's so nice to have others who understand what I am going through and are available to give opinions and another perspective or just to listen to me vent [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
[This message has been edited by krc (edited October 30, 2006).]

Posted on: Mon, 10/30/2006 - 4:36am
Adele's picture
Joined: 01/31/2005 - 09:00

While trying to decide if I should request a peanut-free flight on Southwest, I did a little Googling....to see if airborne peanut protein could cause anaphylaxis.
My Lord I couldn't BELIEVE the comments I read from people who were on flights when a 'no peanuts will be served on this flight' announcement was made or when USAir/America West went peanut free.
They were every bit as foul as the posts in this thread.
I'm not the kind of person to wish evil on anyone, but I found myself wishing a peanut allergy on every foul-mouthed adult who posted such hate and ignorance.
[This message has been edited by Adele (edited October 30, 2006).]


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