What do you see as something good about having PA?

Posted on: Sat, 08/28/2004 - 8:29am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

They say that something good always comes out of something bad but I can't seem to put my finger on what good this allergy is doing for our lives. If anyone has an answer, I'd love to hear it.

Lynee', mom to:
Cade - PA, egg whites, seasonal
Carson - NKFA, seasonal

Posted on: Sat, 08/28/2004 - 8:56am
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Anonymous (not verified)

Am hoping my children would have learned it anyway and certainly wish my son wasn't PA, but compassion and caring for other children because of the compassion and caring that is shown towards my PA son (and not all the time).
Recognizing, and certainly not every day or even every month, that my children are a gift.
Most certainly would have preferred to have learned whatever it is that is positive (I'm still thinking) without my son having his allergy. Even though I think we deal okay with it, I do wish it would go away (and know it's not in our case).
Learning about one's rights and stuff, although I'd always been a politically minded person and had different causes I was interested in before PA, so an activist before anyway, but now really knowing what my son's *rights* are as far as the school system, etc.
Still thinking.....
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sat, 08/28/2004 - 12:44pm
Claire's picture
Joined: 04/19/2000 - 09:00

I look at Chris right now and I see something very good that I feel came from his allergy. I see a young man that cares about others very much. He would not eat anything that may hurt another person around him and would bend over to help a person that may be in need.
He knows what it is like to be in the other shoe and therefore he treats others with utmost respect.
I am always told by everyone how nice and well mannered he is.
Yes I know it also comes from parenting but he is even beyond that. He sasy things to me and I know that some of his beliefs are because I had to be strict with him in the food department and in growing up because of allergies.
I also see a young man that is happy to sit home at the kitchen table with his family. Instead of going off with his friends to a pizza joint. That makes me happy and I always know I will see him at some point for his meals. At 18 there are alot of families that don't get dinner with teenagers do to the fact they are running the roads.
I am not saying he is perfect,but much different from alot of his classmates.
You'll will all get to see this someday but right now I think with little ones we don't.
tonight I watched PB cups go onto his bus after the football game. I ran to coach and told him that Chris was going to have problems with that around him.
coach handled it well. My fear was "will Chris be angry I told coach". After all at 18 he isn't a baby anymore.
He walked through my door when he got home and I greeted him Hugged him cried and he understood and treated me very well.
things will all work out I promise.
Our life is so wonderful and exciting.
People are amazed at how my Dh and I will say things and do things with our kids and they would not dare. In fear of making them angry.
Chris says "Mom sometimes I am glad you speak up because I didn't feel like it".
I rather have him angry for a day than to keep things to ourselves.
Take care and sorry if I drifted off. Claire

Posted on: Sat, 08/28/2004 - 1:21pm
WoozerMom's picture
Joined: 12/28/2000 - 09:00

I am a grandmother who has had food allergies all her life, with the worst being peanuts and tree nuts. I have had several life-threatening experiences, but mostly before I really learned how to deal with the allergy.
What is good about the allergy is that it has made me a more compassionate and caring person with other people who have problems in their lives with which they deal. It has made me take the opportunities to speak up for others and to educate when necessary. It has given me the urge to help others by doing volunteer work.
Another great benefit is that I have found out how helpful and considerate people can be. On the whole, I deal with people who will make sacrifices in order to help me. My family has been especially helpful. I have been given loving caring kindness by my family and friends. I find that they speak out on my behalf to those who disregard my allergies.
In my professional life, people have been extremely thoughtful.
Not everyone I encounter is understanding, of course, but the great majority of people are and it gives me great faith in people.
I have been dealing with this allergy for 64 years.

Posted on: Sat, 08/28/2004 - 2:38pm
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WoozerMom, always great to see you posting! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Still the compassion and caring thing - my daughter, non-PA. She knows about her brother's allergy and she has tried very hard to understand it and for the most part, I don't see her being resentful (she will be 7 next month) about the things that she can't have because of her brother's allergy.
To extend it further, this year, she had a PA child in her classroom and one day she didn't eat something that was given out in the class that wasn't PA safe and B. couldn't have. I asked her if it was because it was something she normally wouldn't have been able to have at home because of her brother (this was at school though) and she said, no, it was because B. couldn't have it.
So, she didn't like to see another child, a child in her class, excluded because of PA, and chose to exclude (if you will) herself as well from whatever treat it was so that the little guy wouldn't be all alone in not getting something.
Ember is allowed to eat "may contain" products at school and that's what this was (she is not allowed to eat peanut products).
I just thought this was really cool.
And I've also posted within the last couple of days about how, in SK, she gave me right royal sh** for forgetting about the child in her class with the red dye allergy when I bought Valentine's Smarties for the class.
PA has taught her not only to be an advocate for her brother, but for other children as well.
As I posted earlier, I would hope that my children would be compassionate and caring human beings regardless, but I think PA has definitely given them that "push".
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sun, 08/29/2004 - 12:08am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I think one postive thing that has resulted from my son's PA is that, as a whole, our family eats healthier than we might have otherwise.
I see so many of our friends eating so much processed foods. Dinner mixes, frozen dinners, processed meats, and mixes...you get the picture. We tend to stick to more natural, unprocessed foods as a way to reduce risk.

Posted on: Sun, 08/29/2004 - 12:51pm
darthcleo's picture
Joined: 11/08/2000 - 09:00

Same as StartingOver here. We eat much healthier than before.
In fact, sometimes, I'm not happy to see a new safe product on the shelves, because I know I'll be tempted into buying it instead of baking/cooking it.
I haven't baked cookies in a long time, because of Dare going peanut-free. Still, I'm happy Dare is around, because most families will have these cookies in their home and my son can have a snack. So on one hand they're a good thing, on the other they're not.
I like eating better. My current battle is against sugar. Once you start reading labels you realise there's sugar everywhere! Yikes! There was even sugar in the brand of *salt* we used! Needless to say, we switched!

Posted on: Tue, 08/31/2004 - 6:42am
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Anonymous (not verified)

What good came out of my allergies?
In my case, it meant I was prepared when my son started having allergic reactions (to insects).

Posted on: Sat, 09/11/2004 - 12:47pm
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Joined: 09/03/2004 - 09:00

The best thing so far is the way the other kids at school have treated our ds. Some have gone home and told their mothers not to put nut products in their lunches. They have been very concerned about his welfare. Were talking about 7,8, and 9 year olds. There's something to be learned from them.

Posted on: Sat, 09/11/2004 - 10:21pm
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Joined: 05/14/2002 - 09:00

I know it sounds silly but I think our family eats much healthier since my DS has food allergies. We don't eat much processed or packed stuff so our food of choice seems to be more natural and non-products. He is also allergic to eggs so even our baked goods are lowfat and made from scratch.

Posted on: Sat, 09/11/2004 - 11:14pm
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Joined: 09/03/2004 - 09:00

We posted this last night and it never showed up. I'll try again.
The best thing to come of out ds's PA is the way his friends watch out for him. Many of them have gone home and told there mom's not to put nut products in their lunches. When asked why they all said about the same thing. Torin is allergic to nuts I can't sit at his table if I have nuts.
These are 7, 8, and 9 year olds. They really look out for him. Recently ds had a substitute teacher. When she asked "who wants to sit at the allergy table with Torin" every hand in the room went up. She checked all the lunches, and let all the kids sit at the allergy table.
We have to stop now were getting misty.
Brian and Cindy


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