Waldoboro School Board Meeting

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:15am
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First and foremost! themom... CALL ME, my number is in the book.

Well the meeting is over. I was the first one to speak and I had some last minute changes in what I said. I actually think I worded it in a way that made people think. Some of the things I added was that " I sent my dd to school today for the first time, I was afraid that she would keep talking when the teacher said it was quiet time, I was afraid that she would forget to raise her hand, I was afraid that she would whine if she didnt get her way like she often does at home, but what I wasnt afraid of, was that her life would be in constant jeopardy because of a simple peanut butter sandwich. Some mothers dont have the luxury of worrying about simple things."

I got there very early, I heard my name mentioned, I heard what people expected "that Lisa T" to do. but I stood up, knees a knocking and teeth a chattering and did the right thing. After I sat down, only 4 or 5 others stood to speak, only one had anything closely resembling a reason why leaving pb out was not an option. Another person came in late and was... I [b]want[/b] to say a complete idiot, but [b]will[/b] say ignorant, he said how his boys were afraid of food and that eating pb has just now gotten them interested in food again (okaaaayyyyy) and that this lady in town (meaning me) was right, where does it stop, even mentioned my neices egg allergy. after the 4 or 5 that still stood to speak, I stood up again and addressed each one of them. p*$$ed one off. she used the bee sting analogy, and I told her she was right, that we would not keep all the kids in because one was allergic to bees, but then we wouldnt expect that child to eat in a lunchroom full of them. when I told the guy I was Lisa T, I wish you could have seen his face. I told him that unlike my neice that had to eat eggs, this little boy only had to touch a peanut, maybe not even that.

I didnt deliver as smoothly as I would have liked, cuz I was so darned NERVOUS!!! and I figured out who themom was, but I dont think anybody else did, I figured it out because they were the only couple there and I watched theDad's face when the man started talking about how his son was afraid of food. (I think I had the same look lol)

I walked passed the principal after the meeting because themom was standing right there and I wanted to say Good Luck, so I told the principal to wish them luck for me.(but of course they heard it cuz they were right there) and themom then told me that she was the mom.

(BTW themom, I am glad you were comfortable enuf to do that with me.)

Long Post I know.

All in all, I think it went pretty good. Of course I dont know what happened after they called for the closed session, but I hope everything went good for them.

typed too fast in my original post, had to edit to fix some typos

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Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:43am
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Thanks for the update, Lisa! It seems to me that you did as good a job as one could have expected, especially since you didn't have to do it at all!!!

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 12:41pm
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Thank you Lisa! I'm very glad you were able to stand up to the parents. Way to go!
Btw, speaking like that in front of a crowd really gets the adrenaline flowing, eh?
I'm sure it will be an interesting next few days but just like with everything else, this hoopla will die down and something else will be talked about.
I'm eager to hear what themom has to say about the meeting.

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 1:24pm
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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
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speaking like that in front of a crowd really gets the adrenaline flowing, eh? [/b]
yeah, you could say that! lol I think I had so much adrenaline flowing that if anybody [i]did[/i] go into anaphylatic shock at the meeting, all I would have had to do is poke them with my finger. I left out of there with my knees still shaking lol.
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I'm eager to hear what themom has to say about the meeting.
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Me too, I was hoping when she got home she would come up here and post, but it must have been exhausting for her. I hope she can get a good nights sleep tonight, as for me, I am still wide awake. :P
Oh.. and one of the things that was said, the second person to stand up did this long speach thing about how she loved children and rambled for a while saying she doesnt tolerate teasing, and that she was teased as a child.. yada yada yada (she was so nervous she was almost in tears, therefor couldnt understand where she was going half the time. Thats why I wrote mine out!) [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] anyway, then said... "well maybe this child should wear gloves and a filter mask." YEAH LIKE THATS NOT GOING TO MAKE HIM STICK OUT! I can just hear the kids now... Hey!!! lets [b]not[/b] tease the kid with the gloves and the face mask! hey Micheal Jackson how ya doin?"
edited to add a second part, and also to fix the bolds.
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Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 2:25pm
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Turlisa,
Thank you for taking the time to post an update, and more importantly, [i]thank you for standing by this family.[/i]
BTW, the same "red herring" argument about "where does it stop" and that "others were able to get by without these changes in the past" was used by parents at [i]our[/i] Superintendent's Town Hall meeting last year when there was an uproar in my community. The Superintendent shut it down beautifully, explaining that all parents have a legal right to request accommodations if they are needed in order for their child to attend school safely (the legal terminology is "free and appropriate public education" in a "least restrictive environment"). So, his response was that if there was anyone else in the audience who felt they had a need, then he/she should understand that the district would evaluate the situation and handle appropriately, just as they were for our family. End of dialogue on that question....
"It stops" when the unique needs of the community served by the school have been met...
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Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 3:13pm
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Turlisa,
Wow! You are sooooo..... great!
I hate speaking in front of a group and you did it when you didn't have to!!!!
Talk about "Do the right thing." I want to hug you in person! When are you coming to Arizona [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Thank you so much!
Sue in Sunny Arizona

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 10:12pm
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Kudos!
Amy

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:24pm
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I was hoping themom would have been here by now, I am so anxious to hear what happened after they called for closed session.
Thank you everybody. It means alot to me that you have accepted me and realize that I am on your side.
and Sue.. I have an idea... we can both start walking, I will meet you half way. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] lets see, I will be starting out in Maine... that should take, what? about 2 months if we start walking now? lol
I feel so much better today, I really hope things went well for themom and dad the rest of the night.
One thing that I wish would have happened differently is when I stood up and addressed each one individually, one got mad and started to argue... I wish the chairman of the board would NOT have stopped it. If she had let it go my nervousness would have stopped and I would have gone into "combat" mode so to speak. I do much better under pressure. There was so much more I wanted to say, but my nervousness got the best of me and nobody made my angry. lol
So I will sit here, patiently waiting for themom to post and let us know how she is doing.
btw themom, I am a stay at home mom too, so anytime you want to call or whatever, I am always here.
Lisa

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:35pm
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oh.. and I got another dig in for myself too. In another thread e-mom asked what I was getting out of this and I went off venting in frustration saying that I got someone dragging my full name thru mud blaming me for everything from the holocaust to the iraqi war on a public television channel, well I met the co-host of that program last night, he was interviewing me for the paper. When he introduced himself to me, I told him that I was aware of the program the other night and I was aware of what was said, and that I really hoped that his Co-Host would be man enuf to stand up in public, and admit he was wrong and apologize in the same forum in which he attacked. I dont expect it, and I personally dont care anymore, but lets see what happens lol.
btw e-mom very clever of you to get me angry so you could see where I am coming from. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] it also helped me to change some things in my statement that I think stopped some people from standing and protesting. Unfortunately it didnt stop all of them.

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:39pm
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Quote:Originally posted by Nutternomore:
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"It stops" when the unique needs of the community served by the school have been met...
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DARN, I wish I had heard that before the meeting!!!!! because I would have said that!!!
Oh well, we can all think of a hundred things we wish we would have said, once the thing is over.

Posted on: Tue, 09/07/2004 - 11:41pm
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Lisa,Thank you very much!!
I have been off the board for away trying to catch up.
again Thank you!
Love this site
Synthia

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