Vent ! Parents who don\'t \'get it\' and the schools that don\'t enforce it

Posted on: Thu, 05/15/2008 - 2:52pm
Angeliquesmom's picture
Joined: 12/07/2007 - 11:58

I'm at my wits end. My daughter who is 5 and in kindergarten is on a 504 plan for her type 1 diabetes and PA . After involving OCR we have a plan in place for a peanut free classroom and her class lunch table. All students in her class are forbidden to bring in any type of peanut/nut products and this has been in place for most of the year. Well, last Friday my daughter lets me know that a boy in her class ate PB&J at lunch sitting right next to her. Monday morning my husband and I spoke to the assistant principal about this and he responded that he will deal with the problem. Well, today my daughter comes home and lets me know the same boy ate Reeces peanut butter cups for lunch today and even held one up to show her before he ate it and told her what it was. I asked her if she told the teacher and she said no because she was too scared. I'm so angry now that the school is letting this go on and they seem to be slacking now that the school year is ending. I feel they should have spoken to the boys parents immedietly and told them they cannot bring in peanut products ever again. Obviously this didn't happen and the parent is doing it on purpose. I even considered calling the parents tonight and speaking to them myself but decided to wait until the morning and let the school have it. This time I'll expect some proof that they're handling this problem. It just makes me wonder how many times kids have brought in peanut products this year without me knowing about it.

Posted on: Thu, 05/15/2008 - 4:43pm
mom2landz's picture
Joined: 04/30/2008 - 16:32

i'm so sorry. something similar happened to us last week and it's so unnerving. thankful on one hand that nothing happened, frustrated and irritated on the other that no one seems to take me seriously.
why don't people get it?
i hope you get some resolve for your and your daughter's sake.

Posted on: Fri, 05/16/2008 - 12:27am
Angeliquesmom's picture
Joined: 12/07/2007 - 11:58

I'm so glad I have the people here like you who understand ..Thank You!
My husband spoke to the assistant principal today who said they will check the lunches and snacks again. They were supposed to be doing this daily anyway since it's in our 504 and health plan but obviously haven't been doing it. He also said the teacher called the parents this morning after receiving my email. He then told my husband to not put the child who brought the peanuts last name in emails anymore...huh? I'm supposed to protect that kids identity(from the teacher of all people in a private email) but they don't follow the rules that we agreed upon? Unbelievable!
Anyway, I put a call in for the assistant principal myself this morning and am waiting for his call because I have a problem with all of this. I feel the principal should be calling the parents not the teacher. They should also have some sort of punishment(suspension or something like this) if it ever happens again. I mean, would they let a child with a knife or gun get away with just a phone call from the teacher? This child knew that he had peanut butter too because he showed it to my daughter and told her it was a Reece's.
I also put a call in for the OCR and can't wait to hear what they have to say about this.
Do you know if I can take any legal action against this if it happens again? Hopefully it won't take her dying(God forbid) or going to the hospital for me to protect her under the law.
I can't wait for the summer so I don't have to worry more week!

Posted on: Fri, 05/16/2008 - 8:24am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

You are right, parents don't get it. The school is probably laxing because it is towards the end of the year. Is it a new student by chance? I don't know if I would call the parents, but I sure would call the school board or the 504 cooridinator.
I am still working out our problems with the school. I requested a meeting with the principal and she said to wait until next year with my son's new teacher. Well this does not address this years problems. I have been talking with some advocates lately and they suggested call the State DOE since I was not ready to involve the OCR. Well I talked to the DOE Lawyer and he seemed upset with the 504 cooridinator of our district and how she and the principal were not making sure the teacher was following the 504. He said he was going to call them. I will let you know what happened.
I am sorry that our children have to go thru this. The school put a plan in writing and they should follow it. They just don't get it. I am like you, I would be mad too!. Let me know what happens.

Posted on: Mon, 05/19/2008 - 10:52pm
mom135's picture
Joined: 08/24/2007 - 09:00

We all get it. Its always amazing to me the common thread for all of us no matter where we live in the country.
If you think there is only one offender, you should have his seat moved away from your child at the very least. And he should be required to wash his hands after eating, if he keeps bringing things in, at least until you resolve this.
The point you made about "protecting" the peanut eating child is a very real and disturbing issue in our schools. I don't get it.
Keep fighting. The loudest voice always wins. (So it seems).

Posted on: Mon, 06/02/2008 - 4:46am
TraciT's picture
Joined: 10/26/2007 - 12:48

It seems we are going through something very similar! My DD is also in kindergarten and I recently found out that many of the things I thought the school had been doing since the beginning of this year were NOT being done! I completely understand your frustration. There is a very obvious lack of education in regards to food allergies for many schools, and your is one of them (mine is another). :(
Stay strong and good luck!

Posted on: Tue, 06/17/2008 - 9:44am
Skywalker's picture
Joined: 06/12/2008 - 16:10

I think all food allergy parents should be warned. Just because you have a 504 plan or a non-504 health plan and the school promises everything in it, doesn't me they will always follow it. You need to keep an eye on them and constantly review, remind, etc. This is not something that can go on auto pilot. Volunteer in the classroom, schedule conferences with the teacher to reveiw "how's it going", drop in during lunch time (make sure you check in with the office) and watch them during lunch. Takes notes, get names, take pictures if you can. If they are not doing what they are supposed to, you will have your proof you need to take it to the next level if needed. We put in our plan that our son can call us at any time if he feels unsafe food is being served in his classroom, he is unfairly excluded, or anyone threatens him with food.

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