Valentines in school

Posted on: Tue, 02/06/2007 - 5:30am
TwokidsNJ's picture
Joined: 05/28/2005 - 09:00

Our teacher sent out a list of the names and instructions for addressing valentines. She did not indicate anything about treats (ie, lollipops, etc).

I do not have a 504 or IHCP (working on it for 1st grade). Room is peanut/tree nut free and I am always included in party planning (moms and teacher have been great) and I usually make the cupcakes for the class.

Should I let this go and assume DS will get treats with his valentines and just instruct him to open at home (I will be at party)? Or should I email the teacher to find out if her intention is no treats (she said this at halloween) or if I should expect some valentines to contain treats?

I can live with it either way since I plan to attend the party; but I'm a little nervous in case I can't (if my babysitter falls thru or other kids get sick).

Posted on: Tue, 02/06/2007 - 5:43am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

I don't have a 504 in place either, but I think this comes down to being repectful as well. If your son is given a gift, it may not always be the best thing(heck my family still bring my kids M&M's) but I remind Jake that morning(as I always do) not to eat anything before I check it(just like at Halloween). I still allow him to tick or treat, but I take out the *bad candy* before he eats anything. So this would also imply for Valentines....he is going to get *bad candy* but he knows to bring it home, I sort it and he gets all the safe stuff! We have no 504 and we have no ban for his who knows what will show up next Wed! You can try getting in touch with the teacher, but just liek with anything, you decide in the end what is safe and what isn't.
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Tue, 02/06/2007 - 6:26am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Our teacher is not allowing any candy in the Valentine's this year. As I was looking for safe candy ideas for the treat bags, I noticed things like Care Bears Fruit snacks had a peanut warning on them. SO I would just be careful because things that may seem safe to you may not be since you cannot read the label.

Posted on: Tue, 02/06/2007 - 6:30am
NicoleinNH's picture
Joined: 06/21/2003 - 09:00

[This message has been edited by NicoleinNH (edited June 09, 2007).]

Posted on: Tue, 02/06/2007 - 6:33am
PennMom's picture
Joined: 08/01/2006 - 09:00

Emily's mommy- care bear fruit snacks with a PA warning? Were these the Betty crocker ones or something else? My PA DD eats fruit snacks all the time- including care bear ones- please let me know what you saw. Thanks!

Posted on: Wed, 02/07/2007 - 11:29am
TwokidsNJ's picture
Joined: 05/28/2005 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by emily'smommy:
[b]Our teacher is not allowing any candy in the Valentine's this year. As I was looking for safe candy ideas for the treat bags, I noticed things like Care Bears Fruit snacks had a peanut warning on them. SO I would just be careful because things that may seem safe to you may not be since you cannot read the label.[/b]
That's exactly what alerted me. The class mom told me she had bought heart shaped lollipops for her DS' valentines, but then saw the nut warning.
This prompted me to check the teachers note whether treats are allowed at all; no mention. I did email her to ask. I told her I'd prefer ONLY non-food treats (ie stickers) but since I will be at the party I'm tenatively ok with treats IF she sends a note reminding parents no peanuts/nuts. Meanwhile I'll use this as an example in my work with the principal on school policies for food allergies (too risky IMO; does he really want to take on that risk??).
I don't think passing out food in school is a good idea. My 2nd DS has even more severe allergies, but he has little self control and will pop treats in his mouth "forgetting" to ask me. What if I *can't* attend the party, my kid rides the bus home with a bag of treats and is expected -at age 5 or 6 - to have that much self control? Yikes!
[This message has been edited by TwokidsNJ (edited February 07, 2007).]

Posted on: Thu, 02/08/2007 - 8:58am
Boomer's picture
Joined: 02/09/2007 - 09:00

I would assume nothing. I gave our school a list of candies that were safe and also indicated on the list that even though these were on the list PLEASE still read the labels. Our school sent it out to every student.
Also, if possible, I would volunteer for the party. Just to be safe and watch your child.

Posted on: Mon, 02/12/2007 - 2:57am
pfmom2's picture
Joined: 01/22/2006 - 09:00

Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you can't make it in for the party.. maybe send a note to the teacher to check that your child's Valentine's have no food attached or something to that effect before being sent home.
Emily's Mom.... Your post raised a concern for me also...Care Bear fruit snacks made by Betty Crocker?? Are they the ones with the Peanut warning? Hoping not as those fruit snacks are one of the only treats my children can have due to MFAs...SIGH!

Posted on: Mon, 02/12/2007 - 11:56am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I sure do wish I kept the box of care bear snacks. It was a blue box, with one larger fruit bear connected to each Valentine. It was bought at Rite Aid. Not the single bags with a bunch of little fruit snacks in it. I apologize that I have no idea which brand. We actually threw them all away.
(a little background info...i am pregnant and on bedrest, so i asked my mom to go to the store and buy a bunch of different valentine candy so i could figure out what was safe/not safe by reading the box, looking online and calling the company, which is how we got those into our house in the first place)
Sorry I am not more helpful!!

Posted on: Tue, 02/13/2007 - 1:50pm
TwokidsNJ's picture
Joined: 05/28/2005 - 09:00

Update: I am attending the party -- luckily the K teacher does allow me to attend all parties (and I'm even being super helpful by making a game for the kids etc).
K teacher has a good solution (acceptable for now)...she has the kids deliver their valentines then staples the bags shut and has the kid bring them out to mom at pickup. I think this is good, but I did mention to prinicpal (as part of a larger conversation) that this works FOR NOW FOR ME...but he needs to think about the bussed allergic 5yo K-er sitting alone on the bus with a bag of treats that might be poison to him, with a bus driver that doesn't do the epipen...
I also made sure the K teacher sent out a note that all candy must be peanut/nut hopefully there will be nothing blatantly unsafe (but it will be interesting to see!).
Thanks for the advice - my first time dealing with this in elem school!

Posted on: Thu, 02/15/2007 - 9:24pm
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

What we did in the younger years (we have a very comprehensive 504) was to have all party foods come in on a deadline--3 days before the party. The teacher and I checked the labels beforehand and anything with a peanut warning was sent home. If a parent "forgot" and sent in food, they were stopped at the door and sent home. It rarely happened because there were letters and advance notice sent out periodically throughout the year and the peanut-free classroom was addressed by the principal in the Meet the Teacher groups before school started.
We anticipated some unsafe food would be brought on on special days in bookbags. So that stuff was packed up in baggies and sent home with the kids in their bookbags. It was given to them at the end of the day with very specific instructions to pop them right in, take them home, they are not to eat it until that time.
We knew kids might take it out on the bus, so my plan was to drive Ryan to and from school on the day before, the day of, and the day after the big party days like Halloween, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc.
Now that he is older, there is a lot less food. It is still a worry, but in the older grades there is not so much partying anymore. Once they hit 5th grade, basically nothing at all.



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