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Posted on: Thu, 01/25/2001 - 12:15pm
AmyR's picture
Joined: 09/26/2000 - 09:00

I have also educated my three year old son by reading Allie the Allertic Elephant as well as No Nuts for Me. We also talk about not being able to eat peanuts alot. I will say to him, "can Jason eat peanuts". He'll reply "no". I'll say "what happens if you eat peanuts" and he will say "I will get very, very sick". We have a Scooby Doo book which we didn't read before purchasing. In the book Scooby eats peanut butter and there is a comment about how much Scooby loves peanuts. The first time I came across these words my heart sank. I didn't want this book hanging around anymore. I thought he'd want to eat peanuts if he knew Scooby loved them. But we continue to read the book because he loves it. I actually think it's been to our benefit because every time we get to that part of the book I can ask him if he can have peanuts. We were reading the book tonight and Scooby was eating "Scooby Snacks". I told him no and he said, "oh, does it have peanuts?" I was really saying no because there isn't such a thing in real life. Often times when I tell him he can't eat something (because it's not time to eat or for some other reason) he will ask if it has peanuts. I know he's getting it.
As an aside, my five year old non-PA daughter has always been very protective of Jason and will always remind people to check for peanuts. We think she may have a dairy allergy and is currently off dairy. Last night Jason was having smarties (from Canada) and Jodi told Jason he had to wash her hands because she may be allergic. It was awfully cute even though her allergy obviously wouldn't be as sensitive as his.

Posted on: Fri, 01/26/2001 - 1:06am
Heather's picture
Joined: 10/08/2006 - 09:00

My son got a Raffi vidoe tape and he loves it! But when the song entitled Peanut Butter Sandwich comes on, my heart sinks. I'm so glad to hear someone else feels the same way. The same as you, I try to use it as an education opportunity. Last night on Sesame Street, Allan gave Telly a PB sandwich and I told my son "peanut butter yucky, you can't eat peanut butter because you're allergic and it will make you sick". Still, when it comes up, I can feel my heart sink.

Posted on: Fri, 01/26/2001 - 7:10am
Joanne's picture
Joined: 02/22/1999 - 09:00

My son was 1 when his PA was diagnosed; he's now 7. We've been very clear about this to him: he can only eat food that comes from Mommy, Daddy, or Grandma J. That's it. He brings his own food to school and on playdates. He learned at a very early age to say "No thanks" when anyone else offered him food. For us this way has worked because it's so clear and I don't have to worry about the judgement of people who, well-meaning as they are, just don't deal with this allergy day to day. Many times he's been offered food when we're out of the house and he's refused it; we always allow him to eat a special treat when he gets home so that he doesn't feel deprived.
One note about the "Peanut Butter" song. When Sean was younger (2 or 3) we were in a music class and that was one of the songs. I spoke to the teacher about it and she decided never to play the song for Sean's class so as not to confuse him. I still remember that.

Posted on: Fri, 01/26/2001 - 7:25am
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Joined: 04/28/2000 - 09:00

Heather -- I'm worried that just "Yucky" with your 2 year-old might give the wrong idea to the child as well as to other adults. Some might take it to mean just "I don't like this" & dangerous confusion may occur! I feel more comfortable with those who've used "Yucky" with "Makes me very sick" with their children. Our 2 year-old says "NOOOOOO Peanuts. Make me VERY sick." We dropped the "yucky" because he was using it for foods he really didn't care for & we wanted to avoid confusion. I know you have to do what works with a young child & as a child becomes more verbal. Not trying to hammer you, just worried about the possible confusion & wanted to say a word or two.
:-) EB

Posted on: Sat, 01/27/2001 - 7:15am
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Joined: 08/16/2000 - 09:00

We had a situation at my wife's family's house. Her mother was very upset that we talked about how dangerous this peanut allergy is in front of Jesse (5). She said we were just scaring him unneccesarily. I replied that he needed to know how deadly serious this is because the danger is everywhere. They know that certain snakes can be deadly even though it's highly unlikely they will encounter one. Why should we hide the dangers of the common peanut from him???????

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2001 - 11:00am
Lisa S's picture
Joined: 01/03/2001 - 09:00

You all seem to have children who are very young. Believe it or not things get harder as they get older because you lose control of their every move. I hope all your training helps for the times to come!

Posted on: Tue, 01/30/2001 - 5:21am
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Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

Lisa S -- I can understand that it gets harder as they get older because you lose control of situations. But I'm wondering (hoping) that in some ways it gets easier. I guess I'm always trying to look for the silver lining in things! But I'd be interested in what other parents of older PA kids think. Is there anything that makes it easier as kids get older? Or is it totally negative?
Andrew's Mom

Posted on: Tue, 01/30/2001 - 5:34am
Heather's picture
Joined: 10/08/2006 - 09:00

Well, I can say from the point of a mother of a 2 year old, I'll be glad when my son can verbalize symptoms. Right now he would not be able to tell me if he just didn't feel right, felt "buzzing" in his throat or swelling or anything.

Posted on: Tue, 01/30/2001 - 10:44am
Frances's picture
Joined: 11/28/2000 - 09:00

We didn't know about my son's allergies until he was 8. He had an anaphylactic reaction to a very small amount of walnut. He also is allergic to peanuts and has a reaction to a peanut candy that someone opened up at school. I therefore don't know about dealing with a younger child but I do know that my child does a great job of making himself safe. He never takes food without checking the ingredients. If someone says they think it is safe--he just passes. If someone says it should be okay--same thing, he knows it is not worth the risk. His friends do an amazing job of monitoring their food around him because they know it will make him sick. When he goes to parties the parents are always accomodating and check all ingredients with me beforehand. We have had such great experiences that sometimes I wonder if we are getting too comfortable with the allergies. My son is able to tell me exactly what his symptoms are--he can tell me exactly what he ate or who ate what near him. I'm sure the dynamics of this will change somewhat as he enters his teens and wants to separate some from us--but we are hopeful that the groundwork has been laid so that he will continue to successfully monitor his allergies. Also the playing is different--less toys, hands on kind of stuff where you have to worry about contact contamination. Yes he is out and about without us more but he knows what to do, he carries an epipen and we have a cell phone. Other than the one reaction from the candy being opened--he has been reaction free for three years! We always look for treats he can have (I always have done his school parties) and he doesn't feel deprived. He goes trick or treating and we buy any candy from him which is not okay (about 80% of what he gets). I always have "gourmet" chocolate available to him so he doesn't really mind not getting the "cheap" stuff. I think the best thing we can teach our kids is that they are not missing out or deprived! I think to set up our kids for success we need to look at this thing in a positive, proactive way--rather than a negative, worry about every little thing, paranoid way. I think the approach is crucial to your child being successful in managing their own allergies.

Posted on: Tue, 01/30/2001 - 1:07pm
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dad, my son, Jesse, also knows that PA CAN be a deadly allergy. He does realize the seriousness of his allergy and he has just turned 5. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Of course, other people will and do.
I have explained to him, as I'm sure you've explained to your Jesse to, that you do everything to keep him safe by doing the things that you do, that you have his Epi-pen should he have a reaction, etc.
I know a few months ago, another person posting had mentioned that she had told her child that she could die from PA and she got some really upsetting posts in response. But, it is true. At what age do we decide it is okay for our children to hear that yes, they can, in fact, die, from PA if it is not treated?
I don't think it's wrong that your Jesse knows. I understand where your Mom is coming from but you're the Dad (dad!).
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]



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