Posted on: Wed, 03/12/2008 - 12:12am
Jodi2boys's picture
Joined: 01/23/2003 - 09:00

Like to get some opinions....

Quick run down~ A letter went home to all parents in a classroom notifying them of a life-threatening PA in class...can die from exposure. Do not send in peanut products.

Certain parent sent in an unsafe snack with her child a few times...snack was returned with a note.

Child comes in last week Mom said that she is going to rub "peanut lotion" all over me and send me to school. He was told not to say that, his response~ well, my Mom said she was going to.

Administration was told about incident. Their response...just an ignorant comment made by an igorant parent. They didn't take it very serious or see it as a possible threat.

Any opnions??

Posted on: Wed, 03/12/2008 - 1:01am
Krusty Krab's picture
Joined: 04/20/2007 - 09:00

Nice. What a wonderful example for that child. Good grief. This stuff boils my blood. I would not only document it in an email to admin. but I would request a meeting with the parent in the principals office....[i]and I wouldn't be happy until I got it.[/i]
Someone needs to be taught a lesson on food allergy, compassion, and how to be an example for children. My first comment to this mom would be 'Just so I understand, are you planning to threaten my child's life, willingfully, knowingly....[i]pre-meditatedly[/i] (if that's a word)?"
Oh, yes, I'd document it all.
On second thought...I wouldn't be a *b**** about it, but I'd most certainly get my point across.

Posted on: Wed, 03/12/2008 - 4:07am
niche's picture
Joined: 02/05/2007 - 09:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I had a situation happen recently with a child saying something to my son that we considered a threat. We also went to the administration. They were more relaxed about it than we were for sure. They did talk to the boy and his parents. We took it a step further and talked to the parents ourselves and tried to educate the child in question. However we are currently at a private school and somewhat knew the parents.
However in your case when it is possibly (probably?) the adult that actually said something I would be even more concerned. and the fact that they have shown by their actions they had no regard for your childs safety. That is truely scary. I am not 100% sure what actions are a possibility but I would be very upset and work with the school to get a suitable resolution.
I would really want to meet with the school and the parent if at all possible. I know some schools have police officers that work with them, forget what they are called, perhaps they would have some idea what action would be best?
I also sent my son's school 2 emails telling them how scared I was and could they please keep an extra on on my son and this other boy to watch for trouble.

Posted on: Wed, 03/12/2008 - 5:03am
phoenixrizing69's picture
Joined: 12/21/2007 - 10:54

The police officers that work for some schools/school systems are School Resource Officers (SRO's) or some variation of that. That is truly scary. I am so sorry this happened. If your child's school has an SRO, I would suggest possibly talking to them. If they don't have any answers or suggestions directly, they may know who you could contact.

Posted on: Fri, 03/14/2008 - 11:51am
OriJuice's picture
Joined: 03/04/2008 - 10:50

I personally think it's just an ignorant comment made by some dumb parent who doesn't understand the difference between life or death. My opinion would be to not take that on a personal or serious level, since not to many parents would lather their child in peanut lotion and send them to school with the intention of killing another child.
On the other hand, I think it would be a good idea to sit down with that parent and discuss it. Helping them understand the difference between life and death, and perhaps what a reaction feels like (Not pretty at all, as you can imagine) they will understand.
Sometimes people just need to be told the brutal and honest truth. Sugarcoating the truth doesn't do it for today's society. If I were you (Which I am not, so don't take my word for it) I would sit down with some pictures of brutal honesty and show the parents what could happen if they decided to follow through on that threat. Add a little guilt in there for good effect and you got a changed person, hopefully.

Posted on: Sat, 03/15/2008 - 4:40am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

How sad is that? Parents teaching their children how to bully and threaten a child. Just have I have posted here before, you can't fix stupid. What is it going to take for some of the parents and administrators to understand that our children are just that children. Their feelings are hurt too. They are scared too. What kind of example is it for our child to hear these kinds of things and the adults do nothing. They say oh well they can't do anything, like it is no big deal. It is a big deal. Our children have a hidden disability and should be protected. If we do not stand up for our kids apparently no one else will.
I am truly sorry this happened to your child. I hope your child will be made a stronger and wiser person from this. That is one thing that might come out of how our children are treated. Maybe we should all contact the OCR and turn these schools in for doing nothing, because that is what they do best. If your child cannot be pushed thru the system like the rest of the 90%, then they just do not want to deal with it.
I am sorry, we have had a tough time at school this week too. When will it end. I do not mean to rant and rave.

Posted on: Sat, 03/15/2008 - 10:13am
Ivycosmo's picture
Joined: 09/18/2007 - 09:00

How absolutely disgusting on SO many levels!
1. Teaching their children to be ignorant (edited).
2. Threatening to potentially kill a child
uggghhhh!!! I am so sorry you have to deal with that. My son has a little girl in his class (and has since kindergarten....they are in 3rd grade now) and the mother is SO ignorant about it, too. And I must say, I have watched the daughter grow into an ignorant mini-me of the mother over the years. I wish people would just 'GET IT'.
Unfortunately, it is something we will deal with forever. But, if I were you, I would definitely bring this to the attention of the school board. Go the the principal. No luck? Go to their boss. Still no luck? Go to THEIR boss. Don't stop until you feel your child is safe. Your child has a [b]right[/b] to go to school and be safe just as much as any other child.
Good luck. Please keep us posted!

Posted on: Sun, 03/16/2008 - 6:06am
poodles02's picture
Joined: 01/31/2008 - 04:21

I'm with Krusty - I would demand a meeting with this parent in the principal's office ASAP. I'd also make sure everything is clearly documented. Why are there so many blooming idiots out there that just don't get it or just don't care? Makes me sick.

Posted on: Tue, 03/25/2008 - 3:04am
grapekisses's picture
Joined: 06/17/2007 - 09:00

Sorry to hear that Jodi, it is unfortunate that there are people out there with that attitude however my son is 12 and we have been dealing with this since he was 2. I will assure you that it does get a little less stressful as they get older and are more able to watch out for themselves. You may want to meet with the school principal and remind him that the school does have a responsibility to keep all students in a safe environment. Also, and this is not very comforting I know but if something were to happen and the school has taken no steps to protect your child they could be liable.
Talking to a parent with this attitude is a total waste of time. It has been my experience that these situations are much more effective if the principal takes a stand and deals with the parent in question. The teacher may also want to talk with the class about keeping each other safe and the dangers of bringing peanut products into the classroom.

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