Thought my family \Got\ it!

Posted on: Wed, 01/24/2001 - 11:38pm
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pYou know, I was so proud of my family, both sides, for their support with this allergy. Last night, went to Mom's for her birthday and there was Sis#1 and #2 with a combined number of 6 children. Oh it was a disaster.br /
Let me preface this by saying I feel very comfortable in Mom's house. Her house is peanut free (her own doing) and she reads *everything* down to the shampoo she uses on her dog. To continue, it turns out child #5 had PB for lunch and sis#1 relied on his answer to the question "Did you wash your hands" I might add, child #5 is 8 yrs old and like many 8 yr olds, he lives in a world of his own revolving around his skateboard and his game boy. Well, after Lauren and child #5 "danced", Lauren came to me with hands ever so slightly swollen and a rash on both of them. It went from her knuckles to her wrist...no further. She also had it on her fingers between the joints and her knuckles...only on the top of her hands though. Sis#1 got very defensive when I suggested I thought it was child#5 who caused this (3 other children did not eat PB and two others had left by the time this happened. Don't know if they ate PB that day but they didn't engage in this "dancing") and Sis#1 blew up at me. I tried to tell her that I didn't care who caused it. I care that we identify the problem and propose and implement a solution so that it doesn't happen again. The solution was, if children 1-6 are going to continue to eat PB, then when there is a get-together, all children must wash their hands before going near Lauren. That wasn't good enough. I've insulted her and her family by insinuating that child#5 might have causd the reaction. Child#5 does not lie, she says. I never said he did. But anyone every see a kid wash their hands when there is playing to be done? This was not the only peanut related incident. It started the minute we walked in the door and sis#1 is holding a take-out pizza menu..."Will Lauren Abbey eat pizza?" Not..."Can Lauren Abbey have THIS pizza?" I explained the peanut thing again and she responded with "In Pizza?". No. I'm making it up because I want to put the pizza businesses in the world out of business. (I didn't say that, I'm winding myself up again) She continues with (not verbatim) "Well, geez, my kids won't eat anything else....Their father was supposed to feed them but didn't so now they are starving....Now what should we do....I'm so mad at their father for not feeding them." On and on with variations of this for 40 minutes all the while she is not doing anything to find something else for the kids!!! Like I'm not supposed to feel a bit uncomfortable about this? I tell her I will leave but she say I can't because I'll upset Mom if I leave. I offer to go to our "safe" pizza place a little further away and she tells me, "Oh no, you don't have to do that". Arrgh!!!!! Then there's the store-bought cake that she brought to the house. She knows Lauren can't eat store-bought cakes. My mom was prepared and the girls ate a "birthday sundae" and enjoyed making it so I was OK with the emotional part. But who was the cake for anyway...not my 58 year old extremely health conscious mother. It was for kids 1-6. She intentionally left them out. After the cake, the dancing started again. I asked child#5 to wash his hands. He went to the bathroom, turned on the water, ran his hands through (literally) and turned the water off. I heard him in the bathroom and the water on/off but was a bit numb because of what I had just been through with sis#1 and the reaction. I "woke up" when Sis#2 yelled at child#5 telling him it wasn't funny and he went back in and cleaned them better. Why didn't we leave at this point? Well, the first because Lauren had only received the bendryl a few minutes prior and I wanted to see where this was going before I hopped in the car alone with the kids in the back to head home (no cell phone...think it's about time). Since we didn't know the source for certain, I thought this was the smartest thing to do./p
pUnfortunately, I don't think we will be getting too involved with Sis#1 anymore. Sad too. Lauren loves all her cousins and they are all **incredibly** close./p
pWe gave her benedryl and the rash on her hands did not clear up. It stopped itching her but it remained extremely red (as red as your cheeks will get on a very cold windy day). The rash was not raised. It was tiny, tiny dots on her hand that seemed to thin as you moved to towards her wrist. We've been giving her Benedryl every 4 hrs since 6:30pm last night and one hand finally cleared by this a.m. but the other is still quite red on 1/2 of it. We checked her every hour overnight to make sure there were no additional marks on her./p
pSis#1 seemed to doubt my ability to judge a reaction. I feel quite confident it was but would like a second opinion. Anyone ever see a rash like this? /p
pSorry for the length and thanks for the vent.br /
Andrea/p

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