Synthia,
You posted:
"With nothing in writing yet,Ihave asked her that from day one."
Interesting. I have found Peer review to be very enlightening.
Will you physician write a letter to the nurse? Inquiring if there are any issues that have not been addressed (with regard to medication and administration)? I am such a stinker.
MommaBear

Synthia, I fixed my problem! Tell Kim thanks!
"they can't do that."
There is a difference in "can't" and "won't". I saw you wrote an advocate will be attending with you; I hope he/she has been able to supply you with much valuable information.
Before reading this thread, I sent you some information on some agencies in your area.
Rachel

Hi Synthia,
You are absolutely right, a peanut/nut free
classroom for your child is absolutely necessary!
My perception is that the reason they want a dialogue from your allergist is to prove that Little V has the potential to have a reaction from PB/N products being brought into the classroom in a closed receptacle such as a brown bag, lunch box, igloo, etc. If it can be proven that it could cause a reaction from being in an enclosed receptacle, then they may be able to have legal bearing to do not allow them to brought in the classroom or both you & the school district may have to add an amendment to the established guidelines. Otherwise, they may only be able to offer to lock up brown bag lunches in a locker or place them on top of a tall piece of furniture, or ask that all students drop off their lunch in the office, something to that effect. Sorry, my intention is not to sound offensive, I'm just not familiar w/what all your child's disability entails.
Its possible that I have interpreted their actions, however another option is to ask for clarification & to also ask for copies of the they are using on FA & the guidelines they are using on learning diabilities. This will give you some insight on where they are coming from, and also it just might provide a loophole for you.
As for training in the use of the Epi-pen, direct them to FAAN, [url="http://www.foodallergy.org"]www.foodallergy.org[/url] or call the district superintendent to provide this training while you are in attendance, if possible. You may also want to look up volunteering at your child's school here on this website.
When my dd began kindergarten, the principal nor any of his staff were trained in anything about FA. Believe me, I was stunned because the principal had told me that there was a PA kid entering first grade. All they knew is that when he walked by his teacher in the classroom as she opened a jar of peanut butter he immediately went into anaphylactic shock. His parents had not provided an Epi-pen for the school & also here in AZ, EMTs do not carry them.
Getting the training was easily, having the principal accept was difficult & alot of heartache. Persistance made it possible. It
is still alot of work because my daughter is one grade behind the other PA child. Every year I have to instruct either the teacher who had the PA kid the year before or instruct a new teacher who has heard about that child's parents. To everyone it appears that they expect the school to take full responsibility for their child, I also believe this to be true because the principal has to demand an Epi-pen every year from the parents.
Even though having a child w/PA is & can be an enourmous amount of work, it certainly is worth it!
Stay safe & take care of yourself also Synthia!

synthia, your my hero!

Synthia, When is your meeting? Keep us informed as to how it goes!
Good Luck,
Rachel

Synthia - How was the night out at the Improv with your DH? Glad you are getting some time for yourself, in between keeping a tight leash on things at the school.
How did little V do with her tonsil surgery before christmas?