The Positives of living with PA

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 11:53am
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I was thinking today of all the positives of raising a PA child, I guess I need some light in this whole thing and here are my top three:

3. Being able to say "NO" when something is out of our comfort zone has taught me the art of saying "NO" to social engagements without DD that I just don't want to attend.

2. I'm not sure about the rest of you but my DD is very bright and I think that has to do with all the time I spend with her b/c I don't let her play with the PB&J kids in our neighborhood.

and the number one reason.

1. COMMUNICATION! I don't know about everyone else but since my DD diagnosis I talk to her constantly about school, friends, activiites, etc. I find it helps to open up the lines of communication, my DD is only 4 but I look at it as starting early and keeping them open now b/c in a few years she'll want to tell me I'm weird etc.

What positives has anyone else found?

Posted on: Fri, 09/07/2007 - 10:56pm
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I think it gives me an out from giving DS all the junk that is around us all the time. I grew up eating natural foods and like DS's diet to be healthy. (Although he for sure gets way more junk *because* it is allergy-free and safe than he would if he didn't have allergies at times, too. lol!)
Having an out so I don't have to go to some social events I don't really feel like attending anyway. :P
Learning to decorate cakes. Altough I just kind of complained about all the work involved in another post I'm actually thrilled I can do this! I would *never* have taken the time to learn otherwise.
We do super cool things like have a soy "ice cream" making party including many safe toppings. It is way more meaningful and fun than going out for ice cream. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Our party this past summer with my brother is one of the best memories I have of the whole summer. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Having very good friends. FAs really weeded out some people who weren't nice friends and that was sad but they were replaced by wonderful, caring people. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
I'm sure there are other things.

Posted on: Sat, 09/08/2007 - 12:53am
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I am also doing more cake baking and decorating.
Not buying any baked goods is making my diet go a bit better.
I've always struggled with shyness, especially when something may put someone out... I now don't hesitate to tell people what I need to keep my son safe, and it's transferring to other situations.
I have learned that I do really have people that care in my life... one neighbor/friend now also has a peanut free home to keep my son safe when we go over.

Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 6:27am
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Thanks for this thread, I really needed to read some positive things because I'm at a low right now in this rollercoaster ride of a life we deal with. I especially can agree with the post above that communication between parents and especially PA kids is good and brings us closer to our kids and it also builds a trust between us and them.
I have to add that I bake more which I love to do, make my own bread and ice cream which is so yummy.
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Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 10:21pm
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I *am forced* to read labels before [i]deciding[/i] to purchase something my family. I don't impulse buy. I'm telling you, manufacturer's must completely think consumers are sheep....that all they look at is the front of the box or the price.

Posted on: Sun, 09/09/2007 - 10:46pm
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Learning to pronounce the words on the ingrediant labels. Years ago, I would have never believed that I could read it as fast as I do now.
My son knows when I worry about him especially if I notice red marks on his face, I check his body. He puts his arms around my head and tells me "I'm o.k. mommy". And then he keeps hugging me and tells everyone that I take good care of him.

Posted on: Mon, 09/10/2007 - 12:00pm
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I keep thinking of them. They will always feel special because that's the way we raise them.

Posted on: Mon, 09/10/2007 - 2:40pm
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My kids are learning to be great little cooks! Their spouses will thank me. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
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~Eli[b]Z[/b]abeth,
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DD age 6, treated as though PA/TNA. Drug & chemical (sunscreen) allergies.
DS age 8, PA, suspected TNA, Latex, legumes?, sunscreens . . .
(PA diagnosed & ana reaction 1999)
Member here since 2000

Posted on: Tue, 09/11/2007 - 1:38am
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If I have goodies in the house I WILL eat them all. I have willpower in the grocery store, but no willpower in my own house - so I just don't buy cookies, etc.
But what do you do when you have house guests? I feel like I should have some sort of treat to offer for dessert - or a cookie to go with a cup of tea.
An advantage to having PA.......I buy 'may contain' cookies or desserts so that my guests can have them, but I can't.
This keeps me from eating a box of cookies in a day or two!

Posted on: Fri, 09/28/2007 - 9:31am
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We get to be selective about extended family outings - rather than being pressured into going due to 'assumed obligation'.

Posted on: Mon, 12/31/2007 - 6:07am
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I am still nursing my PA son so I cannot eat ANY of his allergens.
No more candy and pretty much most processed foods are gone, you can see in my siggy that he has a wide variety of allergies.

Posted on: Mon, 01/21/2008 - 11:21am
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Since PA, I can produce a full meal for up to 3 kids out of the contents of my car at a moments notice - I even had gluten free snacks for a friend today who is allergic to gluten and having a migraine.

Posted on: Mon, 02/04/2008 - 4:28am
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And reading those labels is an eyeopener.

Posted on: Mon, 02/04/2008 - 10:35am
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lol! that is great!

Posted on: Wed, 02/06/2008 - 4:15am
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THANK YOU for this post!!! I know I will come back and read everyone's entries periodically!
My DD's allergies has led my family and I to be much, much, much more healthy. We eat organic now and very limited processed foods. I am a lot more aware about what goes into our bodies and onto our skin.
The best result is that I feel I am a better advocate in every aspect of my life. I don't feel bad saying no to things anymore. And I do my own research!

Posted on: Fri, 02/08/2008 - 7:18am
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Educating myself more and more, educating dd and ds on how to keep her safe around food, and teaching others about food allergies. It seems to be a big eye-opener to others these days and it is a great feeling to help others in my community that have just learned they have a food allergy and need info on how to manage.

Posted on: Mon, 02/11/2008 - 1:18am
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Here's my positive list:
1. My mother-in-law no longer questions my authority over my children.
2. I've learned how to REALLY cook and bake.
3. Our latest "kitchen experiment" was homemade pop tarts, they worked!
4. My kids think I'm super mom because I can take a product off the shelf in the store, read the ingredients, and reproduce it at home using safe uncontaminated ingredients.
5. I've lost 20 pounds not eating at fast food restaurants.
6. We get to bring our own food to the movie theatre without being hassled by the staff, BIG MONEY SAVER!
7. I can say "no thank you" to potluck food that I know will add ten pounds to my hips and no one says a word.
8. My family has become healthier.
9. I got to buy all new kitchen ware when we discovered the allergies.
10. I've learned patience.

Posted on: Wed, 07/30/2008 - 11:27am
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Lakeswmir-- I took Wilton classes too and learned to decorate cakes. I had always wanted to, but never followed through until last summer. I did it so that my son could have more interesting birthday cakes. Nice that someone else did this.

Posted on: Wed, 07/30/2008 - 11:52am
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And I meant to add, have you been to cakecentral.com? I like that forum a lot and hvae learned a HUGE amount.

Posted on: Wed, 07/30/2008 - 12:18pm
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I completely agree with what everyone else has said. I was just thinking the other day that I need to sit down and make a list of all of the positives because I know there have been many.
One that I don't think that was mentioned is something a lady at church told me about her son (now 16) who is severely allergic to eggs and tree nuts. She told me FA kids are more responsible than other children than other kids their age. That has brought me so much comfort!!
I can already see my son (age 3) becoming more responsible. I've been trying to teach him to tell people he can't eat things with peanuts in it. Sometimes he tells me that when I give him something to eat!! At first I felt so bad that he thought I might give him something but then I realized it's just part of him taking a little control over his own allergy and becoming more "responsible."
Glad to see some of us looking the bright side of things instead of the gloomy side of PA. I think it really helps balance this delicate journey out a little!!

Posted on: Thu, 10/30/2008 - 10:16pm
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Hey, I would love to have your recipe for homemade poptarts, if you wouldn't mind posting it!
Also, thanks to all posting on this topic. I am new at this, just finding out in September '08. I've had some bad experiences involving school since then, and it's been fairly negative. Now I see some positive aspects.
Until now, my only positive was a big one...having my son!

Posted on: Sat, 11/01/2008 - 7:58am
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I can think of some positives:
The pediatrician lets me call him at home.
I make time to go on every field trip.
I get to talk to the principal, school nurse and teachers more.
I bring healthy snacks wherever we go.
I could justify getting a phone with internet service (restaurant websites often have allergy info.)
My daughter is extremely responsible and thinks ahead.
Her friends care about her A LOT and look out for her.
My daughter (almost in middle school) still likes having me around.
And my daughter's big excitement... when she starts riding the bus she'll get a cell phone! Awesome!

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