The Gym Daycare

Posted on: Sat, 01/27/2007 - 2:18pm
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This is upsetting me and I would like advice.

Since my 3 1/2 year old son's diagnosis with a peanut allergy his preschool and county park systems classes have both gone peanutfree. I didn't have to lobby hard. The people I talked to were more than accomodating. We came up with lists of peanut free snacks and life has been good for almost two years.

I go to a local gym. The women that work in the daycare know of my son's allergy. They are very nice and they promise me that they keep peanuts away from him. I decided finally to talk to the manager of the gym. She was so nasty that I was shocked. The conversation didn't go well. I didn't demand that they should be peanutfree. I just explained my fears and said that it's become an increasingly more prevailant allergy. I asked that maybe they could recommend that parents not bring peanuts as a snack.

Today was the first time I've gone back the gym since the altercation with the manager. I noticed when I was picking my children up from the daycare that there was a ziploc bag full of mixed nuts on the corner of the table in the room. I can't help but wonder if that was planted there. I know that sounds insane but I do wonder if the manager's thoughts are to make her life easier by getting rid of me.

WWYD? Just quit the gym? I love going there and I trust that the daycare workers would never knowingly put my son in danger. I wonder if it was a strange coincidence or a message. When the manager and I were arguing I did say to her that she's a mother and should understand my worries. She replied to me that if it were her kid she wouldn't bring him there.

I'm sure others feel like she does and I should never have gone to that gym knowing that they don't have a safe snack policy. Please try not to judge me on my choices. I'm very careful but know we can't live in a bubble.

I am just wondering how other parents in my situation would react. Any adive?

Posted on: Sat, 01/27/2007 - 2:36pm
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Hi KateDe,
I was shopping for a gym this time last year, and I went to many. Me personally, I wasn't comfortable to leave my little one in a facility that let the kids have food in there. I finally found a gym that only let the kids have drinks. I would have never been comfortable, but that is me.
Your situation? I don't know what I would do exactly. I believe that I would contact, by letter or email, the person above her head. Make sure they understand that FA are covered under the disabilities Act, just like people in wheelchairs for example. May not do anything, but I wouldn't let her off so easy, this woman has kids in school I am sure, and she is the one sending in all this peanut butter with her kids to school. I wouldn't just leave the gym and let her off. Did you question the bag of nuts on the table. I mean, that is just plain dangerous for children PA or not. What if a toddler got a hold of the bag and choked on the nuts?? KWIM! Let us know what happens.
Take Care,
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Stacie - Mother to:
11 yr. PA
8 yr. TNA
3 yr. PA&TNA

Posted on: Sat, 01/27/2007 - 8:07pm
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That would awaken the mama lion in me and I would probably pen an even, nice-toned newspaper article and make it about "The Challenges of Peanut Allergy" about how you find nice, accomadating people in some places and others who are openly hostile (I would express my puzzlement at that reaction), and I would use the "generic manager title" of the particular gym as a recent example. I would check libel/slander laws first. >>wink<<. However, since what you would be writing is true...
I just couldn't let it go. Evil people need to be called out and exposed to public shame.

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2007 - 4:46am
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letter to the editor would be a nice start!! I think I would have to go with my gut and NOT leave my kids in a place that, that allowed kids to bring in food. Preschools, schools, you can talk with the director etc...but in a *drop-in* care like the gym, they just don't care(apparently). In all honesty...no wonder we are a society of over weight people, if our kids can't go 1 hour without shoving a snack in their face, while their parents work out...something is wrong. For short-care places like this, it should be *no food allowed* JMO
ps...okay, don't jump on me about my over-weight comment. I know some people need to eat often and have issues etc....it was just my thought process at the time. sorry if I offend anyone.
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Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2007 - 7:04am
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I'm in a similar situation. My gym day care SAY they are pn-free, but the daycare manager said she can't control the children of STAFF members b/c gym staff members are apparently "above the rules." Those staff member parents send the kids in with PB sandwiches for lunch (they're there all day).
The daycare manager at my gym was not even close to as nasty as yours--and I am on the lookout for switching gyms. But before I do that, I'm going to contact the manager of the entire gym before I leave--he has the power to make this daycare totally pn-free. We'll just see if he does--his kids go there so maybe he's one that doesn't believe the rules apply. I'd start there if I were you as well--go above her head once and if no reaction/change, leave.
Good luck!

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2007 - 7:19am
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I would write a letter to the owner explaining how you were treated. Afterall, you are a paying customer and should not have been treated so poorly. I would explain the severity and risks of having food in the daycare (give articles, note from doctor, etc) and ask if it could be a "beverages only." Is there a Lifetime Fitness gym near you? I hear that they do NOT allow food in the childcare area and are pretty good at enforcing. Good luck.

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2007 - 11:20am
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Thank you for the quick responses. I pretty much couldn't fall asleep last night because of this. I like the gym, both my husband I go there, but I have to quit. I found a YMCA that has a Cheerios Only snack policy and they are strick about it. I am quiting my current gym, writing a letter to corporate and joining the Y. It doesn't even matter if my current gym changes their peanut policy. After I fought with the manager I will always wonder if the bag of nuts was left there for me to see. The only thing that would make me stay there is if she was fired. Harsh but true.

Posted on: Sun, 01/28/2007 - 11:34am
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KateDe...it does seem a bit *fishy* that a bag of peanuts would show up in a child care area...right after you had it out with the manager.....nuts are choke hazzards for young children anyways, shame on them!!! You are doing the right thing, it obviously bothered you and I think you made a good decision!!!! Good luck!!!
ps, I think following through with your letter to upper managment is good too, don't just walk away quiet...be heard!!!!
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Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Wed, 02/28/2007 - 10:15am
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I stay home with my two sons and am trying to find a way to build in some breaks for myself. We use very little babysitting due to the PA (only family members, typically only in our house at non-meal times). I found a gym near our house that does not allow any food or drink (except water) in the child care center. I talked to a manager on the phone today, and she told me when non-peak hours are and that of course I can train the child care staff on using the EpiPen. I plan to tour on Friday to see how it feels, to get a sense of how conscientious the child care staff are, and to make sure the no-food policy is strictly enforced. I also plan to call our allergist to see what he thinks of this (I'd only feel comfortable with his okay, and given how strict he is, I'm not sure that he will be favorable). I would really love it if this could be a safe way to incorporate a break. Feedback from people here is always really helpful in making decisions, so I'm going to solicit it here: Would you feel comfortable using gym daycare for a severely PA allergic 3-year-old IF there was a strictly enforced no-food policy and staff were trained on the EpiPen/action plan?

Posted on: Wed, 02/28/2007 - 10:41am
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My gym's daycare allows parents to send in snacks with their children, but they have a no peanuts/nuts policy.
Since my urchin is still in the womb, I've not used the KidZone, so I don't know how well this is enforced. It really seems like a no-brainer, but we all know how often *that* works out.
There are signs posted everywhere inside and around the doors and in each room, though.
ygg

Posted on: Wed, 02/28/2007 - 1:06pm
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KateDe-
Maybe I'm just way to vocal for my own good but don't just let her bully you away! If the Y is a better fit, then for sure go for it but be an advocate for your own cause and for any that might follow behind you.
Food Allergies are being better diagnosed today and people who SHOULD care and be willing to cooperate ARE NOT. And this is completly and totally unacceptable. First, write a letter to the upper management - which I believe you said you did and then follow up on it. FIRMLY follow up on it - don't give them ANY GROUND. And make sure you know the disabilities laws and use them to your advantage. This lady ABUSED your child and you and needs to learn that this is NOT okay. **She needs a good butt whooping is what she needs**
Next, make the biggest loudest noise with all the media you can -- **someone else said to check the slander laws - good idea but if you're just sharing your story I can't see how it could be slander esp when this lady could have killed your child ** -- and don't back down until your story is heard.
You're not just fighting for YOU and your child you're fighting for all those who follow you. You're setting PRECDENT. You're setting an example. And maybe this is the mama lion in me coming out but no one should be treated this way. This woman probably thought she could just get away with this in private - drag her out in public and shame her and make sure she knows she cannot get away with this and make sure others LIKE HER know THEY cannot get away with this.
/rant
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