Teaching 3 yr old about her PA & TNA?

Posted on: Tue, 03/11/2003 - 4:57am
Klutzi's picture
Joined: 03/10/2002 - 09:00

I was wondering how much & how soon do you teach your child about their allergies?

So far, we are just teaching Jamie (who's almost 3) what nuts & peanuts look like & teaching her that she can NOT eat or touch them or they will make her sick.

What else do you teach them & when?? I want help her become as educated about her allergies as possible so she can eventually live on her own & take care of herself (a long time from now :-) ) I just don't want to overwhelm her now!

I really value the advice all of you can give me as so many of you have been there & done that :-)

Thanks, Lea (mom to Jamie (PA & TNA) & soon to David (due 4-15))

Posted on: Tue, 03/11/2003 - 5:59am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

It seems like you have a good handle on it right now.
Go slow.
Is your 3 year old with you all the time? If so then you can go even slower.
How about Never never take food from someone who is offering it, or off of someone's plate without asking mommy or daddy first.
Good luck

Posted on: Tue, 03/11/2003 - 6:07am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

We're dealing with a 3 year old as well, and she's started asking before we go into a store "does that store have peanuts?"
If the answer is yes, she'll ask to sit in the big part of the shopping cart.
If the answer is no, she says "great, we'll just hold hands - no cart."
Her choice on wanting to sit in a shopping cart - she knows when she's sitting a shopping cart, she gets to read books, so it's a win-win in her mind.
She likes to show everyone and anyone her medicalert bracelet and tell them she's allergic to peanuts.
She likes to show everyone and anyone how to use the epi-trainer.
She like to be the one that says, before we leave the house "don't forget epi mom". She says it's her job. LOL
I'm not sure what else she's ready for at this point.
Some of her buddies try to share their snacks during snack time - she'll put her hand over her mouth and mumble "I'm allergic" even if its a safe treat. She's at the point that she'll only take food/snacks if it comes directly from me.
Makes me worry less that she's adopted this (hand over mouth) method to protect herself.
Hope these few ideas help. I'm anxious to hear other ideas as our kids move thru these ages and stages. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Warm regards,

Posted on: Tue, 03/11/2003 - 9:02am
SpudBerry's picture
Joined: 07/23/2002 - 09:00

"Peanuts Make Michael Sick" is our standard reply to ANYONE other than Mom or Dad handing us any food, with Us being Michael & his twin Ben.
We are now starting to show people our Medic Alert bracelet and telling them that it says "I'm allergic to peanuts" - we are still very shy so sometimes brother has to help with this one if we don't know the person very well.
We are TRYING to learn not to touch the candy machines that are in the front of EVERY store. We say - this might have peanuts in it so I shouldn't touch - but honestly we still sometimes touch it as we say it - still working on this one.
He now notices that I read the labels of everything before I let him eat it. Sometimes he asks me to "Read it Mom", most of the time this is in our house, instead of arguing with him that I've already read it if it's in the house I try to reinforce the idea by doing what he asks.
I do get irritated with some of the adults reactions to him. For instance when he sees a big container of Jelly Belly Jelly Beans, he will immediately say - "those can make me sick", and several people have just laughed at him and say - NO - those won't make you sick unless you eat too many - so then I have to launch into my line about how "Yes they can make him VERY sick - as he is allergic to peanuts and that particular brand has peanut in some of its flavors." I always say this very sternly so they get my drift that maybe they shouldn't be telling my child what will make him sick or not. Don't figure it really helps, but what the heck.
Basically he knows not to eat anything that I haven't approved, and that most candy is off limits for him.
Mom to 3 year old twins Ben & Mike - one PA & the other not.
Stay Informed And Peanut Free!

Posted on: Fri, 03/14/2003 - 4:41am
DadofTwo's picture
Joined: 09/13/2002 - 09:00

From day one we have always had the same discussion with our son when we were going to a party, etc...telling him that there was going to be food there and that no matter what, if someone offered him something he had check w/us first. He's now 6 1/2 and we still have the discussion. His sister protects him too. Consistency works best for us.

Posted on: Fri, 03/14/2003 - 6:19am
AJSMAMA's picture
Joined: 06/12/2002 - 09:00

My son is 32 months and I started with that is "safe" and that is "not safe" whenever we were out. He wasn't even talking then...As he began to talk and understand more he would ask me "safe?" while he was holding food. Now I have progressed to showing him peanuts, nuts (he is TNA as well), and other nut items in the grocery and on T.V. that are not safe. We make a game out of finding the "safe" items in the candy stand at the checkout lane (in our case it's the Skittles). In fact just this week the lady in line behind us picked up a bag of M&M's from the candy stand and A.J. said to he "That's not safe - that's got *penis* butter in it!" It was rather embarassing but I am glad that the point is getting across to him.
Jaime [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 03/14/2003 - 6:04pm
dollychik's picture
Joined: 03/15/2003 - 09:00

I think you are doing great. I have been severly allergic for my whole life, 25 years, and I knew from early on that if I wasn't sure about what was in it, I didn't eat it, period. The point is not to scare them, or hold them back. You have to remember, their ideas about the world are formulated by your example, and if you are constantly in a state of panic, they will be, too. It should be viewed almost like a food you don't like, it's a no-brainer to "Just Say No".

Posted on: Fri, 03/14/2003 - 8:30pm
mom2cuties's picture
Joined: 02/21/2002 - 09:00

We have a 3 yr old she has gotten into the habit of asking me to read the ingredients on everything lately. I guess she has seen me do it for everything that she considers it her *little job*. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
The book "No nuts for me" is great. Does your ds have it? I have found that to be very helpful.
One more thing, dd's big brother is a great help. He is almost 7 and understands it more and is VERY protective over her. When we are at a store he will stay with her and say, "be careful that might have peanuts!" So cute! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] Of course, she is never to leave my side when we are at a store.
[This message has been edited by mom2cuties (edited March 15, 2003).]

Posted on: Sat, 03/15/2003 - 5:21am
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mom2cuties, I was going to suggest the No Nuts for Me book as well. You should be able to view it on-line with your daughter at (edited by the office; old url removed as that web site address is no longer used or owned by the book company that published the no nuts for me book. The book company's web site on 01/08/2007 [url="http://www.tumblebooks.com"]http://www.tumblebooks.com[/url] ) I know that Jesse would have been 4 when he first saw it and he really loved it. It was the first time he saw anyone (even if it is a cartoon) with a MedicAlert bracelet and an Epi-pen.
The other thing he did start doing also around age 3 was asking people "does it have peanuts in it?". Even though the call was still mine, depending on where I was, I thought it was important for him to start asking people questions when they offered him food. It did work really well.
At 4, he was reading and I tell you, now, at 7, he's a great label reader.
At 3-3/4 he started to wear his MedicAlert bracelet and Epi-pen in a fanny pack because he started school and wasn't with me full-time anymore.
Sounds to me like you're doing just fine. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sat, 03/15/2003 - 5:46am
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Joined: 02/21/2002 - 09:00

My daughter LOVED the video for No nuts for me. The other day she asked to see Noah on the computer and it was not the same site. I did a search and found that the registration expired and someone else took over the name. I reraised it in the links forum. Too bad because this was the only person (although not real) in her life she could relate too. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Posted on: Sat, 03/15/2003 - 1:23pm
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Anonymous (not verified)

mom2cuties, thanks for re-raising the Link for me (and others)under the Links section.
I'm really sad that it isn't on-line anymore.
I know it was extremely beneficial to Jesse when he was 4 to see Noah and even do the puzzle they had. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]


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