Teacher says no allergies this year, it\'s heaven

Posted on: Sun, 01/29/2006 - 11:00pm
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So we went to an open house for another preschool to see if we can find one for my kids in our town that we're comfortable with.

Ahem. Not the school we went to yesterday.

During the Q&A, a parent asked if there were any food restrictions. The teacher's response "We'll have to see in Sept whether it will be peanut free". "This year, there were no allergies, and it was heaven" [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img]

My mouth hung open. Wish I could have closed it, so I could actually speak and respond to that. My dh came up behind me, handed me our coats, and we left.

I think I'm writing a little letter of follow up though. Anyone care to help me compose it [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] Meg

Posted on: Sun, 01/29/2006 - 11:39pm
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mommyofmatt, the only thing close to that that I've heard was at a Fun Fair years ago for my son's school. One of the women volunteering at the bake sale said something about "oh, it's because of a peanut allergy that we don't have......." Meanwhile, my guy was the only PA child in the school and I had worked really hard with the principal that year to make sure that our family could attend in relative safety.
Strange thing about that was, maybe a year later, we ended up friends (I must have put her remark in the recesses of my brain).
However.
Okay, so I'm kinda clueless about how things work in America. I think I have come to understand that your pre-school is like our Junior Kindergarten, but please correct me if I'm wrong.
I know that here, now, when our children are entering high school, apparently you go and check different high schools out - something that was not done when I went to school or not the *norm* at least to make sure that your child's needs are met.
I know that I have read about other members checking out schools for their children as well, but I've always just enrolled mine in our cachement (?) area because I don't drive.
Yes, all that babble to get to the question.....
Is it a usual thing for people (even non-PA parents) to go to different pre-schools to check them out? Do you have to pay for your child to go to pre-school?
Did you happen to catch the teacher's name? Do you know the other parent she was speaking with?
I would be writing them a letter (as yes, you've said) saying that wow, great school, whatever, but then these words were uttered that you're not quite comfortable with by one of the staff and for that reason your child(ren) will not be able to attend.
Some days, when people are particularly kind or when someone shows unexpected kindness, I have to wonder if I cry when this happens because I hear about such wicked people in the world. I really wonder.
What a (w)itch. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img]
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 12:12am
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To put this in perspective:
How would anyone feel about a teacher commenting:
"We'll have to see in Sept who will be in the class". This year, there were no children in wheelchairs (or special education students, or 'behavior plans', or HIV, etc.,) and it was heaven."

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 12:30am
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Momma Bear, excellent! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
My daughter has two children in her class who are in wheelchairs. Her teacher has to physically lift them onto the school bus when they go on a field trip. They also have an E.A. assigned to them. I think her teacher is a pretty amazing guy for a number of reasons, but can you imagine how that opinion would change if I heard him say next year "it's heaven this year, I have no children in wheelchairs"?
Then thinking out loud - perhaps this teacher was chosen because the other Grade 3 teacher might not have been as receptive? Really makes you wonder about things.
Staff meeting - "please don't give me any children with...... this year, I can't deal with it".
And since it was heard by mommyofmatt, is this ever said about our PA children?
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 12:57am
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Quote:Originally posted by csc:
[b]Momma Bear, excellent! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img][/b]
I could resist quoting. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] thank you for indulging me. (Is it any wonder the other children smacked me around in gradeschool???)
Quote:[b]My daughter has two children in her class who are in wheelchairs. Her teacher has to physically lift them onto the school bus when they go on a field trip. They also have an E.A. assigned to them. I think her teacher is a pretty amazing guy for a number of reasons, but can you imagine how that opinion would change if I heard him say next year "it's heaven this year, I have no children in wheelchairs"?
Then thinking out loud - perhaps this teacher was chosen because the other Grade 3 teacher might not have been as receptive? Really makes you wonder about things.[/b]
[i]excellent point.[/i] maybe this teacher (listed in the original post) is "singled out" because she is more receptive. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Quote:[b]Staff meeting - "please don't give me any children with...... this year, I can't deal with it".
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or maybe in the other thread running about lumping all the food allergic children into a few classes, maybe there are staff you said: "Give them to me."
You know, when they divvy up the nursing assignments at work, there are quite a few that others (and myself) are concerned for me to take. Infectious, procedure involving extensive use of radiation, combative, difficult lifting, etc.....
Of course I don't want to harm or injure my unborn child, but then there is that philosophy that if I can't do my job, [i]maybe I shouldn't be doing it.[/i] The majority of the time, we all help each other out at work, I mean, we understand that either we wouldn't want to be in a certain position or wouldn't want our partner in a certain position, or just feel for an unborn child, but sometimes, [i]there is no other option[/i]. I mean, staffing. Especially when it's part of my job description.
No advice, just personally.
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[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited January 30, 2006).]

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 5:57am
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Hi Meg,
How infuriating! I agree that a letter to the Director is in order. On a positive note, its a good thing that you have seen their true colors while still in the shopping stage and not after your son started there. It has saved you much uphill battle and angst. A lack of compassion in one area most certainly transcends to other areas.
Take care,
Naturemom

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 7:25am
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All I have to say is what an absolute idiot that preschool teacher is! At least you knew right up front how she feels about food allergic children! It's a blessing in disguise for you and your family. I wish you the best in finding a school that understands and is compassionate about food allergies.
Tracy

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 11:52am
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csc: I'll try to remember your questions. I still can't do the multiple quote respond thingy in one post...
yep, where I live it's pretty typical to check out preschools and decide which one you like, pa or not. I didn't know the parent who asked the question, and her face was blank after the teacher's answer. So, she either had a really good poker face or her child didn't have any allergies. I do know the teacher's name, and they'll be hearing from me, that's for sure.
MB: I like your analogy too.
Luckily, I'm incredibly happy with the school the boys are attending, but it's in a different town. I was kinda hoping to keep them local next year, guess not...
I'll let you know if I hear anything back. Meg

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 12:44pm
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Meg,
I'm so sorry this happened.
Like the others said, thank goodness it was while you were still just "shopping" for preschools.
Good luck with your search. I hope you find a place that is wonderful, kind, and caring.

Posted on: Mon, 01/30/2006 - 2:17pm
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mommyofmatt, great stuff that you know the teacher's name. Whether or not you care to use it is totally up to you, but I think it's a rather nice piece of information to have. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
Are there other pre-schools in your town that you can check out?
Still out of curiosity, is pre-school like our JK?
Best wishes! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
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Posted on: Tue, 01/31/2006 - 1:25am
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Quote:Originally posted by mommyofmatt:
[b]During the Q&A, a parent asked if there were any food restrictions. The teacher's response "We'll have to see in Sept whether it will be peanut free". "This year, there were no allergies, and it was heaven" [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/mad.gif[/img]
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If I could have a year with no allergies - I think I'd refer to it as heaven as well.
I'd be concerned about a teacher that doesn't see any difference whether there are food allergies or not - that sounds like someone not taking it very seriously.

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