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Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:10am
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Quote:Originally posted by Gail W:
[b]I apologize for making light in my earlier post above. I understand this is painful and disgusting. Do you think that the principal will see the teacher's action toward your cub as [i]retaliation[/i]? [i]harrassment[/i]? Does acting out of spite, being vindictive, change the seriousness of the situation in your opinion? (It does in mine.)[/b]
leave your previous post. [i]please[/i]. I smiled. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]
but yes, it is [i]serious[/i]. It increases the severity. My instincts say: [i]grab your baby and flee to safety[/i].
I am. But this time, I'm doing it differently, with thought, and not strictly on impuls. I'm not relieving their obligation. As much as they are trying to make me. Yes, Gail, I want them to [i]do their job[/i]. I won't hinder them, in fact, I'm paving the way.....

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:15am
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my reply this morning:
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[i]"Dear Mrs. (principal)
I am assuming then, my offer to meet this morning (made only yesterday) is not sufficient notice (quote from my previous email):
"I am requesting any further communication be via email or more specifically, during a conference at our earliest convenience. To date, the conference meeting regarding a "behavior plan" has not been rescheduled after being canceled on the behalf of the district. Any conference will necessitate the presence of (district sped super) and (coop sped super) as (son) was under "coop number" designation in the past. I can be available tomorrow morning, if the opportunity comes to fruition. "
Otherwise, November 1 is a suitable date. It is a Wednesday as you have requested it to be. Please let me know if it is an accommodating date.
In the meantime, (son) will not be in attendance, but will remain enrolled in district programming. The delay over the last several years, by the district in redressing, and placing an educational diagnoses, has impeded his ability to do so.
I will go so far as to say, his status as a "Special Education" student should never have been dropped in the first place.
My position on this has been constant. I brought it to your attention as soon as I was introduced to you, prior to the start of school. My position remains the same. It has always been the same. It predates my introduction to you, even prior to our initial meeting at his brother's IEP meeting several years ago, during which Autism was also discussed.
As I have indicated before, the concerns that initially placed his label (PDD), were considered grievous by the district and should have eventually warranted keeping (son) monitored as a continued "Special Education" student regardless of his academic performance.
Although, this did not occur. His status and protection under "Special Education" was dropped.
The necessity couldn't have been any more obvious than if he had a brother who was also receiving special education services under a label of "Autism" with the district.
But he was. He even qualified for an "At Risk" program (which he attended) in district. The title, "At Risk" was self explanatory. It defined the obligation.
It is a travesty he was "discharged" from Special Education, and as I may remind you.........again....against his parents' wishes. More grievously, it was a gamble the district was willing to take, but in no way did it relieve any obligation.
I've never been as willing to take such risks with my own children. I wouldn't take them with anyone else's children either.
But should I believe a "cure" does exist for Autism? That it can be found in the recommendations of a "Special Education" discharge? Soley in that act? (It's almost too sad to be sarcastic, but indulge me.)
I hope I am emphasizing the importance to the district of following through when as a professional and an educator, individuals encounter such circumstances and "rule out" certain possibilities "red flags" present before effortlessly engaging one's approval to discharge a child from their services.
In the past, I have communicated these same concerns to the district, "in writing", (some electronic), and currently, the decisions of the district have afforded me no other recourse, but to act in (son)'s best interest, limiting his attendance (but NOT withdrawing him from district enrollment) in order to reduce the negative impact his current educational programming is having on him.
I am awaiting aforementioned contact from (name), school psychologist, as previously promised by (district sped super), in order to schedule testing dates and complete his evaluation. I will be delivering the "Sensory" intake form received from the school. Will she also be rescheduling the "Speech" evaluation?
I have previously and in writing, given sufficient time in order that (son)'s cummulative educational record, not limited, but including annotative documentation, be made availabe within the next two days, in order that I may review it and obtain copies.
In (son)'s best interest,
Mrs. (you know who)"[/i]
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[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited October 18, 2006).]

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:23am
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But I think the word I'm looking for do describe the seriousness is [i]heinous[/i].

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:34am
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by the way, this principal first encountered my family as the "district representative" present at an IEP meeting held at a school where my oldest son was placed "out of district". She was the person on the "invite" from our "home district" that I had questioned being in attendance. Do yo remember that instance Gail? I think I posted on it in my IEP vs. 504 thread....

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:35am
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I cc'd the letter to the SI, the principal, the district sped super, and the co-op sped super......did I forget anyone?

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 2:38am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b][i]"Dear Mrs. (principal)
I am assuming then, my offer to meet this morning (made only yesterday) is not sufficient notice . . .[/b]
MB, are they smart enough to see their hypocrisy? (That they gave one a day's notice for DS's speech eval.)

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 5:48am
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Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b]I cc'd the letter to the SI, the principal, the district sped super, and the co-op sped super......did I forget anyone?[/b]
An attorney?

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 6:07am
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Hmmmm, maybe I missed something but if he was in Special Ed classes beforehand, and school took him out of said classes and he's having problems being in new said classes including with the school/certain teachers wanting to label him ADD, etc., why don't they just put him back into his Special Ed class?
As far as food, I do know that certain foods make kids "bounce off the walls" (if you will) more so than other kids. A friend of mine had problems with her child as he was acting out in class. I don't exactly know how she went about figuring it out but she found out his body reacted with certain foods containing silicilates (additives found in some foods). (I can't remember the correct term that was used to describe what her son had). Not saying that this is the case but is it possible some of the foods that he is digesting is playing a part in his acting out at school?
(MB, don't take this the wrong way but just trying to look at things from every angle.)
As far as tape recording your meetings, why is that an issue? They usually take minutes during most meetings anyway. Are they afraid someone will say something inappropriate? Wouldn't they rather have some stated accurately where all parties are crystal clear on what's being said as opposed to someone twisting words around?
I'm not sure about pulling him out of school, though. I know you're upset about all this and have every right to be but I'd hate for the school to give you any grief about the lack of attendance resulting in possible repeating of said school year.
Wishful thinking here but can you (or someone else who isn't linked with the school) monitor some of his time while he is in his classroom? If your son's punishment of standing by the wall during recess isn't working (which it doesn't sound like it is), why isn't the teacher trying something else that would be more productive? (unless she is and I missed that)
Btw, house for sale yet? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 8:01am
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Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b]Btw, house for sale yet? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img][/b]
let me pay the taxes first, will ya? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 10/18/2006 - 8:04am
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Quote:Originally posted by Corvallis Mom:
[b]
Not that I doubt for a moment that you can handle them.... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img] But it would be nice if they did the right thing once in a while [i]without that foot up....[/i]
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[b]Three[/b]. Three phone calls from the school by 2pm. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]
1. To inform me the cumulative chart was ready.
2. To schedule further testing (from the psychologist).
3. From the first grade teacher to reschedule parent teacher conference.
4. From the director of special education to schedule an appointment to review the cumulative chart (district), not co-op.
[i]blowing smoke from fingertips, and I didn't even use "spell check".[/i]

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