Support Group for pre/and teens

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On Jan 17, 2007

Hi Anna.

My dd is 10 and I often wonder how her allergies are affecting her. She seems to be doing ok aside from the occasional blow up. When she was younger she often asked me Why God gave her asthma and allergies. Now we are going through the "It's not fair and I hate it!" stage. Even at 10 so many of her friends have so much more freedom than her. I can't just allow her to go to the very large amusement park @45 min away w/ her friend who calls last minute. She can't go to every sleepover she is invited to and if she does go it is usually with her own food and a demonstration w/ the other family on how to use an Epi-Pen. She HATES having to pack her food everyday and not being able to eat school lunch like everyone else. (I myself am glad she can't have it! We pack a much healthier alternative [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img])

She's also started asking me questions about dying recently and how she is afraid to get old because she doesn't want to die. I don't think she would be as conscious of her own mortality if she did not have a life threatening food allegy.

I wish she had someone her own age around that she could discuss her FA's with.

I know being a parent of a child w/ food allergies has been a challenge for me also. Sometimes I get angry and wonder "Why can't anything just be easy!!" Sometimes I am so jealous of parents that can send their children to school w/o having to educate the whole staff and fight the principal for allowances to keep my dd safe. Sometimes I wish we could go to a restaurant on a whim and eat whatever....just because it sounds yummy. And I know my dd wishes all of these things also. But it is what it is.....

I also worry as she enters teenage years that she will give in to peer pressure and not be as careful about checking ingredients, just to fit in. I think not, but it is a concern.

I have heard on multiple occasions that so and so doesn't like her because "she's allergic to everything and can't do anything!!"

I have a drama queen as it is...her dream is to move to New York and be an actress. She can't wait for more independence. I hope I teach her well enough and give her the proper tools to manage on her own when the time comes.

I believe some time back, I saw a thread about pen pals. I think that's a great idea. I also like the idea of a board like this for preteen/teen age.

Like it's not hard enough to be a teen without so many issues huh? I think it would be very helpful for my daughter if she were able to see that other kids her age go through the same thing and talk about how they deal w/ it.

On Jan 17, 2007

I have tried to start a group in Chicago but have not had enough interest. If either of you are in Chicago, let me know. My son will be 12 in a few weeks.

He would not do the penpal thing - I think that may be more appropriate for girls. It's pulling teeth to get him to type anything.

On Jan 17, 2007

We're in Ohio.

My daughter loves to email, it's actually WRITING a letter I couldn't get her to do [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

On Jan 17, 2007

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On Jan 17, 2007

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On Jan 18, 2007

A trip to China- wow. What a brave decision for your dd to decide on her own that it wouldn't be safe for her to go. But that would break your heart. Some days have to be hard, even if they don't show it. I can't even figure out how I am going to allow dd to go to camp this spring w/ her 5th grade class! Dd and I have a great relationship (so far anyway. Teenage years are right around the corner. Glad to see you're surviving them [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]) But I know sometimes she would love to talk to other kids in the same situation rather than her mom. That's a great idea about a local support group. The only one I found was also for adults and can you believe they have a potluck dinner once a month???? UGH- I thought a food allergy support group of all places would understand what a nightmare those are for people w/ FA's!

I actually tried to include my email in my profile last week but made an error so Chris had to delete my original registration so I could reregister w/ my same username. Now I look like a complete newbie all over again [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] O'well....

Let me talk to my dd when she gets home from school today. I'm sure she'll love to email w/ your dd but I better ask about her feelings about it first. You know how kids are [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

On Jan 18, 2007

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