Staying with family that\'s not peanut free


Help, I need advice! Over the summer, we are planning a trip to NY to stay with my sister and her family. How can I convince them not to eat peanut products while we are there? To make things more complicated, my brother and his family will be staying there too. I know it's a lot to ask! What should I do? What should I say to her, as well as my brother? Nobody seems to understand the severity of my son's peanut allergy. Thanks for your advice ahead of time.

On Mar 13, 2008

I JUST went through this in January and am about to go through it again next week. I spent two weeks with my parents and I'm about to spend a couple days with my SIL then a few more days at my MIL's.

One thing I did (aside from talking to them about it) was sent them all the Peanut Allergy Answer Book by Dr. Michael Young. It is a very easy read book and has GREAT info and lets them know the seriousness of the allergy. My parents actually made sure their home was pn free at least 2-weeks in advance of our arrival. I also let them know that we stayed away from all "may contains, processed in/on/at, etc..."

Now my SIL and MIL are a little different. My SIL has a 19 yo and a 15yo and I'm sure they have had or currently have pn products all over the house. I'm not going to lie...yes I'm already having heart palpatations over this. I sent her the book I *think* she understands but unless you have had to deal with it I just think it is hard for them to get it. My MIL I'm a little less worried about because she really seems to get it. But at some point we will go over the my FIL's house too and I hate to say it, but it is not the cleanest house in the world and I know they have pn's there too.

I did tell the IL's that WE keep our house pn/tn free and stay away from all the aforementioned products but at the same time I don't expect them to do all that, I would like if they could please make sure there is no pn or pb or that sort of things out or where the kids can get to it. And I sent them the book and really urged them to read it.

I go through the same thing, but try try try not to feel like you are asking a lot when it comes to your son's safety. I know it can be hard because I tend to do the same thing, but over time I have noticed that I have gotten much much better and empowered about it.

My biggest advice is just to keep mentioning it everytime you talk to them and get them some reading material!

On Mar 13, 2008

I am visiting my SIL next week just for the day. They are very healthy eaters and eat all organic etc. as you probably know most of that stuff Kashi etc has tons of nuts in it. They have peanut butter for breakfast every day. I finally got up the nerve to ask her if she would mind very much if I brought food for my kids. I was worred she would be insulted but she wasn't and was very nice about it. she said she would get fruit for the kids which was great. At some point before we go I need to ask her not to give her daughter products with actual nuts in it while we are there - she is 2 messy stage will be running around with my kid etc.