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Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 2:57am
momma2boys's picture
Joined: 03/14/2003 - 09:00

Jodi, I hope everything goes ok for your little guy. Being manager sounds like the right idea.
My dh coaches my ds LL team and I sit in the dugout keeping score, getting the kids in lineup ready to bat, and just keep control(not easy!). There is a concession stand and you would not believe how many times I have had to say something about kids eating in dugouts. Sunflower seeds are constantly in there, and they spit the shells everywhere! Including at each other.
The worst though, is the parents that actually bring their kids slices of pizza to eat while they are in the dugout!! Are you here to play or eat? Candy, juice, you name it, they bring it in. I think this year we will be strictly no food period.

Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 4:49am
domesticgodess's picture
Joined: 08/26/2003 - 09:00

Okay! Getting just a wee bit CATTY in here!
We are adults capable of reading and not assuming, are we not?
I agree 100% with emom. I am surprised that we have to defend and explain ourselves!
When I used paronoid it was not "accusing" or name calling, it was the true feelings that I myself have felt over my sons allergy. I do think that at some point everyone here has felt that paranoia!
As for putting my son in a bubble? Please!
It was not a suggestion but rather, a discription of how I have felt when things get really rough trying to protect him!
My son is allergic to everything and at times I have felt that I should do just that! Put him in a "bubble".
That post was only expressing my thoughts and experiences.
I am in no way
We do all have different comfort levels and I definetly don't agree with some people's layed back levels but would never critize them for it.
Layed back about my sons allergy! You would never critize? You just did! Just by mentioning it! I too have watched as paramedics are shoving tubes down my child's throat,in his arms and anywhere else just to keep him alive.I did'nt become cautios because of that experience either, I already was.
The posts about my response is totally miss read and the "attack" on it was uncalled for.
How can my wording be surprising when it was written in "my" experience,"my"feelings?
It was never meant in a hurtful tone or wording.

Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 6:13am
rebeccas's picture
Joined: 07/05/2003 - 09:00

Hi Jodi, I don't post often but I happened to read your post and we are going through the exact same thing. My son started teeball last year when he was 4 and is playing again this year. He is pa (rast level 6) and also contact allergy. I COMPLETELY AGREE ABOUT THE DUGOUT. There are peanut shells everywhere and last night a child was passing peanuts into the dugout to his brother (who happens to sit next to my son). Luckily my son noticed and all was taken care of. However, I spent most of the night extremely upset with myself for not being more vigilant and obsessing about what could have happened. I guess I got a bit comfortable since a very close friend of ours manages the team and my husband coaches. I am usually "dugout mom" but decided to take a break last night. You can NEVER be too careful and you are not at all paranoid - I think better terms would be "realistic" and "prepared." It is possible to play sports and enjoy but for us it takes a little extra effort. Good luck and hang in there!

Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 10:34am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

I always enjoy reading your posts and with great interest. I have much admiration and respect in how you have raised your son, he seems well adjusted and happy.
And as for that kid wearing the Reese's shirt? I would have said the same thing to my son if it had happened to him. Love the sense of humor on such a serious subject.
Laughter is truly one of the best medicines.

Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 10:49am
anonymous's picture
Joined: 05/28/2009 - 16:42

And this thread brought up a good point.
I'm definitely going out and buying helmets for my girls. I DO NOT want to be picking nits out of their long hair and worrying about lice infestation from passed-around softball helmets. I always tell them not to share combs, brushes, hats, or hair accessories, but the helmet issue didn't dawn on me. Duh!

Posted on: Tue, 04/20/2004 - 11:02am
e-mom's picture
Joined: 04/23/2000 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by ryan's mom:
[b]Laughter is truly one of the best medicines.[/b]
And it is also very contagious. Share a smile with someone today and everyday for that matter [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img]

Posted on: Wed, 04/21/2004 - 11:40am
Mama S's picture
Joined: 01/28/2004 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by e-mom:
[b] So for anyone who "doesn't think it's fair" for me to say what I said--would you rather me lie?[/b]
I think it goes without saying that no one would want you, or anyone else for that matter, to lie. However, IMHO your choice of wording was poor and clearly didn't lend any support to Jodi (isn't that what this board is all about - to give support and provide helpful info?).
You, as well as everyone else, are entitled to your opinion, however, your response clearly criticized Jodi's comfort level. Do you consider that fair? None of us know her exact circumstances, so none of us have the right to call her paranoid. Her comfort level is what it is and that is her prerogative. In fact, from what I can gather, I am guessing she is a very concerned and caring mother who is doing all she can to protect her child. What's wrong with that? Isn't that what a good parent is supposed to do? If I were in her shoes, I probably would take the same precautions and I am very definitely not a paranoid type of person - just cautious. I do not in any way pass on any paranoia to DS and he is a well-rounded, happy child who participates in many activities. BUT.....I do make sure he will be safe before he participates. I'm not sure how anyone could view that as paranoia.
Also, I know first-hand dugouts can be dirty AND contaminated. Sadly, food seems to be part of our baseball games as well. And, yes, those kids are eating in the dugouts and have several times been eating products with peanuts in them. Just because you never witnessed it doesn't mean it doesn't happen elsewhere in the world. I, too, would like to see food eliminated from the games. It's beyond me why any child can't go without food for an hour (unless there are medical reasons for it, of course).
I am not looking to argue with anyone. I'm just trying to get my message out that everyone should "play nice" on this board and try to be helpful rather than criticize. That is what these boards are for - right?

Posted on: Thu, 04/22/2004 - 6:12am
JaneyL's picture
Joined: 06/11/1999 - 09:00

Your concerns are valid. The idea of being the manager is great. We have always stayed for every practice and game for the last 5 years my son has played t-ball and baseball. My husband helps as much as possible with the team but with a rotating shift position he can't be the coach since he can't make every game.
Our league has a no food in the dugout rule. The kids are allowed beverages and gum. We make sure to speak up to the coaches about the rule and the necessity of it. If anyone breaks the rule and the coach doesn't say something immediately --we do.
We inform them of the rule-no food in dugout and why they must now go wash their hands.
It hasn't been a big problem so far.
Have a great season-we love watching the kids get better every year!

Posted on: Thu, 04/22/2004 - 9:08am
PeteFerraro's picture
Joined: 07/10/2001 - 09:00

I contacted the President of the local soccer club that my son will be participating in. He was very receptive to the idea of creating a food allergy poicy. He even gave me the name of another parent that has a child that is PA. Over the next few months I intend to create a documented policy that the board of the soccer association approves. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boilerplate document that you could take to your PA child's sports organization? That is my intent.
As far as some of sensitivity in this thread, I think the board needs a touch of testosterone. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
If you think people in this thread were out of line you should see some of the posts on one of the other boards I participate in. Trust me, the discussion in the thread debating "John Deere vs Cub Cadet" on the gardenweb.com forum is heated.
Honest discussion is healthy. Honesty can sometimes lead to hurt feelings. It would be a boring world if everyone always politically correctly agreed with you.
I don't think anyone tried to intentionally hurt anyone's feelings.
We all have the common goal of "Living with PA". The reality is, it isn't always pleasant. I'll admit it. Sometimes dealing with my son's PA causes me frustration. Because of it, my fuse is sometimes shorter than normal.
Pete Ferraro

Posted on: Thu, 04/22/2004 - 9:33am
Going Nuts's picture
Joined: 10/04/2001 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by PeteFerraro:
As far as some of sensitivity in this thread, I think the board needs a touch of testosterone. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
If you think people in this thread were out of line you should see some of the posts on one of the other boards I participate in. Trust me, the discussion in the thread debating "John Deere vs Cub Cadet" on the gardenweb.com forum is heated.
Hmmm, I'll have to ask DH what the atmosphere is like on his woodworking boards. I sure wouldn't want to p*ss off any of those guys - they all have powertools. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/biggrin.gif[/img] [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/tongue.gif[/img]



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