Spectacular Reaction at Christmas Mass

Posted on: Wed, 12/24/2003 - 2:49pm
DebO's picture
Joined: 03/15/1999 - 09:00

Well we went to my parents' house for dinner and then to mass. Dinner was fine, but my sister (who tends to say things like, "oh I tasted it and there are no nuts so it is safe" [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/redface.gif[/img]) pulled out tarts from my aunt for dessert. We are not dessert eaters because of my son's egg allergy and my daughter's PA. There were lemon and apple ones, so I ok's them for my PA daughter but not for my egg allergic son. This somehow got lost in the translation and he had 1 or 2 forkfuls of the apple tart when I was not in the dining room to supervise him (he is 7).

About half an hour later we are at mass and he is rubbing his eye and nose. Now he has had a cold, so I thought maybe just the cold. He started to get a stomach ache, so I suggested heading back to the bathroom just in case. As he was making his way out of the pew in front of me, he started to throw up. My son almost never throws up - I actualy can't remember the last time. So he is sick all over the pew and then starts running down the aisle throwing up constantly the whole way as I desperately tried to catch up to him.

We make it to the bathroom and his eye is red and swollen, there is a rash on his chest and he is complaining about his throat hurting and it being hard to swallow. I waffled on his epipen and went with benadryl first (which is his protocol unless there are breathing difficulties). The throat problem really worried me and I had the epi out and ready to go. He started to respond to the benadryl very quickly, though, and I ended up not using the epi.

Meanwhile, my sister and Dad spent 15 minutes cleaning up the floor (rug, of course) of the church while Christmas mass continued.

I regularly go to mass at this Church, but the Christmas masses are all at a different schedule and none of the people we know were at this mass. It upsets me and saddens me that noone from the parish came forward to check on us to see if I needed help - after spending more than half an hour in the bathroom and throwing up all over the place - and that noone came forward to help with the cleanup either... [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Of course my PA daughter was almost hysterical the whole time, worried about her brother and whether he would need his epi and have to go to the hospital.

Anyway we are home now, he has had a bath and everything seems back to normal. We have reviewed the rules for Christmas tomorrow (don't eat anything unless Mommy gives it to you). All of our clothes are in the laundry, the kids are asleep, Santa has come - but Mommy is still shaking a bit.

Thanks for listening - I just needed to share this with someone.

Take care and have a great holiday!


[This message has been edited by DebO (edited December 25, 2003).]

Posted on: Wed, 12/24/2003 - 4:01pm
KarenH's picture
Joined: 09/21/2002 - 09:00

Ohhhhhh Deb [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] How awful for you and your little guy. I'm so sorry this happened.
Have a nice, relaxing, fun day tomorrow. (hugs)

Posted on: Wed, 12/24/2003 - 10:12pm
synthia's picture
Joined: 10/05/2002 - 09:00

(((HUGS))) Deb
I hope today is a better day,
Love this site

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 1:15am
darthcleo's picture
Joined: 11/08/2000 - 09:00

Ouch!! That's way worse than what we went through.. (no reaction here, just really really lucky!)
People at Mass probably saw you guys as a nuisance too. Not very christian in attitude.. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 2:24am
Peg541's picture
Joined: 12/29/2002 - 09:00

That was indeed Spectacular, good description. I hope all is well today and everyone learned something. Have a Happy and Safe Christmas.

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 4:08am
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Anonymous (not verified)

Deb O., how horrible for you and your son (and daughter). [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img] How is your son to-day? You? Is your PA daughter older than your egg allergic son (you mentioned your son was 7)? Just curious.
I remember when we were in Stayner my DH decided that we *should* be going to church on Sunday mornings and we actually did get married in the United Church there. We went to the United Church because a friend of mine (female) would often speak to the congregation so I thought they were pretty progressive. We also tried the Pentecostal church and the Baptist church. But we mainly stayed, for that summer of Sundays, at the United Church.
I can remember placing Ember in the daycare there, not Sunday school, and she would start crying. A woman would bring her from the front of the church SCREAMING to me at the back of the church. It was so embarrassing and no one looked at us as though they had ever been through the same thing but that we were a right royal pain in the bu** for having disturbed their service.
So, I guess that's what happened to you yesterday at mass because you didn't attend the one that your friends and family would have been at. I can see why maybe they wouldn't help clean up the vomit (afraid that it was contagious), but I can't understand why someone wouldn't have popped their head in the door to check on you and your son.
Funny too because last night, I think at the United Church here they had two Christmas Eve celebrations and I was thinking of going to the earlier one with the kids. I had always wanted to go to St. Michael's Cathedral in Toronto for their Christmas Eve mass and never did and it did cross my mind last night.
Did your sister understand what had happened and why?
It would be really *nice* if at least your sister or someone else in the family could have eyes for you while you step out of a room. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/frown.gif[/img]
I hope that you and your son are okay to-day. I had a heckuva time getting mine to get to bed last night so I could wrap the gifts. Then, as I've posted about here, my bathroom is downstairs in the middle of my kitchen, not upstairs with the bedrooms. What we've done since we moved here is had the hall light on downstairs and the bathroom light on should either child have to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. We've been here since the middle of August month, so what, 4 months? No one has ever had to use the bathroom in the middle of the night!
Both kids go to sleep. Fine. I get the wrapping and everything done and come upstairs to go to bed. Jesse is all of a sudden awake and says he has to go to the bathroom. He asks if Santa has come already and I tell him that yes, Santa has come but Santa puts fairy dust in big people's eyes so they can't see what the children got or even see their Christmas tree. But, unfortunately, not the same thing with kids. So, I have to walk him down the stairs with my hand covering his eyes and take him to the bathroom. Fine.
Get back upstairs, start to get to sleep and then Ember wakes up screaming with growing pains and that she had to go to the bathroom as well. Same routine. I'm like OMG, are they never going to sleep or what? Am I pulling this off this year or not?
But certainly a much different stress than what you must have been feeling last night.
Big hugs. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]
Happy Holidays! [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 5:21am
cynde's picture
Joined: 12/10/2002 - 09:00

Deb, sorry to hear about what you and your son went through. I hope he is OK.
Please watch out for a biphasic reaction, DS had one after his last reaction, 24 hours to the minute after the initial reaction. I don't want to scare you, just prepare you.
Keep us posted with how you all are doing.

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 5:49am
Going Nuts's picture
Joined: 10/04/2001 - 09:00

What a wretched start to the holiday! I guess it will be a memorable one thought. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
I hope the rest of your holiday was much better!

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 1:02pm
DebO's picture
Joined: 03/15/1999 - 09:00

Hi again everyone
Thanks so much for the support - I really felt yesterday that you would be the only ones to truly understand how stressful it was for me.
Karen - I am so glad your flu cleared up in time for Christmas and I hope you had a nice day. It truly was awful for my son he was so upset and kept saying how much he hates his allergy - something that has happened several times this fall as he has had to give things up due to his allergy.
darthcleo - I am so glad you were lucky and avoided a reaction. Today has been a much better day, thanks.
My sister was shocked that he had such a severe reaction from something that was probably only contaminated and that he had such a small amount of. Everyone was very careful today, and I made a point of thanking them every time they checked with me about something. Of course, we were only eating dinner there and I knew my son would only have the turkey and the mashed potatoes (which I made myself) but of course I also didn't expect him to eat anything unexpected yesterday. I really noticed that my sister asked before opening a bag of chips in the evening - something she would not have done before.
I continue to be disappointed with the reaction of people at mass. We have an assigned coordinator for each mass, and that is the person I expected to be more proactive. I keep thinking about how at my regular weekly mass I go by myself with the two kids - how would I have managed without help from someone? On the other hand, I think I would have had help and support from the people at my regular mass.
Cindy - my daughter is 9 and I can really relate to your adventures. Last night my son went straight to sleep after all the stress and benadryl, but my daughter couldn't sleep - both the excitement of Christmas and her worries about her brother earlier in the evening. I finally lay down with her and we both fell asleep around 10:30. For some reason I woke up at midnight (must be some sort of Santa instinct) and managed to get everything downstairs (but nothing was wrapped).
So we had a good day today. My son tonight just commented on how it was a great Christmas and that he is so happy he did not have a reaction again! The poor guy has bad Christmas luck - one year he was also severely ill with Chicken Pox at Christmas (and was in the hospital for his asthma until Dec 23 that year).
My family seems to have learned to be much more cautious and I only hope this adventure is one they don't forget!
Thanks again for all your support!
Take care

Posted on: Thu, 12/25/2003 - 2:34pm
KarenH's picture
Joined: 09/21/2002 - 09:00

Awww Deb...here you've had the most horrible experience and you're thinking of ME with the flu. You are so sweet!
I'm fine. It was like a mysterious 24 hour thing that cleared up in time for dinner Christmas Eve. (good thing too, I made fettuccini alfredo with prawns...my favorite)
I can just imagine though how embarressed and horrible your son must have felt, and how awful it was for you. But then again, look on the bright side-your family got a huge dose of reality about how serious his allergies are...without your son having to go to the ER. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] Nobody would want to put him through that again if it could be avoided.
I had a great day...we almost had a little disaster of our own, but it was averted. I posted about it under "I have the flu!" in Off Topic [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img]

Posted on: Fri, 12/26/2003 - 12:22am
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Anonymous (not verified)

Deb, I'm sorry to hear you and your son and daughter had such a scary Christmas Eve.
I do hope the rest of your family remembers this for a long time, so they will continue to be careful for both your children's sake.
And, I'm glad to hear Santa made it in time. [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/smile.gif[/img] and that Christmas day was safe.


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