Something on my mind....

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 2:57am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

I have something on my mind at the moment. My step coisun is allergic to peanuts. I'm a bit worried about him as his parents insist "its not that bad" and do not carry epipens [img][/img] he once had a episode where its affected his throat and i did say to him that he really should carry a epipen for it. He eats treenuts. Its just been bugging me, although its been like this for about 3 years i just know better and wanted to tell you. I know that TNA and PA allergies are unpredictable and their is no such thing as a "mild" allergy to nuts. ARRRGH its doing my head in. What pees me off even more is his stepdad is a doctor and should know better than just think "give him hayfever tablets and go to A&E".

Just needed to vent. I have anaphylactic TNA so its just frustrating they cant see what risks they are takening.

How can i sort this out without sounding rude. as u know im 15. [img][/img]

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 3:27am
Corvallis Mom's picture
Joined: 05/22/2001 - 09:00

Two words for you.....
[b]Velvet Hammer[/b]
(Loooooove that description, so I'm borrowing it from another long-time poster!)
Be gentle, but immovable in your opinion. ANYTIME it comes up, express your concern about this laissez-faire attitude and how IT KILLS PEOPLE. Just don't be the one to bring it up at every gathering, and be (as much as you can) un-emotional, sort of casual and matter-of-fact about it when you hold forth.... something like:
"Oh, yeah, I beleive that is how that bloke in Scotland handled his allergy, too... what was his name? Oh yes.... _______. You know, the one on the news that died after/when ____________. He hadn't ever had ANY trouble til then. What a shame for his family, though."[/i]

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 3:32am
cathlina's picture
Joined: 06/29/2001 - 09:00

Since the stepdad is a doctor, it is not stupidity.
Instead, it sounds like a big case of selfishness.
You might go through this website and collect copies of all the adults/children that died from food allergies. Then have a sit down, give them the articles and express your concerns.
By the way, where is the natural father...does he know this is going on?
[This message has been edited by cathlina (edited February 22, 2007).]

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 3:37am
chanda4's picture
Joined: 12/14/2006 - 09:00

Ha!! great response Corvallis Mom!!!
We have another child in my sons grade that only gets hives if he accidently eats peanut butter. I want to grab his parents and YELL......"are you kidding me"??????
As much as I try to share my sons siutation with them, there's nothing I can do. It sucks, and I hope and pray nothing happens to him, but I can't protect everyone...I try, but fail!
Good luck, if they have email...I like to email info to family members. Even that list of people that have died that is at this site....I just try and try to get it to *click* with them. Maybe one of these days it will?? HUGS
Chanda(mother of 4)
Sidney-8 (beef and chocolate, grasses, molds, weeds, guinea pig & asthma)
Jake-6 (peanut, all tree nuts, eggs, trees, grasses, weeds, molds, cats, dogs, guinea pig & eczema & asthma)
Carson-3 1/2 (milk, soy, egg, beef and pork, cats, dog, guinea pig)
Savannah-1 (milk and egg)

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 5:03am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

Quote:"Oh, yeah, I beleive that is how that bloke in Scotland handled his allergy, too... what was his name? Oh yes.... _______. You know, the one on the news that died after/when ____________. He hadn't ever had ANY trouble til then. What a shame for his family, though."
Good idea. I have tried a few times but his step dad (which is also my mums brother) just says he doesn't have as bad nut problem as me. I asked if it had affected his throat and he said yes- plus he eats may contains.

Posted on: Thu, 02/22/2007 - 5:11am
Jen224's picture
Joined: 05/22/2006 - 09:00

Ooooo, love the "Velvet Hammer!"
There are LOTS of places I could use one of those. Seems like lately I either give up and retreat on a strong opinion or come out fightin'. Velvet Hammer-time it is! Might even make my cashmere so I'm more likely to hold on to it. [img][/img]
Back on the thread--I had a friend refer me to an "experienced" mom dealing with PA through email. After we connected, I learned that she felt her son's PA "wasn't that bad" and would let him eat at pot lucks, buffets, and bakeries. They didn't renew his Epi and only uses Benadryl now. He's had multiple reactions, but she doesn't seem to get the connection! Seems selfish to me. That said, I don't have a relationship with this person. I gave her my thoughts and went on my merry way. You need a Velvet Hammer. Best of luck!

Posted on: Fri, 02/23/2007 - 3:00am
k9ruby's picture
Joined: 03/25/2004 - 09:00

Thanks for the tips. I could do with a velvet hammer.

Posted on: Fri, 02/23/2007 - 6:42am
lalow's picture
Joined: 03/24/2004 - 09:00

we know a couple families like that. i watched a 2 year old the other day eat a may contains bakery cookie and watched her face get splotchy after finishing 1/2 of it and her mom didnt even seem to notice. another time i saw her and the little girl had several hives and the mom just said something about how she must have gotten hold of some pb at daycare and shrugged. i have to admit my comfort zone can be pretty loose but ds hasnt had a reaction in a long time so i think it is tight enough for him.
James 5 yrs, NKA
Ben 4 yrs, PA and MA

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