Some consternation RE: invitation reciprocation versus cross-contamination

Posted on: Sat, 03/01/2008 - 3:47pm
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Hey all,

For those of you who don't know, I joined this forum for different reasons than most people. I don't have a peanut allergy, nor am I a parent, but I have a friend who's severely allergic to peanuts, so I wanted to gain more awareness on the subject for her benefit (although just the other day, I forgot what I'd learned here and hugged her after having eaten a Power Bar......fortunately, she's not contact sensitive). Anyway, my friend has invited me to her house this coming Friday, for a birthday party for one of our mutual friends. Now, I know that etiquette dictates that, at some point, I should reciprocate the invitation to my friend, but I also know that my house would PROBABLY not be safe for her, as it's inhabited by five people (including myself) who eat peanuts regularly, in all rooms of the house, so if my peanut-allergic friend ate ANYTHING at my house, there'd be a risk of cross-contamination. So, naturally, I want to be polite and reciprocate *somehow,* but I also don't want to kill my friend....so, having her over here for a meal would pretty much be a no go. I'll be bringing chips and salsa to the party (since they went over so well when I went to visit Bible study), so that's a start, anyway.

Posted on: Sun, 03/02/2008 - 10:46am
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I would just talk with her about your fears. She knows best if that would be safe or not. You could always invite her to go shopping or to the park or for a walk or to the movies instead. :)

Posted on: Sun, 03/02/2008 - 11:58pm
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Originally Posted By: lakeswimrI would just talk with her about your fears. She knows best if that would be safe or not. You could always invite her to go shopping or to the park or for a walk or to the movies instead. :)
She's coming to yoga class with me next week, hopefully with a view to making it a regular thing, but I thought that in order for it to count as "reciprocation," I'd actually have to make some EFFORT on my part, lol.

Posted on: Fri, 03/07/2008 - 4:09pm
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I'm really impressed you've joined this forum for your friend. That is really a great show of support.
If you'd really like to cook - maybe you could cook in their home, and clean up too?

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