Should I push?

Posted on: Tue, 03/07/2006 - 10:48am
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My home daycare provider will not get rid of her pb.

Her teenage children eat it, but she does not feed it to the daycare kids. She says that she is being very careful and that she would never forgive herself if something happened to my dd.

I feel that it is a risk. I have looked high and low for other care, but can't find anything more suitable.

My gut tells me this is not okay...but I am so exhausted...sick of being anxious and worried...tired of making phone call after phone call, just to find out that there are no pb free spaces.

At this point, I would be interested to know if anyone thinks that this is okay....

Posted on: Tue, 03/07/2006 - 11:23am
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Are her teenage children around when your child is there? How old is your child? Do they eat at the same place as the daycare kids. How is she handling the PB, the utensils used, the jelly jar, the plates, etc...? It would take alot more info for me to know. I would not be happy about it. I would worry they fix it for themselves and then maybe have contact with the little kids being cared for in the home. And the rsidue in the eating spaces. i would hope not the toys as if the kids were having it, but... it is a worry. becca

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:30am
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Okay, to clarify.....
I have always trusted this woman with my children's care. She says that she is being very careful. The teenagers are at school all day, but I think they eat it for breakfast. The 13 year old plays with the kids all the time after school.
My dd is four and she is just learning about it. She knows she's allergic to peanuts, but she has never even seen a peanut (or eaten pb). She had a reaction to a tiny bite of a crispy crunch bar. (face and eye swelled up)
My caregiver and I are going to sit down so that I can go over with her how she handles utensils, countertops etc.
I am considering giving in and just being very clear about how she handles the pb.....but I feel like maybe I am letting my daughter down by doing this.
I cannot find another provider until June. I could take sick leave for anxiety, but that would only get me a month or so....I don't know.

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:41am
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My home daycare provider still has peanut butter in her house but she does not allow anyone to eat it or eat penaut products when the kids are there, she even has a sign on the door during the day. The kids have a seperate table they eat at in there play room area to there is no cross contamination from her kitchen. I feel very comfortable with this situation, but you need to go with your gut feeling and do what makes you feel comfortable.

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:53am
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If you were asking me I would say it depends on how comfortable you feel with her. This site can only give you ideas and recomendations that you may not think of, but the bottom line is its your decision.....to me it sounds like she does care and is open to education on how to keep it safe without full removal. That sounds pretty good to me. I honestly dont think its much different than finding a "peanut free" daycare. My daughter goes to one, but in the reality of it there are over 50 kids in that daycare that are probably dirty and eat a lot of PB, or just carry a lot of PB "germs"......my point is its kind of an odds game so to speak, and I would bet the odds lie with a small home daycare that is willing to discuss the saftey and your concerns.
Of course it still all depends on how comfortable they make you feel.
With all this said, I really do trust my daughters big daycare, but I know there are no guarrantees with what the kids bring in....(I think I just talked in a big circle)
Tim

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:59am
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Well, that's exatly it. Since there are only 5 kids there, including mine, I figure the risk of contact from them is a lot lower than a highly populated daycare.
I am wondering if, because I am new to this diagnosis, I am overeacting to the "dreaded pb". It does freak me out right now. I don't want her anywhere near a jar of it.

Posted on: Tue, 03/07/2006 - 11:23am
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Are her teenage children around when your child is there? How old is your child? Do they eat at the same place as the daycare kids. How is she handling the PB, the utensils used, the jelly jar, the plates, etc...? It would take alot more info for me to know. I would not be happy about it. I would worry they fix it for themselves and then maybe have contact with the little kids being cared for in the home. And the rsidue in the eating spaces. i would hope not the toys as if the kids were having it, but... it is a worry. becca

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:30am
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Okay, to clarify.....
I have always trusted this woman with my children's care. She says that she is being very careful. The teenagers are at school all day, but I think they eat it for breakfast. The 13 year old plays with the kids all the time after school.
My dd is four and she is just learning about it. She knows she's allergic to peanuts, but she has never even seen a peanut (or eaten pb). She had a reaction to a tiny bite of a crispy crunch bar. (face and eye swelled up)
My caregiver and I are going to sit down so that I can go over with her how she handles utensils, countertops etc.
I am considering giving in and just being very clear about how she handles the pb.....but I feel like maybe I am letting my daughter down by doing this.
I cannot find another provider until June. I could take sick leave for anxiety, but that would only get me a month or so....I don't know.

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:41am
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Joined: 02/27/2006 - 09:00

My home daycare provider still has peanut butter in her house but she does not allow anyone to eat it or eat penaut products when the kids are there, she even has a sign on the door during the day. The kids have a seperate table they eat at in there play room area to there is no cross contamination from her kitchen. I feel very comfortable with this situation, but you need to go with your gut feeling and do what makes you feel comfortable.

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:53am
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Joined: 02/14/2006 - 09:00

If you were asking me I would say it depends on how comfortable you feel with her. This site can only give you ideas and recomendations that you may not think of, but the bottom line is its your decision.....to me it sounds like she does care and is open to education on how to keep it safe without full removal. That sounds pretty good to me. I honestly dont think its much different than finding a "peanut free" daycare. My daughter goes to one, but in the reality of it there are over 50 kids in that daycare that are probably dirty and eat a lot of PB, or just carry a lot of PB "germs"......my point is its kind of an odds game so to speak, and I would bet the odds lie with a small home daycare that is willing to discuss the saftey and your concerns.
Of course it still all depends on how comfortable they make you feel.
With all this said, I really do trust my daughters big daycare, but I know there are no guarrantees with what the kids bring in....(I think I just talked in a big circle)
Tim

Posted on: Wed, 03/08/2006 - 3:59am
Ange's picture
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Joined: 02/06/2006 - 09:00

Well, that's exatly it. Since there are only 5 kids there, including mine, I figure the risk of contact from them is a lot lower than a highly populated daycare.
I am wondering if, because I am new to this diagnosis, I am overeacting to the "dreaded pb". It does freak me out right now. I don't want her anywhere near a jar of it.

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