Should I have soadk something

Posted on: Sun, 03/14/2004 - 6:39am
esmom's picture
Offline
Joined: 07/25/2001 - 09:00

We went to a bithday party for my DD's preschool friend and it was at a bowling alley. It said "cake and ice cream" so I called and the cake was homemade but I brought my own for my DD. WELL we get to the party and all sorts of snacks are out
bagels with the dreaded PEANUTBUTTER. So I kept an eye out none of the kids touch it. We started to bowl and the only kid eating the
PB is next to us bowling( it was getting all over the balls). So i made up an storie and we left ( and went to the toy store)_ Should I have said something my DD does not like to stick out! What would ou guys have done?????

[This message has been edited by esmom (edited March 14, 2004).]

Posted on: Sun, 03/14/2004 - 7:51am
MommaBear's picture
Offline
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by esmom:
[b] We went to a bithday party for my DD's preschool friend and it was at a bowling alley. It said "cake and ice cream" so I called and the cake was homemade but I brought my own for my DD.WELL we get to the party and all sorts of snacks are out
bagels with the dreaded PEANUTBUTTER. [/b]
Peanut Butter and Bagels at a [i]birthday party[/i]? A birthday party at a [i]bowling alley[/i]??

Posted on: Sun, 03/14/2004 - 10:44pm
Sandra Y's picture
Offline
Joined: 08/22/2000 - 09:00

esmom,
I think I probably would have done what you did. When my son was little and first started going to birthday parties I would tell the parent about the PA ahead of time--I always said I didn't want them to alter their plans, but I just wanted to know what food would be served so I could plan ahead.
But in your case, where you show up and there's peanut butter around, and kids are eating it & it's probably on the bowling balls, etc., the damage has been done. I probably would have left, too. I wouldn't have said anything either, since it's too late to fix it and any comment might come across as a complaint.
Actually, I'm glad we're getting past the birthday party stage. I never liked them, even apart from the PA, and with the PA they're usually more trouble than they're worth. My kids were in large classes and always got way too many invitations--I would pick and choose which ones we'd go to, and try to go to the ones that seemed less likely to cause problems with PA. I tried to avoid the bowling alley parties because of all the vending machines and the smoking.

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 12:29am
MommaBear's picture
Offline
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by esmom:
[b]PB is next to us bowling( it was getting all over the balls). So i made up an storie and we left ( and went to the toy store)_ [/b]
Yup.
(fill in the blank): "Would you rather go to the [i]toy store[/i] or _____________."
[i]My secret weapon[/i].

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 12:36am
MommaBear's picture
Offline
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by Sandra Y:
[b]
Actually, I'm glad we're getting past the birthday party stage. I never liked them, even apart from the PA, and with the PA they're usually more trouble than they're worth. [/b]
Have I ever mentioned the possibility that "birthday parties" are [i]highly over-rated[/i]? [img]http://uumor.pair.com/nutalle2/peanutallergy/wink.gif[/img]
This year, we plan to take our cubs on a "getaway" they plan and the sky is the limit. We've notified them in advance so they can preplan and gather ideas. Just when hubby and I think we have our cubs figured out.......... they really [i]impress[/i] us. They seem to be collaberating on this one.

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 1:44am
esmom's picture
Offline
Joined: 07/25/2001 - 09:00

Thanks for your input, I think I did OK!
P.s Looking at my post I can spell, goodness! I was having a glass of wine and did not mention that on the way home from the toy store. We stoped at my moms and my DD shut herself in a closet and knob came off! What a day, but no reactions! and all is well (we got her out in 2 seconds!!)

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 1:48am
jtolpin's picture
Offline
Joined: 05/28/2003 - 09:00

Theres no other option at that point, BUT to leave.
If it was us, we'd leave to. PB wouldve gotten all over the balls, you bet.
Sara/Caitlin have gone to parties before, have gone bowling (candlepin, in Mass.), but neither at the same time...
How to tell the child that you have to leave because.... must be a tough thing. Havent done it yet...
Besides:
1) Who puts PB on bagels.
2) Maybe they should have mentioned this fact.
3) To me, cake and icecream means just that... Were the parents aware of YOUR situation?
Jason

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 2:14am
MommaBear's picture
Offline
Joined: 09/23/2002 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by jtolpin:
[b]1) Who puts PB on bagels.
[/b]
ido ido ido. (One of the reasons I pick up "day shifts".) Those little individual serving containers of PB served during breakfast. [i]I have begun to fantasize about the "crunchy" variety.[/i]
edit to add: i am not allergic to peanuts.
[This message has been edited by MommaBear (edited March 15, 2004).]

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 2:42am
AJSMAMA's picture
Offline
Joined: 06/12/2002 - 09:00

I too used to eat pb on bagels and toast. I have now switched to soy butter for the same delicious effect. You should try it - yummy.
I would have never served it at a b-day party though. I think you did the only thing you could have. Thank heavens for bribes!

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 2:42am
jtolpin's picture
Offline
Joined: 05/28/2003 - 09:00

IF I even mentioned putting PB on a bagel to my JM, shed think Im meshugana. Even now, if Sara puts butter on a bagel (when we're out of CC), she thinks that...
Jason

Posted on: Mon, 03/15/2004 - 2:58am
ElleMo's picture
Offline
Joined: 06/19/2003 - 09:00

Quote:Originally posted by MommaBear:
[b] Peanut Butter and Bagels at a [i]birthday party[/i]? A birthday party at a [i]bowling alley[/i]??
[/b]
PB on bagels are pretty yummy & kids love them; I used to eat it often myself before my daughter's allergy. & bowling alleys are a big place to have parties. It gives the kids something fun to do.
As for the initial email; no, I wouldn't have said anything either. If prodded, I would explain why I had to leave, in a 'sad' way ("I wish we didn't have to leave but unfortunately my child is severaly allergic . . .")rather than an 'upset' way ("we just can't stay here there is peanut butter . . .)
In the future, I can only suggest be more specific with your questions; When a party is held outside the home, it might be wise to call the place hosting the pary & ask them directly. The parents might not have paid attention to what was on the menu & didn't notice that PB was to be served.

Pages

Forum

Click on one of the categories below to see all forum topics.

Peanut Free Store

More Articles

Cookies are one of life’s little indulgences. And just because you have an allergy or sensitivity to eggs shouldn’t mean that you sit on the...

Soymilk is one of the most popular alternatives to cow’s milk. As well as being rich in fiber, soy is a great source of protein and contains all...

Whether you have a child with a peanut allergy or you are sensitive to packing a nut-free lunch out of concern for other people’s children, it is...

Peanut oil is an inexpensive, healthful and inoffensive way to cook—unless you have a peanut allergy!

Light peanut oil is popular as a...

Olive oil has many benefits and surprisingly few side effects. It is derived from the olive and is popular with people around the world. The...