Hello, I am new to this board. I am a parent of a nut allergic six year old girl. I failed her this year by sending her to an unsafe school. I did not do enough to protect her or educate the school and my reaction caused more harm.
My daughter attends a small private school without a nutrition policy. Food allergic children are not separated at lunch time or cooking class (which regularly includes peanut butter). Parents and teachers bring in treats for birthdays and parties. One parent brings cookies and brownies daily. My daughter had one mild allergic reaction at school this year. She ate a "bar" containing seeds. She was wheezing when I picked her up from school. I discussed my concerns with the teacher and the administration. Nothing happened. I wrote a letter denying the school permission to give my daughter food. It was ignored. In fact, the offending parent and teacher upped the ante and brought in even more candy and treats behind my back. Also, I have been labeled the "difficult parent" and recognized subtle retaliation from the teacher to my daughter. The principal, to his credit, has formulated a nutrition policy for next year, but it does not include guidelines for food allergies.
So, what do I do next? Switch to public school where she will be legally protected? Ask the doctor to write the school a letter? I welcome any advice. Thank you so much in advance.
On Jun 4, 2008
I went through this myself with my daughter's former school (also a small private school). We finally decided to start homeschooling her this year (4th grade), and I can't even express the positive difference that this has made in all of our lives. Our daughter is much safer and our stress level has decreased tremendously. I realize that this may not be a possibility for you, but if it is, I encourage you to consider it. Homeschooling has been a wonderful solution for us.
On Jun 4, 2008
I think that if the private school that your daughter was at this year gets [i]any[/i] govt. funding you can request a 504.
I was surprised to find out that the private school my son went to for Kindergarten recieved funding for lunches.
On Jun 4, 2008
does your child have life threatening food allergies? Breathing trouble in response to ingesting an allergen is potentially life-threatening and should be treated by epi pen. do you have an allergist? Do you have an emergency plan? Do you have epi pens? do you know when to use them? Does the school have all this and know all this?
If your child can die from eating these foods and the school is feeding her anyway get her out of there now! Send her to public school or home school or talk to your state's Office of Civil Rights so you can get a 504 at the private school if they receive any federal money, even just for their lunch program. Do not let your child go there anymore with things the way they are!
I'm very sorry she is in that situation. You do have some control. You can try to change things, you can educate them, etc but don't send her into an unsafe situation. Check out info here and at this other board...
You can fix this!
On Jun 5, 2008
Thank you for your help. My daughter does have an emergency plan and epi pen. The teachers are trained (yikes!). I will research 504 plans. The other school thread is very helpful. Thank you.